Where does the fear of mistakes and failures come from? From childhood. It was in childhood that we were taught that a mistake is very bad, that it is something terrible and irreparable, and many of us were ridiculed more than once even for minor mistakes. Fear of failure is the fear of being rejected, the fear of being alone in the face of danger, the fear of death.

What else could cause the emergence and development of fear that we won’t succeed?

Usually this is a continuation of our parents’ excessive demands on us. As a result, we see everything only in black or only in white, and do not recognize any intermediate shades. Either a genius or a loser - there is no middle ground. To be a genius is to be on the crest of a wave. Failure is tantamount to death. Sink or swim. Total extremes. But it is simply impossible to live on the rise all the time, at the limit of strength. We are not action heroes, and if we set ourselves such a pace, sooner or later we will break.

Exit: accept your imperfections and allow yourself to make mistakes.

2. Underestimating your capabilities

This may be a consequence of inadequate self-esteem, formed in our childhood, when we blindly believe the opinions of our parents and other significant adults about us. Why do children develop low self-esteem? This is a consequence of both insufficient parental care and overprotection. Overprotection is perhaps even more dangerous, because as a result we develop so-called learned helplessness. Learned helplessness is when we are used to having everything done for us, either trying not to strain us, or not trusting us. As a result, we don’t learn, don’t get age-appropriate experience, and are generally afraid to do anything out of fear of doing something bad or not knowing how to approach a task. Learned helplessness can be formed in another way. For example, when negative feedback, or, in other words, unconstructive criticism, significantly exceeds positive feedback, when our actions are approved and we are praised. In this case, we are sure in advance that even now we will not succeed, no matter how hard we try, since the previous 999 times all our efforts went to waste. And as a result, we give up and stop making any attempts to improve our own condition.

Exit only one: do, do and do. Trying, making mistakes and starting over - until it works. And constantly analyze: what turned out the way we wanted, and no modification is needed; what didn’t turn out quite well and requires adjustment (be sure to immediately think about which one); which turned out very badly. In the latter case, a thorough analysis is required: what exactly our decisions and actions led us to the wrong place, what we should change in these thoughts and actions, what we should learn and what we should do in order to get the result we are counting on. And one more very important point: all emotions need to be turned off for this period so that they do not distract or lead astray, especially since there will definitely be people who will judge us, laugh at us or devalue our work. The turn of emotions and reactions to the actions of others will come later, when the job is done. Then it will be possible to rejoice, and grieve, and everything else. Until the job is done, all you have to do is leave logical thinking: what works and why, what doesn’t work and why, what to do then to change it. The only exception: if we suddenly hear constructive criticism that can help us get closer to our goal, then we react to it and actively use it in our own interests. Our task is to focus as much as possible on what brings us closer to the desired goal, and ignore or brush aside everything that interferes with this.

3. Exaggerating the difficulty of the task

Fear, as they say, has big eyes. The cure for this is drawing up a detailed plan to achieve the goal. That goal, which at first seems so huge and unattainable to us that we immediately lose heart and give up, suddenly becomes quite visible and feasible when we break the movement towards it into small steps. Steps that we are definitely able to take, often without even putting in much effort. The main thing is to think through the route properly. For example, conquering Everest seems absolutely impossible, but climbing the mountain 100 or at least 50 meters seems quite possible.

Exit: backward planning method. We set ourselves the ultimate goal that we want to achieve in the future, and then we move from the desired future to the actual present, all the time asking ourselves the question: “What do I need to do to get this?” Let's take the example of conquering Everest, because in a sense, any of our goals is Everest, which we want to conquer. What do you need to do to conquer Everest? You need to gain experience climbing to lower altitudes. What do you need to do to gain experience climbing to lower altitudes? You need to become more resilient and acquire the necessary equipment. What do you need to do to become more resilient? You need to sign up for a club that trains future climbers and do your physical training there. What do you need to do to purchase equipment? Get information about what exactly you need, find the right store and make a purchase. Now we have already come from the top of Everest to the present and we can make the first real steps- sign up for the club and find out what equipment a novice climber needs.

4. Self-intimidation

We are masters at intimidating ourselves; we imagine horrors that will happen not only if we fail, but also if we make the slightest mistake.

Exit: First, let’s ask ourselves the question: “What’s the worst thing that could happen to us if this happens?” And secondly, we will use the amplification method (translated from Latin - “expansion, strengthening, enrichment”). That is, let’s give free rein to our imagination and come up with nightmarish and tragic scenarios. It is necessary to bring a frightening situation to the point of absurdity. You can create many horror stories and even have a competition for the scariest one. This is how we will live through all these fears and let them pass through ourselves. And at the same time, in the process of writing and living, we will feel that not even a billionth part of what we have imagined and what we so diligently intimidated ourselves with will not happen to us.

Three exercises to overcome your fear of failure

1. Change your attitude towards mistakes

Eat effective method safely survive the disappointments and defeats that await us on the way to our goal. How do we perceive the mistakes we have made? Usually as a catastrophe on a universal scale, as something that no one can ever, under any circumstances, fix. But if we change the point of view on our mistakes and begin to perceive them simply as information that we have found the wrong solution, if we perceive our mistakes as a way of gaining life experience, then there will simply be nothing to be upset about. There is no catastrophe or tragedy, there is simply feedback, there is simply information that we have taken the wrong path and we need to choose another. Perhaps one of the brightest and famous examples This kind of thinking is Thomas Edison, who, before inventing the light bulb, conducted 10 thousand unsuccessful experiments. It was he who said: “I have never failed. I just found 10 thousand ways that don’t work.”

2. Replace words

When thinking about the future, replace the word “but” with the words “even if.” For example, you usually think like this: “I want to become a brilliant speaker and have confidence in public, but I’m afraid that everyone will laugh at me at first.” Change the negative wording to a positive attitude: “I will become a brilliant speaker and will be confident in public, even if everyone laughs at me at first.” Such a seemingly trifle - replacing one word with another, but what an effect, what an effect! We immediately feel how our shoulders straighten and our back straightens, how our breathing becomes smoother and deeper, and our gait becomes firm and confident. We grow in our own eyes and begin to treat ourselves with respect. Then the people around us begin to treat us with respect. So it turns out that by changing one word for another, we actually change our own lives.

3. Stop avoiding

If we are afraid of something (for example, failure in a new business), then we often begin to avoid it - something that may be unpleasant or cause pain. Avoidance becomes our way of protecting ourselves from failure. The trouble is that the area of ​​avoidance will expand indefinitely, until we become afraid of absolutely everything. Life will turn into continuous restrictions, and can it even be called life? Therefore, it is worth thinking not in the style of “What will we lose if we don’t?”, but in the style of “What will we gain if we do?”. In other words, it is worth replacing movement from something (that is, avoiding something) with movement towards something.

Summary

The fear of making a mistake is based on the fear of death, inflated demands on oneself, underestimating one’s capabilities (due to over- or under-protection), exaggerating the complexity of a task, inability to competently plan to achieve one’s goals, and self-intimidation.

The following exercises will help you cope with the fear of failure.

1. When doing something, don’t give up at the first failure and don’t give up what you started. Redo it if it didn’t work out right away, or do it somehow differently. The main thing is to do, do and do. Trying, making mistakes and starting over. Until it works.

2. If the task before you is complex, draw up detailed plan of your actions. Well, or use the reverse planning technique.

3. If you are used to intimidating yourself when something starts to go wrong, then ask yourself the question: “What is the worst thing that could happen if this happens?” Use the method of amplification, that is, exaggeration, and bring the situation that frightens you to the point of absurdity. Then she will stop scaring you.

4. If you perceive any of your mistakes as a catastrophe on a universal scale, repeat to yourself the following every time: “There is no tragedy or catastrophe in the fact that I was mistaken. There is only feedback, information that I took the wrong path and I need to choose another.”

5. Replace the word “but” in your thoughts with the words “even if.”

6. Replace “from” thinking with “to” thinking. Or, in other words, instead of asking, “What won’t I lose if I don’t do this?” Ask yourself mentally the question “What will I gain if I do this?”

The exercises can be performed in any order - depending on the situation and your mood.

From the editor

What to do if you are afraid... of success? Have there been situations in your life when, a couple of steps before the result, something happened to you (“as if they were jinxed”) and in the end you achieved nothing? Or did you do something unnecessary instead of necessary actions? Or were you stupidly surfing the Internet instead of working? Or did you make serious mistakes, were rude to your boss, or fell ill at a crucial moment? Or they thought in advance: “I won’t succeed anyway!” - and haven’t even started to realize your dream? Or did you “quit the game”, losing interest, at the very first achievements?

Ludwig Wittgenstein

What do you think can hinder the fear of making wrong decisions? The answer may shock you: most people don't succeed because they have this fear. Still wondering if this article is worth reading?

Every morning we wake up and face new challenges. This is how everything works, and this is how it happens throughout life. Even if you are not always ready to accept these challenges, fate will put them on your shoulders and, in the end, you will have to accept them. And you will have to make decisions, which is not always easy for everyone.

Many people face one serious problem - fear of change, fear of making wrong decisions and making their own point of view. This instinctive fear can ruin our lives; it distorts our view of ourselves and the people around us. Be that as it may, fear is just a programmed emotion that arises automatically in response to potential danger - sometimes imaginary and rarely justified. During an attack of fear, various chemical reactions occur in our body - the release of adrenaline and the stress hormone - cortisol - into the blood. And the stronger the fear, the more pronounced the reaction.

Simply put, fear can be divided into two types: healthy and unhealthy fear. For example, fear of spiders, fear of large crowds of people, fear of failure - all this is an unhealthy, unreasonable fear. This fear is counterproductive, it causes us stress, prevents us from acting, and disrupts the normal flow of things. On the other hand, when we are afraid of smoking or drinking too much because it may harm our health, this is a healthy fear. Healthy fear, as opposed to unhealthy fear, motivates us to make better decisions and better organize our lives.

Unfortunately, many of us are faced with unhealthy fears. It is precisely because of these fears that we limit ourselves in achieving high altitudes in life. It is unhealthy fear that is the cause of most unfulfilled desires and unfulfilled ideas.

As mentioned above, fear arises as a result of an instinctive reaction to potential danger. In order to stop being afraid of something unreasonable, we must begin to analyze and manage the potential danger.

1. Look beyond the danger. When faced with potential danger, we begin to panic, which in turn causes us to accept right decisions or run away from responsibility. Often we don’t even think that the fear we experience is this moment not justified by anything. We begin to build mental images in our heads of a negative outcome of the situation, and this prevents us from making the right decisions. To avoid this: take a deep breath and think about everyone possible consequences and the involvement of these consequences. Most likely, everything is not as bad as we thought at the beginning.

2. Positive attitude. We have enough strength to cope with any problems, and nothing can stop us. Try to have a positive attitude towards any situation. Look at it from all sides, especially from positive side. Of course, no one is asking you to look for something good in a very deplorable situation. But in everyday problems, try to be more optimistic.

3. Expand your comfort zone. There are three important zones for us: the comfort zone, the learning zone and the panic zone. All this can be represented in the form of circles. The center circle will represent the comfort zone, the middle circle will be the exploration zone, and the third outer circle will represent the panic zone. Scientists have proven that the edge of our comfort zone is best place for learning and growth. As long as we are “inside”, everything is fine, but when faced with a completely unfamiliar situation, we begin to panic. We must learn to behave correctly in a new situation, and learn to make decisions without fear, even if they are not the right decisions. With practice and training, over time you will expand your comfort zone.

4. If you want to refuse, take a step forward. Let fear and doubts torment you, let your inner critic scream at the top of your lungs, preventing you from making decisions, no matter what, take a step forward. By doing this, you will expand your boundaries, making uncomfortable situations comfortable. You never know if you will succeed if you don't try. Therefore, be bolder and make mistakes, make decisions, become stronger.

5. Don't avoid or put off tasks and activities. Often people put off or delay solving certain tasks only because they are afraid of the outcome. But why put it off, because you will have to do it anyway, then it won’t get easier, you will only complicate the situation. Pressure and tension increase over time, so stop putting off or avoiding tasks and start doing everything on time. This will help you feel more confident.

6. Don't be afraid of competition. We are just competitors, just like everyone else. But we shouldn't give up simply because we're scared. Remember, just because you can't read the fear on your competitors' faces doesn't mean they aren't afraid. The most important rule of winning is participation. Also, stop looking up to others, look up to yourself. Compare only your present self with your past self.

7. Strengthen your will with religious beliefs. Faith will strengthen your spirit, and you will make decisions more easily in new situations.

8. Get enough sleep. Typically, coping with stress that arises in situations unknown to you can be much more difficult when you don't get enough sleep. Your body requires healthy rest and if you haven't gotten enough sleep for too long, you'll be faced with another problem that can make the situation worse: fatigue. Good sleep will allow you to be more refreshed when making important decisions.

Stop being afraid of making the wrong decisions, you never know if it's actually the right one, and if you don't try, what will come of it? Are you looking forward to new opportunities? Was it worth it then to miss the previous opportunity without even trying to grab it? Be brave, and good luck to you!

The fear of doing something wrong, the fear of making mistakes is familiar to almost every person. This is how the individual protected himself from a potential threat. Today, the phobia of failure acts as an obstacle to achieving your goals. You constantly have to learn to fight fear, because without this it is impossible to achieve success.

What is fear of making a mistake?

Fear of error keeps a person from doing things that could radically change his life. More often than not, moving forward, even if something was done wrong, brings a positive effect in the long run. There is no need to regret what you have done, it is important to constantly move forward, because this way you can miss opportunities.

It's normal to be afraid of making a mistake. All people go through experiences. When a child is born, he does not yet know how to walk; in order to learn this, he needs to fall more than once. You can't learn to swim without a life jacket. You just need to learn to cope with your fears.

Fear of making mistakes sits deep in human consciousness. This is a reaction to a potential threat. What matters is how the individual himself perceives the situation. The mechanisms were formed several thousand years ago. At that time, a person had to defend himself from real threats; he constantly thought about his safety; a mistake could cost him his life.

To solve a problem, a person has to leave his comfort zone. Constant presence in stressful situations becomes an obstacle to development. The subconscious cannot independently assess imaginary and real risks, so rational arguments must be taken into account.

To leave the comfort zone, the individual overcomes neurophysiological mechanisms. If you stay within such a zone, a feeling of security is guaranteed. As soon as a person tries to develop outside the framework of such a system, signals of fear are immediately turned on, which is not always justified. Consciousness runs away from the unfamiliar and unknown; it acquired such experience in the evolutionary process.

The fear of making a mistake protected a person from death. So he felt a real physical threat. Today, danger is felt only at a level that means that the individual strives to maintain his emotional security. Nevertheless, such mechanisms paralyze actions and prevent personality development.

The Nature of Fear

There is no point in fighting your fear. You just need to figure out the cause of the phobia, and then learn to overcome it. The fear of making a mistake is primarily a lack of self-confidence. A person is afraid to look ridiculous in the eyes of others; he does not fully feel his strength. It turns out that such fear is just an illusion that can be easily destroyed with the help of rational arguments.

The fear of doing something difficult is easily overcome.

There are several effective ways to help combat phobias.

1. All people make mistakes. You just need to realize that there may be ups and downs along the way. It is impossible to imagine life without this. You should not avoid wrong actions; sometimes they lead to a positive result in a strategy. Happens. that mistakes are made deliberately in order to gain a certain experience and get through it as quickly as possible. Sometimes certain circumstances arise that a person cannot influence; it is important to simply go through them and draw conclusions.
2. Perfect people do not exist; they are not born with ideals. Even the most confident individuals can make mistakes, this is normal and natural.
3. Mistakes are experiences through which a person moves forward. Bad experiences can be much more rewarding than the most positive moments in life. Thanks to mistakes, an individual learns caution, he constantly weighs every step, and learns to accept defeat.
4. Forewarned is forearmed. There are no wrong actions, only poorly calculated actions. you need to prepare for the worst case scenario, but at the same time set yourself up for the positive.
5. If an individual constantly makes mistakes, then at some point this becomes a habit, and is perceived by consciousness as a normal phenomenon.
6. Failure stimulates growth. Any action helps development. You should not pay attention to those who constantly point out shortcomings or laugh at erroneous actions. People who are confident in themselves perceive failure as a natural process.

The fear of doing something wrong is not fatal. You can easily overcome such a phobia. It is important to constantly work on yourself, to realize the illusory nature of fear, and to perceive failures and losses as simply as possible.

Fear of making mistakes: how to overcome

If the above points did not help, then there are a few more effective ways How to overcome the fear of making a mistake. It is important not to get hung up on them, but to give rational arguments to your mind:

1. Sometimes you just need to change your perspective on the situation. You should not perceive a mistake as something fatal or irreparable. The real failure is when a person does not learn from his wrong actions. We must remember that every refusal brings us closer to completing the transaction; every new failure means that success will soon appear on the horizon.
2. Psychologists recommend searching true reasons fear of making mistakes. Some individuals are frightened by situations where there is room for risks, which may be completely justified. A certain category of people are worried about the new, the unknown. There is no need to visualize the worst case scenario and desperately strive to do everything perfectly. Sometimes it's enough to just let things go. For example, before starting a business, you need to carefully think through the strategy, calculate all the risks, and then move according to the plan. Otherwise, nothing will work out; progress on the path to success will be stopped.
3. Every time, experts advise you to counter the fear of mistakes with your confidence. Admitting responsibility is already half the way to success. Those who believe in themselves receive support from the universe. TO confident person Other people willingly join the team, they support him and contribute to his success. The necessary events begin to happen on their own, circumstances develop properly, and opportunities appear.
4. There is no need to stop halfway, even if you fail. Constant movement brings results, even if not immediately. It happens that a task seems too difficult, a person begins to get hung up on its solution. In this case, it is worth concentrating on the future, on the point where the individual has already achieved success.
5. It's better to ignore fear. He blocks the path to the goal. Those who play sports are especially aware of this. There are no peaks that cannot be conquered. Athletes are helped by visualizing a jump and lifting weights. You need to imagine how this happens, it is advisable to look at the details, imagine yourself as the main character, your victory, glory. It is quite normal for a person to be afraid of certain things. It is important to look at the phobia differently and not let it develop.

Successful people constantly challenge themselves

This is how they overcome the fear of making mistakes. Such individuals are ready that something might go wrong. This is natural and normal, this is the way the world works. A person is here to learn and improve himself.

A person gains experience once and for all; it constantly helps him in life. Skills and abilities are not dissolved anywhere, they are used to achieve every new goal. It is important to sensibly assess your strengths and understand how to organize your actions in order to achieve the intended results. You need to constantly train your body and mind. This is where studying helps. foreign languages, playing sports, leisure, travel, communication with new people. Some people do not focus on just one area of ​​activity; all their lives they learn new professions, improve themselves, and at the same time are always open to mistakes.

If achievement high peaks If you can’t do it yet, you can try to set smaller goals. Psychologists recommend recording each achievement of a given task, and in case of failures, returning to the idea that with effort and skill, everything can work out.

Fear of error is not justified

The worst thing is if a person does not develop. and from year to year he walks along an already trodden path.

All people can be afraid, that's normal. The most common misconception is that successful people did not make any mistakes. Their success came solely through hard work, constant practice and making the right decisions. They are not fearless. It is this myth that underlies the fear of making a mistake.

Brave people also have their fears. They challenge themselves and strive to overcome it as quickly as possible. Fear of something is part of a person, without it it is impossible to imagine harmonious life. It would be boring and uninteresting if everything went smoothly. Therefore, failure should be perceived as another adventure.

Brave people are those who have dealt with their fears; they are no longer afraid of anything.

Most fears are imposed on a person by public opinion. All people are interconnected. We have to live in society. It is he who creates the fear of error.

Opinions will always be divided. There is no one right solution. Each member of society has his own thoughts and views on life. Where does the fear of taking the wrong step come from? Why shouldn't you avoid failure? Just because it's part life cycle. We must strive to live consciously, even if something goes wrong. Mistakes do not deserve as much attention and importance as the person himself gives them. It is worth understanding that failures happen, no one is immune from this.

It happens that an individual is convinced that a mistake is fatal. This is usually done deliberately in order to quickly get ahead of the opponent in a competitive environment. Sometimes they humiliate other people in this way, driving them into certain limits. Each person has the right to determine how to relate to their erroneous actions. Everyone has freedom of opinion and choice. An individual can believe in what society imposes on him, or he can adhere to his own beliefs. It depends on this whether fears will be fully realized, whether they will be fatal, or whether it is a small, correctable mistake.

Setting big goals and creating a dream is another step towards success

If a person really wants something, then he always acts, and does not wait for everything to happen on its own. You need to be prepared for the fact that many things do not come without certain difficulties and problems, fear and laziness. To be afraid of mistakes is to stand still. Only those who take action achieve success.

Please note that fear cannot go away on its own, but at the same time, there is no need to fight it. This way it unwinds even more and gains strength. It’s worth letting go of the situation and moving on.

Another working trick is to do something that causes fear. You need to learn to look your phobia in the eye. Admitting a mistake is actually solving it. Experts advise writing down all your fears on paper, and then re-reading them and answering the question of how you can overcome them, giving rational arguments.

When fear is overwhelming, the technique of burning bridges can help. Psychologists recommend not giving yourself the opportunity to rewind events and turn away from the intended path. Luck favors those who walk.

There is no need to waste your life on fears, it is better to act and achieve success here and now. It is important to direct your efforts and intention towards results, not fears. The poor focus on failure, while the rich focus on success. The road is covered by those walking. Problems are not worth wasting your precious time on. You need to live, rejoice and act. This way the path will become brighter and happier.

Quite often I see children at reception who get upset when they make mistakes; are very worried about educational failures; they cry over a C or a B. U junior schoolchildren mistakes can lead to inhibition of the thinking process.

Dictations and tests are a serious test for such children. They start to worry in advance; they have a headache, a stomach ache.

Such children set high standards for themselves and are upset if their results are lower than desired. At the same time, they do not envy others, but simply want success themselves (in the classroom, in the Olympiad, sports game) and try very, very hard.

Trying not to make mistakes, they are in constant tension and therefore get tired faster than other peers. It is more difficult for such children to learn because strong stress often reduces their attention, and they make mistakes not out of inattention, but out of fear of making mistakes. Sometimes a child transfers the fear of making a mistake in class to other areas of life that are significant to him, for example, he refuses to be the captain of a team in any competition or to perform on stage for fear of imperfection...

The most amazing thing is that such children are brought up only in very good families, parents give them a lot of effort and attention. The parents themselves are well educated and socially successful, so they not only want, but also know how to raise and raise children.

In such families, children love their parents very much, are proud of them, and want to be like them. They see their parents as already established and successful individuals. The path they overcame to achieve success is not familiar to children and is not filled with emotional meaning. Therefore, any comparison of oneself with today’s parents is not in favor of the children. They feel like they are not successful enough. The mistakes they have made confirm this, pointing out to them their worthlessness, that they are unworthy of the love of such wonderful parents...

As a rule, most parents do not scold or punish their children for mistakes, but they scold and punish themselves. Remember: the closer the relationship between the child and the parents, the more time they spend together, the stronger child he is afraid to upset them, and every small mistake he makes turns into a huge mistake for him. And if the child is also internally delicate, emotional, impressionable, then worries about a mistake greatly interfere with his life.

I would like to recommend to parents of children who are afraid of making mistakes:

• Artificially create situations in which they will look imperfect and demonstrate this to the child. Having seen the parents' mistakes, the child will allow himself to be what he is.
• It is important to learn how to respond correctly to children's mistakes. You should not say: “It’s okay, don’t worry,” because the child will hear the opposite: “It’s scary, worry.” It is more effective to use positive vocabulary, excluding the particle “not”, for example: “Everything is fine”, “be calm”, “later you will do the right thing”, etc. If a child is very worried about a mistake, you need to find a way to praise him for something else: “You made a mistake, but you wrote beautifully, it’s clear how hard you tried.”
• You need to teach your child to look for reasons for making mistakes, for example: “A mistake can happen because you mixed up right and left, think for yourself.”
• The learning impact of mistakes must be recognized. It makes sense to raise their teaching role to the level of life philosophy, so as not to simply be upset about any mistake made in life, but to comprehend them and gain experience that encourages self-change, repeating the words: “He who does nothing makes no mistakes,” “Success.” makes you happy, but a mistake teaches you,” “A smart person does not strive to avoid mistakes, but to correct them,” etc.
• It is necessary to teach the child to analyze the causes of mistakes and, together with him, to recognize the experience gained.

Your children will be very successful if you take care of their fragile emotional soul!

There are many well-known expressions dedicated to the fear of mistakes. From them you can learn that it is human nature to make mistakes, and that only those who do nothing make no mistakes. However, in each specific case the reasons for this fear may be different. There are essentially only two main motives. The first of them is related to society, and the second is related to the person himself.

External causes of fears

Many people hesitate to do anything serious, not so much because they are afraid of failure, but because of the fear of social condemnation or censure. Often, such anti-motivation is a consequence of a hidden inferiority complex: a person is so dependent on public evaluation that he loses the ability to make decisions independently.

This phenomenon often occurs in cases where a child was raised by too strict parents who punished him for the slightest offenses. The result of such upbringing can be a lack of one’s own will and a paralyzing fear of condemnation and ridicule if one fails. As a rule, such people spend their entire lives struggling with an imposed inferiority complex, not always recognizing its presence.

Sometimes people tend to mask their usual laziness and reluctance to make decisions through fear of mistakes.

Fear can grow from within

Internal reasons that cause fear of defeat are most often banal responsibility and a subconscious attitude towards defeat. Basically, responsibility of any kind is avoided by people with an infantile character who do not want to accept “adult” rules. And the mindset of defeat, which significantly reduces the likelihood of success, is a consequence of a pessimistic outlook on life and a biased assessment of one’s abilities.

Naturally, a person who is confident of failure is likely to make a mistake, and several such failures in a row will lead him to the idea that it would be best to give up trying to do something in order not to experience disappointment.

Overcoming fear and learning to learn from your mistakes is an important step towards personal development.

In addition, the fear of mistakes is characteristic of perfectionists, that is, people who persistently strive for perfection in any area. They place such high demands on themselves and the results of their actions that it is impossible to achieve them accurately. As a result, perfectionists enter the game only if they are one hundred percent sure of success, and the fear of error holds them back from other actions.