There is no need to invent principles of life. Made-up principles don't work. The principles must be extracted from oneself. You already have them.

Esquire magazine has a popular column called “Rules of Life.” In it, people of varying degrees of celebrity tell how they live and what rules they follow. In a previous article, I argued that there are no truly effective and generally accepted rules of life (). However, it seems to me that there are what can be called principles of life. Many Esquire magazine celebrities actually talk about their individual principles of life not about the rules.

Let me explain the difference. I am under "rules" understand clear and unambiguous instructions. For example: never lend money to anyone, don’t have sex on the first date, don’t eat pork, donate 10% of your income to charity. These are the rules.

The principles of life are various laws that people have determined primarily empirically.

Principles of life but it is a much more general, broad and flexible thing. They represent various laws that people have determined empirically, mainly.

Laws and principles differ from rules in the main thing: generality. The rules work in specific conditions and situations. They don't explain anything, they just give specific directives. When conditions change, the rules stop working and they don’t even give any hints about what to do next. But laws and principles are broad. They allow you to develop effective strategies of behavior in different situations and conditions, even in those where there are simply no standard rules.

Note: I would like to draw your attention to one thing right away important thing. The principles must be “working”. That is, their effectiveness must be confirmed by practice. And YOUR practice! It doesn't matter how convincing the principle looks. It should work in your life situation to your advantage. Otherwise he is worthless.

All the basic principles of life can be divided into two large categories:

1. Are common
2. Individual

General principles describe natural and systemic processes that theoretically work always and for everyone.

For example:

• Creating and maintaining order in life requires effort, while chaos appears by itself and requires only inaction.
• Decisions made in a state of high emotional arousal are often not the best.
• The longer something lasts life situation, the more inertia it gains and the more strongly it affects your life.
• Development is never linear and is always accompanied by crises.

Individual principles you discover for yourself. They are a product of your experience, or rather of its rethinking, processing and verification. And that is why they are most valuable and important.

Individual principles. Why are they needed and how to formulate them?

Following other people's principles leads to sad consequences.

However, other people's principles of life can be not only inspiring, but also dangerous. Following other people's principles leads to sad consequences. They are comparable to the results of an inept transplant of someone else's organ into your body.

The principles that you were able to find and formulate yourself most strongly and positively influence our lives. These principles are the result of your life experiences and a consequence of your “karma”. Even general principles we truly perceive only when they are passed through our life experience. Then they acquire special power and meaning.

Can you formulate the principles on which your life is built? If yes, then try writing them down. Very often, surprises happen. We think that we live by one principle, but in fact we exist by another. In addition, do not confuse your outlook on life with your life principles.

Outlook on life- these are your thoughts about life. The principles of life are what you are guided by (and often this happens unconsciously) when making decisions, committing actions, and life choices.

If you cannot immediately formulate your principles of life, then try answering a few questions. I assure you that this is an exciting activity.

Ten questions that will help you understand your inner principles of life.

• In what situations and circumstances do you like yourself best and act most effectively?
• Which actions of yours usually lead to success and which ones lead to failure?
• Are there any preliminary signs for you of whether the business you started will end successfully or not? If yes, what are they?
• In which emotional state Do you most often achieve results, and in which ones do you fail?
• What repeating situations come to your mind when you think about the laws that govern your life?
• When and under what circumstances do your best thoughts come to your mind?
• What or who best motivates you to take actions and actions?
• How quickly do you make the best decisions in your life? And under what conditions?
• On what basis do you choose your friends? What qualities should they have? What do they actually have?
• What will you never do? What contradicts your life principles?

If you write down the answers to all these questions and think a little, then you will be able to see a lot in your life from an unexpected side.

As an example of how understanding the principles of your life affects its quality and the possibility of changes for the better, I will give the case of one of my clients.

Anastasia is a top manager of a large company. Here are some of her answers:

• Question:“In what situations and circumstances do you like yourself best and act most effectively?”
• Answer:“When I make a decision completely independently, based on my own understanding of the situation, and not external pressure.”

• Question:“Which actions of yours usually lead to success and which ones lead to failure?”
• Answer:“Actions that do not cause any conflicts or contradictions within me lead to success. At the moment of making a decision, I must be in a state that I would describe as “being in myself.”

• Question:“What repeating situations come to your mind when you think about the laws that govern your life?”
• Answer:“I have achieved the greatest success in cases where I followed my intuition and did not pay attention to generally accepted norms and rules. I can also note that in my life there are recurring situations of disappointment and loss, which are associated with the fact that I tried to bring my life into line with a certain generally accepted “standard”

• Question:“When and under what circumstances do your best thoughts come to your mind?”
• Answer:“When I'm not in the office. For example, walking in a beautiful park or along the shore of a pond. It’s also important to me that there aren’t a lot of people around at that moment.”

As a result simple exercise Anastasia formulated several principles of your life. Among them were the following:

1. I make the best decisions in my life on my own. This means I must organize my life in such a way as to minimize my presence in the system that imposes the “rules of the game” on me.
2. I accept effective solutions only when I am in agreement with myself. This means that if I feel an internal conflict or am under pressure, I need to prohibit myself from making any important decisions and first of all put myself in order.
3. My environment and surroundings have a huge impact on my life, success and productivity. This means that I must surround myself with space that helps me and does not hinder me.

Before completing this exercise, Anastasia clearly envisioned the further development of her life exclusively in the direction of management and, of course, in a large company. And after completing it, she thought a lot about it. After all, being inside a corporation actually contradicted its life principles. And it didn’t just contradict, it caused stress and forced me to make incorrect and unprofitable decisions.

I showed only a part of this exercise. It involves a larger number of questions and, most importantly, periodic return to them over 2-3 months. Each time, the answers to the questions become more bold, and the principles are formulated more clearly and precisely. Their final formulation is most often perceived by people as insight. Usually, my clients say that they see in the principles of their life, which emerged as a result of work, a powerful resource for bringing ideas and changes to life. This happens due to the fact that, based on individual principles, it is possible to concentrate on what comes from within and best suits you.

And finally...

There is no need to invent principles of life. Made-up principles don't work.

The principles must be extracted from oneself. You already have them.

Apr 10, 2017

The abyss is an abyss because it is inexhaustible.

The same goes for the interview with Radislav Gandapas, which I’m analyzing for the third time.

I promise that this time is the last, for God loves the trinity.

And to be honest, I’m running out of decent words and patience. For the thoughts and judgments expressed in the interview are already far beyond the scope of common sense, coming close to psychiatry.

Consider the thesis that to achieve success, the first skill you need to learn is the skill of being liked. What follows is an enchanting passage about how Mikhail Yuryevich Lermontov missed the appropriate training, as a result of which he turned out to be unsuccessful in society and showed off to the point of a duel.

Let's start with Mikhail Yuryevich...

Apr 3, 2017

“For us, success is an assessment of society,” says one latest interviews"guru" of success Radislav Gandapas.

The reference to abstract society leads us to prostitution. If our success lies in being approved by some group of people, then we will inevitably adapt to it and not care about our own “subtle impulses” and deep needs.

Salvador Dali was kicked out of the Madrid Academy of Fine Arts, Jack London's first book was rejected by publishers 600 times, teachers called Einstein mentally retarded, Steven Spielberg was not accepted into the university three times in a row, Bill Gates was expelled from Harvard University, and Anna Netrebko was expelled from the Conservatory. This was society’s assessment of the professional suitability and talent of these famous people.

Success is completely subjective and context dependent. You can consider yourself super successful. This will be your subjective opinion of yourself. But for some reason, you move to a different social context. And suddenly you find yourself a complete loser in assessing your new social environment.

Success is a value concept associated with a person’s internal ethics. In one case you will be a successful pickpocket, in another - a banker, in the third - an engineer. Social success in one group may be a crime in another and vice versa.

Mar 22, 2017

Dec 2, 2016

New Year's madness is slowly creeping to the surface of life. The most advanced and progressive part of humanity is summing up the results of the past year, planning its next year and thinking about longer horizons of development. To meet these desires of advanced people, trainings on goal setting, increasing personal effectiveness, seminars on dream collages and other techniques for managing the future with the power of intention are helpfully provided.

Jul 30, 2016

Any talent implies not only outstanding skills, but also recognition. How sad it is. Any talent needs either support or crazy self-confidence that allows you to do without any support. Do you have one, the other, or both?

Lana Korteletsi

1. Keep moving forward
2. Do not be like everyone else
3. Know how to forgive
4. Achieve your goals
5. Forget the word "LATER"
6. Become a mentor
7. Always be yourself
8. Know how to manage yourself
   
9. Live in the real world
10. Don't envy anyone!

1 . Keep moving forward

I was born in the city of Samarkand, in the Republic of Uzbekistan, my family was not rich, and birthdays and toys were not very familiar to me as a child. Therefore, I tried to stretch out the New Year's gifts, which included fruits and sweets, for as long as possible. for a long time so as not to lose the joyful feeling of the holiday. Life, of course, has not been particularly easy for me. At the age of 13, I already began to think about my own savings. During the summer school holidays I worked part-time at kindergarten, to achieve my little goals. Already with early age I tried to prove to others that they were wrong, thinking of me as a weak and defenseless person! Read in detail about my life at that time.

2. Don't be like everyone else

After graduating from college, having received an education (I was 20 years old at the time), I decided to change my life and moved to Russia (Omsk). After working in my specialty for 5 years, I realized that this was not for me, I don't want to be like everyone else ! I can’t work for someone anymore, wait at bus stops for half an hour in the cold and then “cram” into a full minibus and stand, waiting for a seat to suddenly open up...

And after that I told myself – ENOUGH!

I want to work for myself and live by my own rules!

And I created successful business — Marriage Agency!

At first it was very difficult, I could barely pay for the rent of the premises, I had about only 15 clients... And only after a year I was able to get promoted. In my life, like everyone else, I had black and white stripes. But I achieved what I wanted because I always had positive thoughts , faith that I can be successful in my business! People in my city still remember me and my agency with warmth, despite the fact that 7 years have passed since I moved to live in another country. At the agency, we found solutions to the problems of almost all of my clients. It's like coaching: a person comes, fills out a form, pays for the services, and I start working with him. After successful work with him, I receive gratitude. But it so happened that circumstances took me to another country, and I transferred my agency to good hands, because I had a large client base, and I was very sorry to leave everything to fate. It was as if my life had started from scratch again. Can you imagine what it’s like to start living from scratch when you’re already quite old, leaving a lot in the past? This new language, mentality, habits, nutrition, etc. And I decided to make such a serious change in my life for the sake of love! you can read the continuation of my life story. Remember - successful people are those who decide today!

3. Know how to forgive

It was difficult for me to get used to the new life, but I managed to cope with that too. I didn’t give up and tried to somehow get out... it wasn’t easy. This was probably a new test of the fate of my strength! I did not have personal transport, which was simply necessary for movement in my new living space, it was not easy for me to live without my own means (all my life I was used to being independent from others), but going to wash the floors was out of the question ! Remember, I wrote at the beginning that from the age of 13 I was already trying to be independent, earn my own money? I was so used to having my own earned money that immediately after moving I started looking and thinking about how I could make money using the Russian language and Italian products... Through forums I found businessmen interested in doing business with Italy. It was not easy for me, because... I was without a car, and I had to ask my loved ones to give me a ride, which was also not the best option. There were honest clients who paid for my services, but there were also freeloaders who even tried to frame me. But there is one golden rule among successful people, which I always try to adhere to. « Never hold a grudge against people, learn to forgive, and everything will work out» . In principle, I made money from this business anyway. No matter what business I tried to get involved with, I always received some kind of income, perhaps because I achieve my goals, no matter how unrealistic they may be in the opinion of others. Even, I’ll tell you honestly, on the e-bay service, I sell goods without particularly straining.

But after the birth of children, I no longer had the opportunity to continue working like this, and for 3 years I have been doing business online. At first I couldn’t believe that you could still earn money without leaving home. Now I prefer this type of activity, because I think that for both me and my family this is an ideal way to earn money. I have several good mentors, due to which I have achieved excellent results in my business. In addition, I began to feel like a fish in water! I really like doing this, and I’m sure that you also dream of having some kind of successful business where you could get excellent results.

4. Achieve your goals

This is what I want to tell you: no matter what condition you have now, good or bad, but if you decide to achieve any goal, then achieve it, get what you want. P mustache It may not be easy and it will cost you an investment, but life is worth it to become successful and get the pleasure you expect from it . Do you want to have a new nice beautiful car? So achieve this goal!

I dreamed of having a house, a car, a beloved family, children. I achieved this ! Of course, not all at once! We understand that magic button“ALL AND AT ONCE” no. We create reality ourselves! So let's realize what we dream of! Each of us has dreams, goals, and, of course, problems that need to be solved quickly.

5. Forget the word “LATER”

Don't put off your life for later! Because the word “later” will cover your dreams with dust, and you will soon no longer remember them. Therefore, you need to make a decision and act immediately, now!

Do you think that successful businessmen always succeed? That they always have money and are never haunted by failure? You are wrong, they are the same as us. Many of them started everything from scratch and they also have defeats, project failures, etc. So what? They don't stop moving halfway! Whatever difficulties there may be, we must fight them and move forward!

I try not to say the word “later” at all, because "Then" means never, or when it's too late! Therefore, try to avoid this word! Word "Then" helps us forget about our desires. You put them on the back burner and forget, then you try to remember, but the time has already passed. I advise you to replace this word with “ NOW" Then this word will worry you more, and thus you will do, or at least try to do something...

It’s not in vain that I’m writing all this to you; these are not empty words for me. They came into my life with tears, sweat and blood, but it was worth it!

6. Become a mentor

Each of us has a mentor, even if we don't even know it! And we try to be like our spiritual leader. But someone is trying to somehow change themselves, and someone dreams of being like him, but does not make any attempts to achieve this. Do you know that 80% of success depends on yourself? And if you have a mentor (and you have one - Leader, Teacher, role model, etc., no matter what you call him), then the remaining 20% ​​depend on him!

How much does it help you develop?

Mentor– this is the one who gives skills and directs you on the right path to achieve results in the required time frame. He teaches you the tools you need to achieve your goal.

I have 3 mentors: I learn from the first one openly, I do what he says, one might say, I copy almost all of his actions. And this mentor knows me personally, moreover, we became friends! The other two mentors don’t know anything about me, they don’t even know that they are my mentors, but I also follow their example! And there are results! One might even say - excellent results! I think you want this too! So go for it! What's holding you back? I will be very glad if you follow my advice, and I am sure that you will answer the question: what to do to become happy, you will begin to demonstrate your abilities and receive satisfaction from it.

Read what my business mentor, Liliya Tsanko, says about me:

I pass on my knowledge, my experience to my students. Moreover, I am proud that my students follow in my footsteps and become happy women. I am very pleased to hear their gratitude and observe the results obtained.

I advise you to have a good mentor because your success depends on yourself and on your teacher. The extent to which he works with you, actively and purposefully, the extent to which you will advance in how to become a happy and loved woman. Even the most professional and successful entrepreneur always has a personal consultant to gain new knowledge, skills, etc., in order to achieve more and better in his business. And to answer the question, how to improve your life And what to do to be happy, you also need a personal coach.

Therefore, I advise you to participate in coaching programs, develop, realize yourself, be yourself!

Perhaps you are already engaged in self-development and something is not going well, something is not working out. Please don't leave it all halfway, don't throw it away, create plan to change your life. I am sure that everything will work out for you, the main thing is that you need someone experienced, who knows what the reason is, to look at your actions from the outside and identify the mistakes that you are making!

For beginners, it is also necessary, before changing your life, to consult with an expert so as not to waste money, time and patience in vain.

7. Always be yourself

When you realize that the moment has come to be yourself, then you are ready to implement your plans.

Answer honestly - why is it difficult for you to be yourself? Because you are trying to please others! You are captive of other people's opinions. Change your life for the better and be natural! There are exercises on how to become yourself and not depend on the opinions of others. One of the most effective is to sometimes intentionally take other people out of their comfort zone. They probably won't like it. Intentional calling to oneself negative feelings, - this is so far from “ try to please”, as it can only be, which means it is a powerful exercise on the path to oneself. Are you afraid? You can practice on people you don't care about, and you won't care what they say about you.

8. Know how to manage yourself

Manage yourself to find your happiness, as often as possible, then you will succeed in everything you plan. Write down your plans for the day, week, month and year! You will automatically manage yourself and follow your plans! Planning for the future is already a guarantee of a completed task. Somewhere I read this wonderful phrase: Be proud of your results, not of your plans.

9. Live in the real world

Important rule for me: live in the real world ! Look at life with sober eyes: there are no magic genies that will make your wishes come true! Therefore, all the desires that we have, we fulfill ourselves!

Do you want an expensive, beautiful car? So strive for this desire! Live in the real world, realize your goal in reality, and stop dreaming, you need to act! Strive, move forward in small steps, etc.

10. Don't envy anyone

This is my life principle that I follow all my life! And I advise you to follow this principle too. Don't envy anyone at all! Why? Now I will tell you the secret of success. Most successful people know this secret and use it very often. I use it myself too. What is this secret?

I’ll give you an example: I was given an apartment in the city center, in excellent condition. I share this news with you with such joy that I don’t notice how you envy me, but this energy of envy is transferred to me and gives me even more strength to realize my other goal! Do you understand? You give me your energy, and I use this to develop even more. Therefore, it is better to get your results, and share with others who cannot help but be envious, in order to receive the same surge of energy to implement your other plans. Don’t envy yourself, but, on the contrary, use this secret, and then you will become successful person and get everything you want!

I wish you daily success in achieving your goals!

Your Lana Korteletsi

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Life principles The people described in this article are not the revelation of any of the prophets, are not compiled by a famous author, and do not echo God’s commandments (and if they do, it is not for religious reasons). These principles are realized by me, based on my personal experience and subjective perception.

Be merciful and kind

I am not a member of a cult and I am not encouraging you to join the Peace Corps. Doing good can be much more difficult in small things, on an everyday scale, than saving the world. This is what the first principle says - in every situation that fills a person’s every day, there are different lines of behavior and, accordingly, options for action. By choosing one that has a good message, you not only do yourself good (because good always comes back), but you also inspire others to do the same. Not only epidemics and affectionate words spread from person to person, mercy and consideration for others can also infect people.

Be brave

The longer humanity exists, the more precisely the beaten paths are worked out, and the easier it becomes to follow them. Being brave doesn't necessarily mean going against the grain and going against society - you probably don't want to at all. Being brave means doing what you want, doing what you feel, and saying what you think.

Have the courage to dream. Have the courage to create. And most importantly, have the courage to act.

Always remember that you are not alone

Very often it seems to us that we are alone against the whole world. That no one can help us, and we must do everything ourselves. Taking responsibility for your life and actions is very good, but you shouldn’t lock yourself in the bubble of your own “I can” and “I do,” because there are things that are beyond a person’s control or things that you definitely can’t do alone.

Remember two things: firstly, you are not alone - look around: there are many people around who are ready and able to help you and provide support. Believe in people. Secondly, no matter how you feel about religion, it is stupid to deny that there are no higher powers besides man. There is something much larger in this world than each of us individually. For some it is God, for others it is the Universe, for others it is the unity of all living beings. Don't forget that you are not alone in the scale. huge world. You won’t get lost, they look after you, they help you, they take care of you. Always.

Be here and now

One of the main life principles that is most difficult to follow is to stay in the present, to live in it. Living in the past or future is a huge temptation, an excellent means of escaping reality. But the reality is that if you don't manage your present, either your past will define you or your future will be built by someone else. And in order to manage the present, you need to be in it. Develop awareness, learn to fixate on the “here and now.”

Analyze

Live your life without trying to understand the causes and consequences of your own actions, events of your life means wasting it. Don't float with the flow like a log, get into the boat and control its movement. To do this, you will need to become an analyzer of what is happening both inside and around you. Don't be that person who, when you die, understands less than when you were first born. Analyze yourself - if you understand yourself, you will have access to understanding the whole world.

Explore

In our wonderful world there are enough reasons to be surprised for the life of every person. Humanity has existed for several thousand years, and the world continues to surprise us. Don’t lose your child’s curiosity, look at everything as if you were seeing it for the first time. Don't be afraid to explore new things, make discoveries of any scale, and your life will never be boring. Already now it is filled with thousands of amazing things that are worth learning about, that are worth noticing and studying. Live with wide with open eyes, consciousness and heart.

Love

Without love the most bright life- only a shadow of what it could be, if a person let into it the highest feeling - love. Giving and receiving love in order to be happy is as important as breathing and eating in order to live. Trusting your feelings is risky and scary, but remember the second principle? Be brave when it comes to love because it is the only thing that can make you truly happy. Love is the highest reward, and it requires a lot of work. Love needs to be cherished, nurtured, supported and developed - then its fruits will make you the happiest of people.

Yuri Okunev School

Hello friends. Yuri Okunev is with you.

Today we’ll talk about human life principles. What are they, do you need them, how to find them and integrate them into your self-organization system.

We have already noted that in the system of self-organization, principles play the role of boundaries within which we move towards our goal. Moreover, it is rather heaven and earth, above and below. The width of the channel is determined by the formulation and.

Principles are the rules of the game for achieving your goals.
If players start breaking the rules, the game loses its meaning. A football player who makes his way to the enemy goal using hand grenades and a Kalashnikov assault rifle is unlikely to receive a prize for winning the game.

We play exchange. The main idea of ​​this game is to provide something useful to the world.

If we destroy our planet in pursuit of success, the game will lose its meaning.
If we destroy our values ​​(family, health, friendly relations etc.) victory, whatever it may be, is unlikely to make us happy.

You can give this image. Values ​​are the inner circle, our zone of happiness. What we always want to see in our lives. Principles are an outer circle, a boundary that we will not cross in our actions under any circumstances.

The latter is a vital principle. They are the ones that interest us in the first place.

How to find your principles?

The principles are formed along two vectors.

1. Which I will not do under any circumstances.
2. What should I do.

The method of modeling limiting situations will help us decide. We take each of our values ​​in turn. And we are looking for a boundary that we will not cross, either for the sake of the highest result, or to avoid complete failure.

For example, let's take the value - wealth, material security, money. Let's ask ourselves:

What will I not do even for a hundred million (billion) dollars?
What will I not do even if I have no livelihood left?

I must warn you that extreme situations, even imaginary ones, are always an uncomfortable zone. Don't try to avoid scary and awkward questions. They are the ones who will show where your internal boundaries lie.

The gradient might look like this:

• For the sake of wealth, are you able to deceive a colleague or kill an animal? A person? Your child?
• In order not to die of hunger, can you steal, rob, kill, engage in prostitution? What if your family’s life is at stake?

After the pendulum of possible situations swings in your head from one extreme to the other, you need to formulate the emerging principle in acceptable, positive form.

Positive the form implies the absence of any negatives in the text. If you come to the definition: “I will never cheat for the sake of money,” you should write down as a principle: “I conduct my affairs honestly.”

Eligibility implies that you choose a framework that makes practical sense for you to adhere to. Honesty increases your self-esteem and the trust your clients place in you. And the principle “I will not kill my children for money” is unlikely to be needed by a mentally healthy person.

Having worked through all your values ​​in this way, you will receive a basic list of your own principles.

We look at the Ten Commandments of Moses, the Sermon on the Mount of Christ, the regulative and religious principles of the Vedas, the moral code of the builder of communism, Hubbard’s “The Way to Happiness” and any other lists of life principles that are available to us.

Comparing them with the list received earlier, we supplement, expand, reduce, and arrange until we are completely satisfied - until we get those rules, following which will really make our life the way we want it to be.

Following principles is not easy

Following the principles means following the football rules in the match, even if the opponent pulls out a nuclear bomb from his wide trousers.

A truly principled person can be one for whom principle is more important than life.

At one time I was struck by an episode from the film “The Battle of the Red Cliff”.

The hero swears on his head that he will get ten thousand arrows by morning, and when the morning recount shows that there are only 9900, he is ready to accept execution without trying to justify himself.

From our point of view, what difference does it make 9900 or 10000: the task of providing the army with arrows has been completed. But for a person for whom honor is more valuable than life, it does not matter how many percent the promise is not fulfilled. Living without keeping your word is unthinkable.

• Jesus went to the cross, affirming the principle of love for God.
• Giordano Bruno chose a fire to prove the true structure of the solar system.
• King Leonidas led his Spartans to Thermopylae Gorge following the duty of a king and a warrior.

Why do we need principles if they are so difficult to follow? What good are they? Why play by the rules when many don't follow them?

To begin with, imagine two people standing next to each other. One is principled, the other is unprincipled. Who would you like to do business with? Go on reconnaissance? To live next door?

Yes, perhaps it’s more difficult with a principled person: he will demand that you fulfill your duties precisely. But in general, living surrounded by principled people is safer than vice versa.

So, principled people stabilize society, make it safer, understandable, and predictable. Okay, but why should we be like that? Life is already not an easy thing, why complicate it further by introducing additional restrictions? I will answer.

What are you getting

The main purpose of the principles is to ensure movement towards set goals. This is insurance that prevents the climber from falling into the abyss when his fingers slip and his legs lose support. An additional guide for situations in which there are no guidelines. The basis that allows you to stay on your feet and not lose sight of your goal in a flurry of incoming life events.

Let's move on. Having principles makes a person undoubtedly more valuable to society. And if we are committed to sharing and serving, living up to the principles is a worthwhile investment of effort. Following the principles you are getting better.

Following the principles you are getting stronger.

Imagine a person who always holds given word. He promised that such and such a project would be completed by tomorrow morning. And so he comes to you and says, “I need you to do such and such part of the project. Now".

It is likely that he will not even have to take a bazooka out of his pocket and hit you on the head for the necessary actions to be completed. But if necessary, he will do it. His life is at stake, and often his responsibility for other people. It is impossible to refuse.

The principle in this case creates the pressure necessary to achieve the goal. Plain water supplied from the unit high pressure, cuts steel and concrete.

Strength is required to follow principles. It is more difficult to win with the rules than without the rules. This means that you need power more than other people. You begin to consciously develop it in yourself. The power of persuasion, the power of example, physical strength, etc.

Principles organize. Order is a necessary condition for effective activity.

By following the principles, you make your contribution to the creation of a reasonable society in which you live and your children will live.

Lack of principles may lead to short-term benefits, but is always a loss in the long term. An unprincipled person loses friends, partners, relatives, and employees. Nobody wants to work with him. And it is almost impossible to create anything noticeable in this world alone. Any big project is a team effort.

To summarize we can say:

Principles ensure that we achieve our long-term goals because they allow us to gain the support of other people and protect us from making fatal mistakes.

The place of life principles in the system of self-organization.

Let's take a table of our values ​​and key areas of activity and provide it with principles.

VALUES	Key areas	Operating principles
Mindfulness	TM	Continuously improving efficiency
Health	Physical training	Maintaining a daily routine Healthy eating Regular training
Family	Family (Wife, children, parents, brothers)	Mutual respect Attention Notice the good.
Development	Self-education	Subsequence Gradualism Systematicity Don't skip misunderstood words Provide mass
Case	Project 1	Creation (service) Efficiency Professionalism Cooperation Responsibility Honesty Exchange with excess Greatest benefit for speakers
	Project 2
	Creation
Safety		Be ready.
Earth	House, garden, vegetable garden, field, forest, car	Environmental friendliness
Prosperity	Finance	Revenues exceed expenses
Brightness of life, hobbies.	Cinema, fine literature, tourism	Time for business, time for fun
Spirituality	Spiritual practice	Advancement towards God

The principle must be defined as precisely as possible. In this tablet we have indicated the names of the principles. But we need to define for ourselves what exactly we mean by this.

For example, “Healthy eating” is understood by one as first, second, third and dessert; second, as a balanced amount of proteins, fats and carbohydrates; the third one counts healthy food, in which there is a lot of meat, the fourth is vegetarianism, the fifth is a raw food diet. Reveal your principles, Describe them.

Operating principles
Name	Description
Value - Health
Maintaining a daily routine	I get up at 4:30 every day. I go to bed no later than 23:00
Regular training	Charge every day. Evening workout at least three times a week.
Healthy eating	I do not consume: meat, fish, eggs, tea, coffee, onions, garlic. In the morning light breakfast without grains: dairy products, sweets, fruits, dried fruits, herbal tea. At lunch main meal: I eat as much as I want, including grains, all six tastes are welcome. For dinner, milk with spices or buckwheat, or stewed vegetables, or fruits, or tea with dried fruits. Snacks Avoid between meals if possible. If I really want to, I snack on fruit. I drink a lot of clean water.

Based on your knowledge and common sense, describe what exactly you understand by each principle. In the future, your understanding will definitely change, but first you need to at least look at it from the outside.

Don't try to jump over your head ahead of time. Write down what you actually observe in your life. The most hardworking ones are allowed to fantasize and further describe how it would be ideally.

That's it. A few hours of hard work and your individual system of life principles has been created. Ready list principles as a guideline, options from world authorities and feedback on your work I give on the course. But the above is more than enough to obtain acceptable results.

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So these are the principles:

1. Be merciful and kind. I am not a member of a cult and I am not encouraging you to join the Peace Corps. Doing good can be much more difficult in small things, on an everyday scale, than saving the world. This is what the first principle says - in every situation that fills a person’s every day, there are different lines of behavior and, accordingly, options for action. By choosing one that has a good message, you not only do yourself good (because good always comes back), but you also inspire others to do the same. Not only epidemics and affectionate words spread from person to person, mercy and consideration for others can also infect people.
2. Be brave. The longer humanity exists, the more precisely the beaten paths are worked out, and the easier it becomes to follow them. doesn’t necessarily mean going against the grain and society – you probably don’t want that at all. Being brave means doing what you want, doing what you feel, and saying what you think.
3. Always remember that you are not alone. Very often it seems to us that we are alone against the whole world. That no one can help us, and we must do everything ourselves. Taking responsibility for your life and actions is very good, but you shouldn’t lock yourself in the bubble of your own “I can” and “I do,” because there are things that are beyond a person’s control or things that you definitely can’t do alone.

   Remember two things: firstly, you are not alone - look around: there are many people around who are ready and able to help you and provide support. Believe in people. Secondly, no matter how you feel about religion, it is stupid to deny that there are no higher powers besides man. There is something much larger in this world than each of us individually. For some it is God, for others it is the Universe, for others it is the unity of all living beings. Don't forget that you are not alone in the vast world. You won’t get lost, they look after you, they help you, they take care of you. Always.

4. To be here and now. One of the main life principles that is most difficult to follow is to stay in the present, to live in it. Living in the past or future is a huge temptation, an excellent means of escaping reality. But the reality is that if you don't manage your present, either your past will define you or your future will be built by someone else. And in order to manage the present, you need to be in it. Develop awareness, learn to fixate on the “here and now.”
5. Analyze. Living your life without trying to understand the causes and consequences of your own actions, the events of your life means wasting it. Don't float with the flow like a log, get into the boat and control its movement. To do this, you will need to become an analyzer of what is happening both inside and around you. Don't be that person who, when you die, understands less than when you were first born. Analyze yourself - if you understand yourself, you will have access to understanding the whole world.
6. Explore. In our wonderful world there are enough reasons to be surprised for the life of every person. Humanity has existed for several thousand years, and the world continues to surprise us. Don’t lose your child’s curiosity, look at everything as if you were seeing it for the first time. Don't be afraid to explore new things, make discoveries of any scale, and your life will never be boring. Already now it is filled with thousands of amazing things that are worth learning about, that are worth noticing and studying. Live with your eyes, mind and heart wide open.
7. Love. Without love, the brightest life is just a shadow of what it could be if a person let the highest feeling into it - . Giving and receiving love in order to be happy is as important as breathing and eating in order to live. Trusting your feelings is risky and scary, but remember the second principle? Be brave when it comes to love because it is the only thing that can make you truly happy. Love is the highest reward, and it requires a lot of work. Love needs to be cherished, nurtured, supported and developed - then its fruits will make you the happiest of people.