Human nature is such that we always strive to improve our lives. Even those who have already achieved many of the goals they have set for themselves, from time to time ask themselves the question - how else can you change your life? And people who value stability will never refuse, for example, a salary increase, a pleasant acquaintance, or any other change in life for the better.
Why is this necessary - to change life? Is it bad when it flows as usual, measuredly and smoothly? Having achieved prosperous conditions - a stable job, their own apartment, a beautiful family - people often fold their arms and begin to think that there is nowhere to improve their life even more, and there is no need. What's the end result? After some time, work begins to get boring, a period of misunderstanding begins in the family, and the apartment, it turns out, could have been larger and more comfortable. A person simply becomes bored, because in order to get joy from life and be successful, it is important to develop and not stand still.
Therefore, no matter how successful life may seem, there are always ways to improve it. We will offer several different areas, in which you can make progress - choose to your taste and decide what could be done today!
How to change your life
To improve your life, first decide what exactly you would like to change. Someone might say - everything is fine with me, I don’t need to change anything. But don’t such people, deep down, want progress? After all, a change in life is not necessarily a rejection of existing benefits, it is also the emergence of something new. Career or the birth of a long-awaited child - these are also changes, and pleasant ones at that.
Are you determined to change your life for the better? Then let's figure out which direction to move. First, decide on your goals and aspirations. Some people have known for a long time exactly what they want and are striving for. But it would be a good idea for such purposeful individuals to take a little closer look at themselves - just to make sure that they are moving in the right direction.
1. Ask yourself questions.
What is my life like now and how much do I like it? What do I want her to be like? What do I like to do and what can I do now? What concessions am I willing to make for this, and what will I not make? This will set the stage for future changes and will let the brain know that its owner is serious.
2. Understand yourself.
Take two sheets of paper, write down your strengths on one, and your weaknesses on the other. Now, on the first page opposite each item, write down what you would like to improve and develop - for example, not only read English, but also speak fluently with native speakers. And the second is what can be done to mitigate or eliminate these shortcomings. You will immediately see the future scope of work.
3. Build an action plan for the coming year, guided by these two lists.
Each month, focus on one item from each. A new habit is established in 21 days - this way, every month you can develop and consolidate one useful one and find a replacement for one harmful one. Think about how to combine these points: for example, in April you can start reaching out to morning jogging, and for this you will have to learn to get up early and, accordingly, not stay up late in the evening. And before that, you can learn to devote not two hours a day to social networks, but one, and in the free time, write in your diary, cook, do your hobbies or do household chores.
4. Take responsibility for your life.
Tell yourself: from now on, my life is changing through my own strength. Even for those who blame their failures on the severity of their parents and an unhappy childhood, it is important to realize that changes in life are the work of their own hands. Give up the idea of waiting for outside help and looking for someone to blame. This is a change in mindset that frees your hands and makes you much freer.
5. Learn to look at life with optimism.
In everything that happens, highlight positive side. Were you sold a low-quality product? You now have experience communicating with the store manager, and in addition, you know how important it is to collect the receipt. Make the most of everything you encounter.
6. Be prepared for a not-so-favorable outcome.
This does not contradict the previous point: in the same case with a purchase, you can hope that everything will be fine with it, but you can also take into account the unpleasant option and reserve the opportunity to return the money. An optimist is not one who looks at life through rose-colored glasses, but one who sees both sides of the issue, consciously choosing the positive one.
7. Replace apology with gratitude.
This does not apply to the case if you step on someone's foot, but in many cases it is useful to replace self-deprecation and attempts to see your guilt with respect for yourself and at the same time understanding for others. Instead of “sorry for bothering me with my problems” - “thank you for your concern.” Instead of “sorry for waking you up” - “thank you for your attention, I remember that you are sleeping at this time, but this was an exceptional case.”
8. And at the same time, train yourself to be attentive to people.
No amount of gratitude will protect those who regularly wake you up with phone calls or overload you with their problems from conflict.
9. Start keeping time.
Spend the day writing down each of your activities—even brushing your teeth—and the time it takes. You can discover the most interesting facts: a frighteningly complex task, which takes half a day to persuade yourself to complete, in fact takes only twenty minutes, and innocent surfing on the Internet takes two hours, flying by like five minutes. Regulate your time, use it wisely.
10. If the results of the previous paragraph showed that time is really going in the wrong direction, master time management.
How exactly can this technique be applied? Here are some ways to get your life in order with its help.
11. Develop a sense of time.
Take one minute, close your eyes and try to determine when it will pass. When you feel that the right moment has arrived, open your eyes and compare your result with a stopwatch. You will most likely see that time as we experience it differs from the actual passage. We think that only an hour has passed, but in reality - “oh, how late it is!”
Practice this exercise more often - in a queue, in an elevator, and it is especially convenient when you are waiting for a metro train and see a stopwatch. Gradually increase the interval from a minute to two, five, ten. It will also be useful to learn to guess what time it is. All this will help you become the master of your time.
12. Get rid of tasks that take an unreasonably long time to complete, to the detriment of other things.
If you can find a faster replacement, try to do so. Or delegate the task altogether.
Do you really need to cook a three-course meal every day? Maybe you can get by with more simple recipes or get family help? Are you sure that you need to go to the store across the city - maybe it’s more rational to make a purchase near your home or order delivery?
Wasted time should always be compensated with something - if not with money, then with pleasure, good health or benefits in the future. Where you can reduce the amount of time, do so.
13. Determine what extraneous factors “eat up” time.
Maybe a chat with a neighbor or a co-worker who came over for a minute and started talking for half an hour? Or work meetings? Highlight what happens more than once a week, and talk to the “culprits”, explain that you can give them no more than a certain period of time - five to ten minutes.
14. Try to use every minute of your time wisely.
Do squats while the cutlets are frying, solve Sudoku, or memorize English words while waiting for the elevator.
The next few tips are not directly related to time management, but certainly have something to do with time and improving your quality of life.
15. Allocate the required 7-8 hours for sleep.
This is the same necessary procedure for the body as a technical inspection for a car or cleaning the registry for a computer - it will help you work faster and better and protect you from more serious and expensive repairs.
16. Go to bed at the same time.
This will make it easier for the body to get used to and adjust.
17. If you feel exhausted in the morning, try not to increase the duration of sleep, but, on the contrary, reduce it by half an hour.
This is due to the change of fast and slow phases of sleep: by moving from one to another, you can make it easier to get up.
18. If you decide to rest and take a nap during the day, allocate no more than fifteen minutes for this.
Longer sleep will bring a feeling of exhaustion instead of a feeling of rest.
Fifteen minutes is not so little if you change your life during this period and do it day after day. Here are some examples.
19. Make it a habit to do something for your home every day.
Wipe dust or floors, put things away or vacuum, and weekly spring-cleaning will be reduced by an hour and a half. It’s the same here as in sports: short-term, but regular exercise is more effective than long-term exercise once every 2 months. First we feed our home - then it feeds us.
20. Play sports.
What can you accomplish in 15 minutes? For example, stand in a plank, do a few push-ups or pull-ups, or perform a set of therapeutic exercises.
21. Dance.
If you think you don’t know how, just move to your favorite music. The body will figure out what it needs to relax tense areas.
Brainstorm a problem.
23. Read.
Fifteen minutes is not enough to concentrate on a serious book, but it is enough for a short story or Wikipedia articles.
24. Meditate.
Relax your mind and body, listen to the sensations - pressures, persistent thoughts.
25. Draw.
Don't be afraid that you won't get a masterpiece - do it for your own pleasure.
26. Call friends or relatives you rarely see.
27. Write a blog or diary entry.
Often people don't do what they would like to do because they think they don't have time for it. A task that seems massive is daunting. But try to do it in small portions, and within a week you will see the first results.
How to improve your life
Let’s move on from simple daily tasks to more serious practices. What can and should be changed in consciousness to make life better?
28. Develop critical thinking.
Check the information you receive.
29. Listen first to the advice you asked for.
30. And don’t give advice yourself if you haven’t been asked.
And if you decide to offer something, ask the person if he is ready to listen. If someone's decision seems strange and wrong, find out the situation before giving your opinion.
31. Avoid generalizations, talk only about the present moment.
Instead of “you constantly throw things around” - “you took this book and didn’t put it on the shelf, and I couldn’t find it for a long time.” This will help avoid many conflicts.
32. And do not allow yourself to be drawn into generalized expressions.
If someone approaches you in the manner of “you are always late,” do not enter into a reciprocal conflict. Answer something you can agree with: “Yes, I really don’t always manage my time.” The interlocutor will not have the resources to maintain the conflict. You will get food for thought: maybe it’s really worth thinking through your schedule more carefully?
To the one who says: “it won’t work out anyway,” “there’s not enough money for this,” “there are a lot of other things to do.”
This is not about the voice of reason that opposes spending time on social networks or making the tenth unnecessary purchase. We are talking about that internal censor, because of whom many important and successful projects did not take place and who seeks to deprive one of self-confidence.
34. When the “nothing will work out anyway” mechanism turns on, find counterarguments!
No time? But you can always set aside at least an hour. What will others say? Perhaps they will say: “How good it turned out!” Fight, don't fold your arms.
35. Put yourself in the shoes of your inner critic.
Imagine that you are preventing someone else from making and executing a decision. Think about what intentions are driving this, what makes you do this? This will help you find counterarguments and understand yourself.
36. If some quality of another person causes irritation, this is a signal to take a closer look at yourself.
Often what irritates us in other people is what we don’t like about ourselves, but are afraid to admit.
37. If possible, avoid making value judgments about people - this will allow you to focus more on your development rather than on criticizing others.
38. Study psychology.
Knowing people and their motives will change life for the better, and understanding how best to behave in a given situation - even more so.
39. Don't be attached to money.
They are needed so as not to think about them. Feel free to spend what you earn, use your finances for your own pleasure.
40. And if you already like to spend your entire salary in a week, try to change your habits and save.
41. Conquer procrastination.
This quality hinders the most different people V different areas activities. Start doing it here and now, without putting it off for the mythical “later”.
42. Give up conflicts.
Don’t get into an argument for the sake of arguing, avoid conflicting personalities.
43. Stop kicking yourself like a careless subordinate.
Start working with yourself as a polite and professional business partner who doesn’t let you down.
44. Master the Pareto rule: 20% of efforts bring 80% of results.
Do the important things first, which will solve most of the issues, and then the details. Here are some examples of how you can apply this rule in life.
45. Determine your circle of closest friends.
There may be many pleasant acquaintances, but only a few are worth counting on seriously. Stay close to those who matter and don't have sky-high expectations from random friends.
46. Choose the necessary minimum of clothing that is suitable for most situations.
Provide your wardrobe with a few durable, high-quality, versatile pieces that you can accessorize with.
47. Find your work niche in which you will develop, and go deeper in this direction.
Don't spread yourself thin: one main activity should bring in the largest portion of your income. If you find something more profitable, focus on this new activity.
48. A small number of mentors provide the bulk of knowledge.
One omniscient guru is good, two are very good, three are careful not to get confused in their advice. Find someone who will be supportive, but don't expect advice from everyone at once. Listen to different people, trust proven ones.
But let’s assume that both procrastination and conflicts have long been defeated. You glanced at everything previous points, which are already a passed stage or something completely unknown. What advice can you give to those who are successful, happy and still strive for more?
49. Conquer Everest.
Or, for starters, at least Goverla. Reaching the top in literally – The best way fill life with new colors.
50. Jump with a parachute.
51. Spend your vacation hitchhiking.
52. Buy a bike.
Drive it to work, on weekend trips. You will get not only an active lifestyle, but also new acquaintances with the same people.
53. Try scuba diving.
54. Travel to an unfamiliar country without money in your wallet.
Find a part-time job there to earn a living, meet the locals and find out how they live, try your hand. Not everyone decides to do this, but they return from such trips as completely different people.
55. Create your own project in which you can share knowledge and skills in those areas where you have accumulated solid experience.
Think about what you like to do in free time, what do you feel like a professional at? This is not necessarily something that brings money or practical benefits now. If you find people who are interested in the same thing and who need valuable advice, you can later monetize your “useless” hobby.
56. Have a child.
This is the most effective method make changes in your life for years to come.
What can you come up with that is less extreme, but also important?
57. Introduce family traditions: dinner together or weekend hikes.
58. Visit relatives you haven’t seen for a long time.
59. Love sports.
It will help develop discipline, stress resistance, willpower - you can never have enough of these qualities. Among all the variety of its types, there is sure to be something that you will like. Here are some options.
60. Sign up for a swimming pool.
This is not only swimming, but also diving, and if you like to work in a team, then synchronized swimming or water polo. In water there is less risk of injury, and at the same time, all muscle groups receive a suitable load.
61. Those who love team sports probably already play football or basketball.
But they are also worth trying for those who consider themselves an introvert. Such a shift can reveal unknown facets of personality and show what teamwork is like.
62. And for those who cannot imagine themselves outside the team, it will be useful to play several games of table tennis or badminton, where you have to rely only on your own strength.
63. Try yourself in martial arts.
Each of them has their own philosophy, from which something important can be gleaned. And besides, such skills can be useful outside the gym.
64. Learn to play chess.
And if you already know how, there is no limit to perfection! Find a partner with whom you can practice regularly, or start creating your own challenges.
65. Hang a horizontal bar in the doorway of your room.
Do pull-ups every time you leave or enter. This also applies to girls - such exercises will not make your shoulders look masculine, but they will strengthen your muscles and self-confidence.
66. Walk more - to and from work, at least part of the way. Use the stairs instead of the elevator.
67. Go on a hike.
Travel agencies offer many options - hiking in your home country and in foreign landscapes, mountain, water and even cycling tours. This is a type of holiday that you need to try at least once in your life. Even one such vacation changes life in better side– this is an opportunity to spend time in an active and cheerful company, to see breathtakingly Beautiful places and test your strength. There is plenty to choose from here too.
68. Rafting – on kayaks or catamarans, along a mountain stream or a calm river.
It will leave a pleasant impression on those who love water and provide incomparable rowing pleasure. And on such a hike you won’t have to carry a heavy backpack.
69. Hiking – on plains or mountains, in any case invigorates and strengthens you.
And a heavy backpack is nothing compared to the light-hearted nature of experienced tourists, unforgettable places and adventures, and satisfaction at the end of the journey.
70. Winter forays.
For those who have tried summer species active rest, it may be interesting to see familiar places in winter: frozen waterfalls and rivers or caves in which all year round constant temperature. Not to mention such a traditional winter fun like skis. If you haven't tried it, discover it for yourself.
What to do at home?
You returned from rafting or from the mountains, full of determination to continue changing your usual way of life. Where to apply it?
71. Rearrange your room.
This will be a kind of breath of fresh air for the brain - it benefits from such shocks and the need to change the usual course of action.
72. Try new cuisine: Italian (and it’s not just pizza), Georgian, Brazilian...
73. Love mornings and Mondays.
It sounds like a mockery, but in fact there is no need to be aggressive about a new beginning and a clean slate.
74. Every evening, make a plan for the next day.
75. Get a pet.
Let's take a closer look here.
76. Having a dog will be useful for those who are not against daily walks and an active lifestyle.
And for those who are against it, it is especially useful. The need to get out of the house and pay attention to an active animal will change your life for the better - even if it doesn’t seem so at first. And the friendliness and devotion of the beast will show that all this is not happening in vain.
77. Cats are owned by those who want to find an affectionate friend, but are ready for the friend to turn out to be headstrong and self-confident.
And if you adopt an animal from a shelter, then pride in a good deed done will be added to the pleasant impressions.
78. For those for whom both a cat and a dog are too large an acquisition, you can get rats.
It was in plural– these animals are especially cheerful and playful in groups (of course, same-sex ones, although you can also change the usual way of life by establishing a rat nursery). Decorative rat pups differ from their wild relatives - they are sociable and not at all malicious. Communication with them will bring many pleasant moments. And their tails are not hairless at all.
79. Place an aquarium at home.
It will be an excellent decoration for the room, not to mention the opportunity to admire living creatures, which, moreover, do not need to be bathed.
80. Take photos.
At least on the phone. At least for myself. This will help you see how multifaceted the world is around. You will begin to notice different unique moments in life.
81. Learn something new, related to your main activity.
Something you haven’t dealt with yet, but want to try. If you sew, try embroidery as well. If you program, learn to test programs - at least just to get an idea. This will expand your horizons and knowledge, and can also be a bonus for employers.
82. And a similar method with a significant difference: try to learn something you are not sure about.
To what you think is not for you. If you consider yourself a humanist, understand the basics of mathematics or physics. If you think you can't sing, take a few vocal lessons. To change your lifestyle, change yourself.
83. Travel more often.
This could be either the opposite continent or another area of the city. Or a neighboring city where you can go for the weekend.
84. Study your city: its history, architecture.
You will recognize familiar places from an unknown perspective and begin to appreciate the places in which you live.
85. Read more.
Make it a habit to read one book a week. Or two weeks if your schedule doesn’t allow it.
86. Take out the trash.
Give it to those who need it most, or recycle it.
87. Clean your computer.
Work will become faster and more efficient.
88. Cross off things you can’t complete..
Refuse or complete, but don’t procrastinate – make life easier.
89. Find a part-time job.
Anything that will please and inspire. This will open up new horizons.
90. Make new acquaintances.
91. Volunteer.
Philanthropy will help you find the individual meaning of life and give you confidence that you are not living in vain.
What exactly can you apply yourself to?
92. Help an animal shelter.
You can foster an animal and find one for it new family, buy medicine or food or help with actions - in any big city There is a problem of homeless animals, and workers are always needed there. If you cannot be indifferent to our smaller brothers, but do not have time, help with finances, this is also always relevant.
93. Cooperate with an orphanage.
Children always need toys new clothes, hygiene products, and even more - attention and care. Volunteers often organize trips to show children deprived of parental love that the world is not indifferent to them. They also organize programs for teenagers, helping them adapt to society. You can become a mentor for someone who is just starting to live - this will be invaluable to his life, and he will certainly be grateful.
94. Work with people with disabilities.
There are programs that offer them help - everyday help or simple communication, which these people often lack.
95. Just transfer money to trusted charities from time to time.
On bank cards, you can enable the function to do this automatically and change for the better every month.
And a few more simple tips.
96. Correct your handwriting.
97. Master calligraphy if your handwriting is already beautiful.
98. Visit the dentist: It's a health benefit and a step towards courage.
99. Have a dream. Even if it’s impossible.
100. Get off the Internet! You won't change your life until you take action.
Happy are those people who are satisfied with their lives. It is believed that the ideal state of affairs is when at work you dream about going home, and at home you dream about how you can get to work as soon as possible. It’s good when a person loves what he does, it’s great if he has close people, it’s excellent if he loves what is always near him.
What percentage of the world's population lives happily? The question is complex and it is simply unrealistic to give any definite answer to it. One thing is for sure - many people do nothing but think about Why? Are their lives really that bad in this world? Not necessarily - not even happy people thinking about how to change their lives. Things can always be different. Often we strive for our goals, but over time we realize that we are not stuck with what we need. How is this even possible? Of course available. True, you will have to try hard for this. What comes easily is worth little.
How to change your life?
Similar questions often arise for those people who have reached a certain age. They turn around and don’t see anything that could make them happy or make them feel proud. How to change your life? To do this, first of all you will have to change yourself. If you act correctly, you can get results very quickly.
Many people believe that our life is nothing more than a reflection of our own thoughts. Everything that is around is created precisely by our thoughts. Fantastic? In no case. Just think about it - why do we always get what we really want? The answer is simple - when we strongly desire something, we subconsciously behave in such a way that we can get it. Our consciousness comes up with and executes complex moves that ultimately lead us to our goals. This is not magic, but the most ordinary psychology.
How to change your life? Set clear goals for yourself and do everything to achieve them. Decide what you want. Also decide what doesn’t suit you in life now.
Don't have any education? It doesn’t matter - it’s actually never too late to learn. There is a wide choice: distance learning, correspondence, full-time... Today everything is arranged in such a way that even those who are constantly busy with work can receive an education. Why is education needed? First of all, it will add status to you, and a new education will also allow you to change jobs. Often their job, but do not find the courage to leave it. In most cases, this is due to the fact that they are afraid of not finding another. It is actually very, very stupid to be afraid. Why go every day to a place where everything is disgusting? How to change your life? Be sure to change your job if it doesn't bring you joy. One German philosopher said that if a job gives you nothing but money, you shouldn’t stay at it. Think about it. It is quite possible that you are wasting your precious time at work.
How to change your life? Start reading books, play sports, tidy up your appearance. Try to imagine the image of a brave, decisive person who walks through life confidently, and no difficulties frighten him. What to do next? It's not complicated - just become that person. Think correctly and everything will definitely work out for you. Constantly expand your horizons. New knowledge will also help you expand your social circle. New people can be interesting.
Are you happy with the place you live in? Your city? An apartment? Believe me, it's never too late to just pick up and move to another city. What will it give? A lot, actually. First of all, I would like to draw attention to the fact that by acting radically (“burning bridges”) we become more decisive. When there is nothing to lose, retreating is simply useless.
“I won’t succeed!” - a person who has decided to improve or change his life exclaims sadly, running his eyes over the piece of paper where all his Napoleonic plans are written down. In a couple of months you need to change jobs and lose twenty kilograms excess weight, make cosmetic repairs in the apartment, find something you like, go on vacation... The goals set are noble and lofty, but in real life they are almost impossible. Moreover, at the same time.
Why? Because constantly being in the tight, merciless confines of time and affairs does not allow you to breathe and move forward. There is no room for imagination. The funny thing is that we ourselves narrow the boundaries of our lives to a narrow framework, naively believing that this will help us achieve success faster.
But not a single change, even the smallest one, in life is easy. It takes a lot of effort to start studying foreign language and start memorizing at least five words a day. And in order to lose three extra kilos without harm to your health, you need to give up your favorite treats, choose a balanced diet, start playing sports, and not just start starving or, conversely, put off losing weight until better times. They are unlikely to come at this rate.
To change jobs, you need to work long and hard, develop, and be in constant search. Rarely is this issue resolved easily, with the wave of a magic wand. Although... The wand is in our hands. You just need to activate it.
But before starting a long journey, I would like to analyze the mistakes that people who decide to change their lives so often make.
Mistake #1: The desire to achieve ALL the goals you set for yourself within a clearly defined time frame.
A typical and most tragic mistake. It is typical because almost everyone does it, and tragic because it can destroy all hopes and dreams beyond the possibility of recovery.
The desire to change the quality of life, to reach new level appears when a sharp need arises, the realization that it is urgent to take some action rushes forward. Right now. At this second. Ideal images immediately appear in the imagination that you want to transfer to material world, implement without spending a lot of nerves, time and effort.
You make up long list from points with sub-points (quit, or, etc.) you set deadlines for yourself and... You don’t know what to do next. After all, there are many goals, the implementation of each will require a lot of time, and the plan of not goals, but actions, as a rule, is crude, because working on it is much more difficult.
A vicious circle. All this happens because of the desire to immediately change your life and get quick results.
Mistake #2: Fear of failure.
Fear has big eyes. Yes, my arms are short. However, for some reason, we most often pay attention to the gaze. Sharp, piercing, a little crafty and very cold.
Fear, unfortunately, is our constant companion on the path to success. Many disturbing questions arise all the time... What if it doesn’t work out? What if I can't? Should you believe in your dreams or not? Is my goal too high? What if you can't make it?
Doubts torment the soul, confuse the mind and disturb the heart. There is no escape from them. You can only step over them. Sharp and bold.
Mistake #3: Mother laziness.
The bloodthirsty killer of all wonderful dreams and high aspirations.
This often happens: you make a plan, firmly decide to fulfill your intentions, but... Things don’t move forward. Because I'm too lazy to start. The first step is the most interesting, but also the most difficult. To actually do it, you need to make a lot of effort, activate internal resources, and this requires self-restraint and the desire for change. Then you begin to wonder: maybe this will do? I live my life, I don’t complain about anything... There are, of course, shortcomings, like everyone else. Where can we get away from them?
It’s better to ask this question: Am I satisfied with my life?
You need to answer honestly. Then it will become clear what to do next.
Mistake #4: Lack of faith in yourself and your dreams.
This point is much more important and more complex in its essence than simply constraining fears. After all, fear can be overcome, but without self-confidence, all endeavors are doomed to failure. No faith - no passion and inspiration. Which means there is no success.
Mistake #5: Setting the wrong goals.
This happens quite often. A person decides to improve himself, change his life, makes a plan, but cannot move on because the goals are set incorrectly (how to set them correctly is written in the article: ""). Positions that are not a priority are put forward in the first lines.
For example, you start learning a foreign language... Your soul is drawn to French, but you, ignoring your own spiritual aspiration, take up English. Because it is international, which means it is more in demand and popular. The result is no inspiration or motivation. And even if there are fruits, they will not be at all juicy and tasty.
The point is that you need to carefully prioritize, separate the true pearls from the merely shiny pebbles. Then the goals will definitely be achieved.
... Now let's think together about the steps that need to be taken to begin the process of self-development, improvement, and changing your life for the better.
Step #1: The most important one.
We define the goal. You need to be very careful not to make the mistakes described above. You have decided to change your life. This means that something in it does not suit you, it causes discomfort. What exactly? There is no need to list all the disadvantages and nuances; try to focus on the most important thing and prioritize. What should you strive for right now, and what else can wait? What goal has long been asking from the world of dreams to the material world? What exactly will motivate you to conquer new heights? I suggest doing the following: write down all your goals, and then bright color highlight three.
But let them not be equal in value. They will not be equally large, otherwise the process may be delayed. Follow the principle from small to large. Let the first goal be quite serious (for example, search new job), the second is a little easier (say, mastering the Beginner level in learning a foreign language within two months), and the third is quite pleasant, but also requires effort. Learn to find time for sleep and rest, interesting activities and communication with loved ones. This also needs to be given due attention!
So, the third task will help you stay on your toes while implementing task No. 1. And the second task will give you self-confidence because it is quite easy to achieve. You just need to put in a little effort :)
The remaining points of your global plan should also not be forgotten. But you don’t need to take on everything at once. Will not work.
Step #2: Develop a step-by-step action plan.
Without taking this step, you cannot move forward. You now have three tasks. You need to “cut” them. As they say, divide words into frogs. To achieve each goal you need at least five points. The more steps, the easier it is to walk.
Step #3: Do it, but do it slowly.
There is no need to rush anywhere. You will definitely have time to do everything! Moscow wasn’t built right away either, but now it’s so beautiful :)
There should definitely be a time frame, but don’t narrow it down to rigid boundaries. Let there be room for imagination, creativity and the gifts of life.
It’s better to give yourself plenty of time to make sure you’re on time. And if you don’t have time, then blame yourself. By the way, you shouldn’t set too long time intervals either, because this way you can go on achieving your high goal forever!
Step #4: Holy, sincere, fervent believe in your dreams. Do not give up.
There will definitely be failures. There is no way without this. But ignore your own doubts. Remember, you are the most wonderful and wonderful person. You will definitely succeed. Just believe!!!
Step #5: Rest.
Many people, having set a goal, begin to “obsess” with it. This, of course, will not lead to anything good. Give yourself a break. Sometimes you need to step back to look at your work, think, admire, and take three huge steps forward.
Everything is very simple and easy. Any phenomenon of life and manifestation of personality can be changed and improved. Remember: Magic wand in your hands!
Each of us at least once in our lives has thought about the question: how to change our life for the better. As usual, everything started either on Monday, or on New Year, etc. That day was coming, but... nothing happened. And if the first timid steps were taken, then all this quickly faded and rolled back to the stage of intentions and dreams, shelved. Well, isn't it terrible?
In this post, you will learn about ten fundamental steps that need to be taken to make the planned changes in your life irreversible. This will really help change your life. Moreover, if you don’t take at least one of these steps, your chances of making the necessary changes in your life are significantly reduced. By learning these steps, you can see where you made mistakes when you tried to change your life. These steps are applicable in any area of life, be it mastering new profession, working on your health and physical fitness, getting an education, etc.
First, a little introductory information that will help you better understand what we are talking about here.
The human psyche is a very stable thing. On the one hand, this allows you to maintain the integrity of your personality, professional skills, accumulate knowledge, etc. On the other hand, resilience prevents change. And sometimes it interferes so much that even vital changes come with a terrible creak.
But the changes in modern conditions necessary to simply stay afloat, and even more so if you understand the importance of growing and developing yourself. We can confidently say that a person has no chance in life if he does not constantly work on himself, develop and acquire new skills and habits. However, mental stability poses many serious obstacles to change. How to overcome these obstacles and get what you really need?
There is an exit. It is necessary to learn new things, acquire new skills and knowledge. That is, you need to change yourself. You cannot get something qualitatively new in your life if you do the same thing you are doing now. You will only get something new when you act differently, armed with new knowledge, skills and habits.
Step 1: Believe that you are just like others. You are not unique.
No, no, this does not mean that you do not have any zest and uniqueness. This means that if one of the people managed to achieve something, then you can achieve the same and even surpass him. After all, he is just a person, just like you. And he, just like you, experienced difficulties, doubts, fear, lack of experience and knowledge, and the ridicule of others.
If you dream of a healthy, toned body, you can achieve it. After all, many people already have this. If you want to quit smoking, you can do it too.
However, one should also keep in mind reverse side its non-uniqueness. Many people have failed to achieve what they want, and therefore, this could easily happen to you too. If you act (or fail to act) the same way they do.
It's especially easy to achieve your goals if you know a lot of people who have already achieved it. If you are surrounded by such people, you will rise quickly. If there are many people around you who have not succeeded, there is a high probability that you will not succeed either.
So, try to stay close to people who already have what you want.
Study their books, strive to understand more deeply how they live, how they think, how they act.
Step 2: Start incorporating new skills into your life.
This literally means that in your lifestyle there should be a place and time for the new, the very thing that you so want to see in your life. It is imperative, and as quickly as possible, to find a place for this in your diary, on your desktop, on your computer, on your smartphone, etc.
There is an interesting psychological law according to which, if within a few days (maximum, within a week) you do not take at least the very first and simple steps in the direction that interests you, interest in it disappears. What is so desirable begins to seem boring and uninteresting.
In order not to become a victim of this law and not to miss what could become the most fateful decision in your life, just set yourself a time when you will do this. Don't think that this will work out somehow casually. Will not work!
This must be planned and completed at the appointed time.
If you decide to study English, you should set aside at least half an hour to an hour every day, say, before going to bed. At this time, you just need to sit down at the table, read books, listen to recordings, etc.
If you decide to go jogging, plan to get up half an hour earlier and go to the stadium. It's time for running and nothing else!
If you decide to change your diet to a healthier one, start changing the contents of your refrigerator today. Make the necessary purchases on the way home. And today try a new dish that meets new requirements...
Step 3: Decide what to give up
Each person has only 24 hours in a day, 6-10 of which he sleeps. You cannot fill this time with an endless number of things to do. Something will definitely not fit. Therefore, if you decide to introduce new habits and skills into your life, you should give up something to make time and space for this new one. And, of course, it would be wise if you give up something that clearly interferes with the new and is not particularly useful.
You can get up half an hour earlier to run. But if you don't give up the TV at night, I'm afraid your running venture will quickly fizzle out. You will simply not get enough sleep, and this will quickly end your passion for running before it even begins. Do you want to get up earlier? Then you just need to go to bed earlier! There are no other options!
To find time to study in English, you need to stop watching your favorite TV series (which, by the way, does not bring you any closer to your goal). The time spent on it is spent on entertainment. And this is not always so necessary.
A new skill should not interfere with the usual life path
And you need to think about how to build it smartly so that there are no insurmountable difficulties or a desire to give up everything and return to the original position.
Sometimes people try to combine completely opposite desires or try to squeeze into their lives what is clearly unnecessary. I know people who are "trying" to start healthy life, start running, doing exercises, but don’t even think about going to bed at the same time, giving up 30 cigarettes smoked a day and 10 cups of coffee daily. Meaning?
Man is given a sophisticated mind for this purpose: to find a suitable solution to cope with difficulties that at first glance seem insurmountable
Step 4. What you want to bring into your life should bring joy.
There's absolutely no point in trying to exercise if you don't enjoy it. You should not force yourself to learn a foreign language if it does not find at least the slightest joyful response in the depths of your soul.
As experience shows and Scientific research, any undertaking, if it is done through force (without obvious joy and interest), after a couple of months leads to the appearance of disgust.
Have you ever seen children who, after graduating from music school, don’t even want to look at the piano? Exactly!
Don’t even try to find “reasonable” reasons to start doing something if it doesn’t resonate inside with joyful interest.
Don't waste your time. Do what you are truly interested in.
True, it must be said that there are basic things that are still worth doing, despite the fact that they seem boring to some. For example, brush your teeth, wash your face, read books at least sometimes, physically move, ask questions about your place in life. They bring very rich dividends. And you just have to be mentally ill to have an aversion to such things...
Step 5: See failures as life lessons
Have you tried something many times, but it didn't work out? Did you have a hard time with your first (second, third) failure and have already decided that you are a failure? Made me laugh!
Failure is your best friend!
Paying attention to your own failures, thinking about their causes, and analyzing them is the best way to achieve what you want. You always have another chance.
Just carefully analyze why you failed. Failure always has obvious reasons.
Lost a boxing match? This means that the reaction is rather weak or the blow is not very fast. It can be fixed with training. Can't start eating right, even though you know everything about it? Look what's in the way. Perhaps you need to talk to family members, remove obstacles, etc.
It is important to understand that failure can be accidental, or it can be a consequence of self-sabotage - internal struggle with yourself (you wanted to fail from the start).
Accidental failure can be caused by external reasons beyond your control or strong emotional shocks (work emergency, road accident, natural disasters). If the reason for your failure was random factor, it is worth taking steps to reduce the likelihood of such failures in the future. And just move on.
In the case of self-sabotage, when you subconsciously resist change, it makes no sense to continue using the same methods. You need to find a different approach, change the time and place, find a different teacher, and generally make sure that you really want it. Maybe you are not satisfied with the way to achieve the goal, or maybe this goal is simply not deeply interesting to you...
An intelligent person acts more wisely and effectively with each failure. Great and successful people suffered a lot of failures in their time, but drew the right conclusions from them.
Step 6. Consider the pressure of others
You can’t even imagine how much people around you are interested in you when you begin to change in the direction you want. And the first thing they begin to do is persistent attempts to return you back to their usual state.
Close and acquaintances always have some plans for you and expect that you will behave in a way that is familiar to them.
If you quit smoking, you will definitely be drawn to the smoking room to discuss important news. Moreover, you will feel that you simply have to smoke.
If you start changing your diet and try not to eat at night, there will definitely be someone who cooks crazy fragrant pastries exactly in the evening. You can rest assured!
If you start visiting Gym, you will definitely hear five hundred reasons not to do this with scientific basis terrible harm to fitness from people who have never even tried to exercise!
You must understand that you will definitely encounter such resistance. And you just need to show persistence and firmness. And you don’t need to explain anything to anyone or make excuses. Calmly and thoroughly do what you plan. In the family, you can limit yourself to one serious conversation and an explanation of why you are doing this. Gradually, the pressure from others will disappear, and many will even begin to follow you when they see that you are achieving your goals.
Step 7: Reward yourself for even small successes
Very often, real change occurs through quite long time. In almost all more or less serious things, noticeable changes occur within a few months. This applies to changes in figure during fitness classes, to knowledge of a foreign language, to mastering some complex skill, such as touch typing or speed reading.
And you just have to be a hero to put in effort for several months with almost no visible results. Therefore, reward yourself even for the smallest successes. Celebrate the one-week anniversary of when you started running :) Celebrate the first hundred you learned English words or mastering the grammatical forms of the English verb.
Give yourself a nice little gift to thank you for your efforts.
Buy yourself a cake, ice cream, cook your favorite dish, go to the movies, make a pleasant purchase... It seems like a small thing, but it really helps you on a long, sometimes difficult path. Your brain gets stimulated and validated through such gratitude. Ultimately, this will keep you motivated.
Step 8: Actively ignore doubts
In any endeavor, doubts are inevitable. No person escaped doubt when starting something new. Doubts are normal, especially when it comes to changing your life.
If you haven't done something before, then you will be bad at it anyway. Until you get the hang of it and gain enough experience. It `s naturally.
However, beware of getting bogged down in doubt. This is a real swamp, from which it is very, very difficult to get out. It's better not to step into it.
Try not to get too caught up in your falls and failures, which are simply inevitable at the beginning of the path of change. Just get up and move on. Don’t allow yourself to think that, well, I can’t do anything, I’ll never be able to do this, I did it poorly again... This is the path of the swamp. Each time you will fix your attention on the fact that you cannot do it. And you will quickly convince yourself that it is all useless. After all, you seem to have indisputable facts on your hands indicating that everything is going very badly. Thus, each new failure will convince you that you really will not succeed.
But in reality this is not so! With such thoughts, you will simply stop your movement, depriving yourself of energy for further movement. But you want something completely different! So proceed anyway. Go towards your goal, despite the falls and failures. Moreover, failure is an excellent assistant on the path to the goal, as we said above.
It is difficult to imagine the number of people who have spent all their energy on doubts, instead of stubbornly pursuing their goals.
Decide for yourself whether you do it or not. And just take the necessary steps.
Step 9: Take your time
Any new business almost always goes very slowly. This is natural, since you do not have the skills and sufficient knowledge. You have to master everything as you go and think through every little detail for a long time. This is a completely normal process.
When a beginning musician masters the first simple pieces, he must play them at a very slow tempo, but very clearly and with high quality. This is fine. It takes time for the necessary neural connections and processes in the brain to develop. And after some time, the same musician, often unexpectedly for himself, is able to play this piece much faster.
If a musician tries to play this piece right away at the required speed, I’m afraid you won’t appreciate this music. Moreover, as practice shows, this approach never leads to high-quality performance of the work. That is, a musician spends hundreds of hours rehearsing, but rushes things, not allowing the necessary skills to develop correctly. The result is a complete marriage!
Therefore, you should not rush when starting a new business. Make sure it starts to work out at least a little bit. Reward yourself for this, let the skill grow stronger, and don’t rush to move on. Let the skill become sustainable. And after that, move on. Change your life gradually but persistently.
You shouldn't try to run if you haven't really learned to crawl yet.
Give yourself all the time you need. And don’t beat yourself up for being slow. Everyone has their own normal pace. Follow your pace.
And very soon you will realize that you are doing a new thing very quickly and very effectively.
Step 10. Overcome growing pains
When you begin to move towards new achievements, master new skills and knowledge, you will inevitably encounter a situation where you are no longer the same person, but also not the person you want to become. At this stage, you are like a semi-finished product.
If you decide to go in for sports, you are no longer the weak and sick person you were at the very beginning, but you are also not an athlete (the muscles still look like funny tubercles and ridiculous bumps on the body). You're on your way. And this state can be uncomfortable. You may feel frustration, uncertainty, discomfort, irritation. You cannot clearly answer the question of who you are now. This is normal growing pains!
To overcome this uncomfortable state, just try to be your own friend. Be attentive to yourself and try to act consciously. Be aware that you are on the way to your goal. And believe that you will definitely achieve it. If failure happens, tell yourself that yes, it happens, if there is success, rejoice at it with all your heart.
The most important thing for you now is the fact of movement
You are growing and developing. This is the main thing. Now you are a river flowing from source to mouth through steppes, deserts, mountains and forests. You do everything in your power to achieve your goal. Apparently, there is nothing more worthy in life!
Understanding and clear awareness that you are now in motion makes it much easier to survive failures, the opinions of others and other difficulties.
Print out and hang these steps above your desk. Learn them by heart, put them into practice every day, and changes in life will not keep you waiting.
Everyone knows the fact that we control life exclusively ourselves. And everything that we have achieved and that we will receive in this life is entirely our merit. Another conclusion follows from this: all the negativity that surrounds us occurred only through our fault and because of our decisions or actions. However, despite our knowledge, it takes a very long time for us to realize that we have the opportunity to change everything. Therefore, in this article we intend to tell and convince you that changing your life for the better is very real, no matter how scary and impossible it may seem.
5 simple steps to change your life and yourself
Our team of authors of the online magazine site believes that there are five main steps to radically change yourself and your life. These are the steps you should start with if you decide to make changes in your life.In addition, we would like to warn you about the difficulties that you will most likely have to face: they will not understand you, they will advise you to do everything differently, they will possibly try to stop you, and most importantly, you yourself will not particularly resist this, since you will have little faith into the reality of possible better changes. Therefore, before you change your life, believe in yourself, your strengths, and most importantly, in your final success!
So, steps to a better life:
- Imagine an imaginary better future and make a detailed plan to make it happen. Any change needs to start with a dream. Each of you should have your own dream, or better yet, a goal for which you will live, work and change yourself. The dream should be so strong that for the sake of it you can wake up early in the morning and get to work, for the sake of it you will not stop after failures. Try to describe your future in detail. better life: what and how it will take place every day. For example, describe to yourself what kind of clothes you will be wearing, what kind of house you will live in, and what kind of person will be next to you. Once you have a goal, try to come up with and write down in detail on pieces of paper a step-by-step plan or tasks that need to be completed. For example, we have a dream to live in Canada. To do this, we are drawing up a rough plan: to study options for emigration to Canada, collecting necessary documents and collecting money. Then you begin to implement each of the points. This is how they change their lives for the better.
- Touch real change. You cannot change your life for the better by changing some little thing in it, such as buying a professional camera or a trip to the sea. The goal should be more global and concern most of your life. For example, you can change your job, place of residence, attitude to life, etc. In addition, your desires should be real, and not the desire to learn how to fly in the air.
- Change your social circle. In many ways, the changes will depend on your circle of friends; if the people around you support, help and contribute in every possible way to your improvements, then everything will work out. If those around you are jealous, escalate the situation, do not believe in you and say all sorts of nasty things about you, then of course no changes will happen. We can tell you right away that in 95% of cases your social circle will have to change in any case, since if you are unhappy now, then it is partly the fault of the people around you too. They can be direct culprits in this, or indirect, for example, be indifferent to your life situation. So start communicating with successful people, kind and those who will believe in your potential changes. For other people, it’s better not to talk about your plans at all, just stop contacting them and that’s it...
- Find the strength to get up after falling. Of course, when building a successful and happy future, constant problems and failures will arise. In these difficult moments, you should never give up or give up. You need to “get up from your knees” and continue to go ahead towards your best life. Be prepared for such difficulties. Look for support among people close to you. Be bolder and more persistent, because you still need to achieve your happiness, no matter what the cost.
- Take action now! Do you know what is the best moment to start your changes?! RIGHT NOW!!! Do you want to change yourself and your life?! Then start changing immediately, don’t wait for the right moment, it may never happen, but that doesn’t mean you need to sit and wait for it. The faster you “start”, the faster you will reach your goal - your best life.