While some men wonder whether older women want sex, others are wondering what kind of sex older women prefer?
It's no secret that representatives of the fair sex who have reached 50 years old have problems of an emotional and physiological nature.
Many ladies believe that they are no longer suitable for intimate activities. Now you will find out what professionals, in particular me, say about this matter.
Naturally, every better half who reaches old age experiences some changes in their body. The lady now needs more time to get aroused. The walls of the vagina become much thinner. Sometimes cramps in the uterus cause pain.
In this regard, the woman begins to avoid making love. “Sex now only causes problems!” We should also mention that estrogen production decreases in older women. There is nothing surprising in the occurrence of hormonal storms in a woman. When they appear, the weaker half turns into a fury. Her mood changes every now and then.
The woman begins to believe that everything is over with lovemaking. However, there is absolutely no need for you to convince yourself that stronger halves prefer only young girls for sex. If you have any complexes, then you need to get rid of them as soon as possible. And stop wearing headscarves!
You should remember that androgen levels increase in older women. These are male hormones. They help increase libido. So after menopause, sex drive increases, not decreases. Your sexual functions are preserved.
Menopause is not a reason to give up making love. Moreover, representatives of the stronger sex may well like you. Let us remind you that you have now become more feminine.
Unfortunately, in our time, only some beautiful halves are aware of the advantages of their age. They not only have sex, but also take care of their grandchildren and create literary works.
As for the rest, they get depressed. Here, to a greater extent, we're talking about about those whose children started their own families. They lock themselves in four walls and prepare for a future without sexual intercourse.
However this is completely uselessat . The best thing you can do now is to tune in to what your sex life will continue for at least 15 years. It is worth noting that the absence of sexual intercourse further contributes to the process of withering and spoils nervous system. As a result, the lady develops insanity.
How to survive a crisis for your better half?
Naturally, you first need to awaken your sexual desire. In this case, you need support loved one. If, due to his character, he is not able to support you, then you will have to get rid of negative emotions yourself.
Are you struggling with the thought of going through menopause? But it cannot last a lifetime! This is a temporary phenomenon. You just need to adapt to your new sensations.
Of course, your hair gradually turns gray. Wrinkles appear on the face. And there are a lot of beautiful ladies around you. However, you should remember that they will also reach old age someday. In addition, you have some advantages over youth. In addition, you can always make your appearance attractive.
It is worth noting that many representatives of the stronger sex believe that their better halves, who reach old age, turn into real women. They are excited by the rounded shapes of ladies.
We would also like to say that as women get older, their sexual and creative energy increases. Naturally, stronger halves feel this on a subconscious level.
If you want men to continue to pay attention to you, then you need to buy yourself modern outfits and new sets of cosmetics. Start watching erotic films. It wouldn't hurt to have a pet.
He will provide beneficial influence on your state of mind. If you wish, you can sign up for aerobics classes. You can also start writing books.
Are you constantly haunted by the thought that your youth is behind you? There's nothing wrong with that. After all, the most important thing in a beautiful soulmate is mystery. It is worth noting that energy begins to hit just after reaching adulthood. And representatives of the stronger sex understand this very well. So stop hiding!
Are you shy? Why don't you visit a sex shop while walking in the fresh air?
Exploring all kinds of sex in old age
First, buy the Kama Sutra. Try to learn some poses with your loved one. Does not exceed? Do you find this too difficult? Then your best bet is to do what you can for now. Have oral and anal sex. Does this seem indecent to you? Do you consider this debauchery? Let us remind you that all the inhabitants of the Earth are fond of this. The missionary position “went out of fashion” many years ago. So it's time to try something different!
Naturally, if a representative of the stronger sex has such a quality as rudeness, then he can unknowingly cause you pain. To avoid this, you can ask your chosen one to enter your anus with his little finger. However, even in this situation, foreplay is necessary.
It consists of massaging the cleavage and stroking the woman’s buttocks. It is worth noting that anal intercourse, performed for the first time, resembles defloration. Therefore, your chosen one should treat you like a virgin.
First, you need to lubricate your little finger with something. Afterwards it should be slowly and carefully inserted into the anus up to the joint. Then you can start moving in a circle.
If you have never had anal intercourse before, then the above needs to be explained to your loved one. It is possible that such manipulations will not be to your liking. Then you will need to look for something more enjoyable.
Attention! If you suffer from any rectal disease, then it is advisable to forget about anal intercourse for now. Otherwise, the disease may worsen.
If you like older women and you feel the need for the strong-willed and gentle hand of an experienced “mommy”, the idea of seducing such an adult lady has probably come to your mind more than once. You can be attracted to anything about her: her experience, mental maturity, responsibility, character, facial contours and body shape. Don't be afraid of this if you are interested in adult woman you have a stronger attraction to young girls. For you, she is charming and attractive, you play out the most daring stories with her in your mind, so why not try to seduce her?
Unlike young girls, whose life experience is usually very limited, older women usually know what they want. They know what makes them attractive, what men pay attention to, what to wear and how to “present” themselves. This is good because you are much less likely to have to listen to her naive worries about “nobody understands me” or “I don’t know what to wear.” In addition, it is generally more pleasant and interesting to communicate with such a lady than with a capricious young beauty with unformed views on life.
Sexual desire in mature women is usually higher than in twenty-year-old women. If they like a man, they can easily approach him and begin to provoke him with gestures, intonations, and posture. Therefore, if you feel a strong attraction to a certain person, perhaps this is partly due to her.
How to seduce an experienced lady
The first thing you need to do to seduce any woman you like is to approach her and get to know her. If you stand quietly on the sidelines and just watch her, without even trying to show minimal activity, your fantasies will remain fantasies. Therefore, pull yourself together and act boldly.
To seduce a woman, make her feel special, desired, and show interest in her. Show her that you like her and feel sexually attracted to her, and then, if it is mutual, you may not even have to make much effort: she will do the rest herself.
What problems may await you in a relationship with an accomplished woman?
An older woman usually has her own habits and outlook on life. This is also accompanied by: an established social circle, girlfriends, relatives, possibly children, husbands and lovers, problems at work... In addition to you, she, as a rule, has many more things to do. And in you she can see an eternal “boy” who needs to be raised, looked after, taught everything all the time, but who pampers her with his attention and quenches her sexual hunger. In addition, you should prepare for unexpected, sometimes unpleasant reactions to your relationship from other people. Are you ready for such tests?
Older women prefer younger men...
Perhaps today you have already begun to pay more attention to couples where an older woman is in a relationship with her younger partner. You yourself know how society treats such acquaintances. For me, this is hypocrisy and double standards. Why then does this respectable society close its eyes and consider it in the order of things when a rumpled but well-packed old man takes as his wife a girl who is old enough to be his daughter or even his granddaughter?
Let's now think about why older women prefer younger men?
Have you ever thought about the fact that even an elderly lady can fall in love. As they say, "you can't command love" and now, we are already seeing a picture of how this very love makes a seemingly already experienced woman do strange things.
The first thing that comes to mind is that
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Between the ages of 18 and 27, guys reach their sexual peak, while women reach the same peak between the ages of 35 and 45. And here we see a picture that by the age of 40+ men are less eager to show off in bed, they are already tired of everything, everything is predictable, and in the end they are lazy, their priorities are already different (doctors say that this is somehow connected with a decrease in testosterone) . Well, but our young stallions kick with their hooves, and as they say, “throw themselves at everything that moves,” which means that our elderly heroines in their person find themselves in bed.
Young men tend to look up to older women and appreciate them. They charm them with compliments, well, as you know, everything women love compliments, especially if it’s all presented correctly.
Young guys are more open, for older women it’s like a breath of fresh air.
Well, we are missing out on equally important attractive factors, such as: young and strong bodies, sparkling eyes and a smile, which gives their relationship more romantic shades. Here our elderly hero loses on all counts with his, and sparkling... . And what are his boring thoughts about the meaning of life and eternal discontent and laziness worth?
The other side of the coin.
Many older ladies throw themselves at young men, perhaps because they want to prove, both to themselves and to others, that they are still young enough and can attract the attention of younger individuals to their person.
After many years of marriage, when she does not receive attention from her husband, when her children are already grown-up and living independently, she feels the need to prove to herself that she is still desirable to someone.
Another reason why older women prefer younger men.
Don't you think that we are all children at heart, regardless of age?
And this is probably the reason that makes older women, but young souls, "break away" - remember your youth !
These include noisy parties, long trips or hikes, extravagant outfits on the verge of a foul, or... the desire to stay overnight with a young man.
Young men make older women feel younger.
In addition, according to my observations, modern women aged 40+ today look younger than their peers aged 40-50.
Perhaps another factor pushing older women into relationships with younger men is satisfying them maternal instincts . The desire to educate and dictate your terms. This is especially true in women who for a long time lived in a marriage with a husband who suppressed her desires and desires to express herself.
Many women from the former USSR feel that by the age of 50 their lives are already over.
It is no secret that current mass culture is a culture that fetishizes youth and beauty. But times are not the same, comrades!
Look at the 40, 50, 60...year old successful women today. Over the past half century, the social and financial status of women has changed significantly. Today women feel much more confident and independent than they did before.
Today the show has become popular in the West "Age of Love" featuring 20 year old young girls - "Kittens" and more mature ones - "Cougars" 40 summer women. Women compete for the main prize - love of 30 year old tennis star Mark Philippoussis. After NBC aired this show, literally within a couple of days its ratings went through the roof!
Once again I have to repeat the hackneyed phrase that “Age is not how old you are, but how old you feel.” There are many young women who are already old women at heart, and vice versa.
At any age you can start living again. The age difference should not be a criterion for those who like another person, although he is younger than you.
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“Survival age” and the stone penis
Naturally, sex at 70 is not the same as at 20, primarily because normal age-related changes occur in the body. At the age of 45–55, women go through menopause: over the course of several years, the ovaries stop producing eggs and hormonal changes in the body occur, which are often accompanied by unpleasant symptoms, for example, “hot flashes” (when suddenly it becomes hot and the face begins to “burn”), mood swings, weakness, changes in skin texture, body proportions, the appearance of noticeable wrinkles. Many women note a decrease in libido, vaginal dryness and discomfort during penetration - due to a decrease in the amount of estrogen throughout the body, the vaginal walls become thinner and more sensitive, and less lubricant is secreted. Not all women feel Negative influence menopause, but many report depression, anxiety and emotional instability, much like during PMS (imagine PMS lasting several years!).
By the age of 50, an important stress factor, the fear of unplanned pregnancy, disappears, but the ability to have orgasms remains.
But there is also good news: despite all the difficulties associated with hormonal changes, some women note that after menopause their sex life has become better, because by the age of 50, an important stress factor - the fear of an unplanned pregnancy - disappears, and the opportunity to have orgasms remains. Many unpleasant symptoms of menopause can be alleviated - including through sex: we already know how oxytocin, produced during orgasm, is useful, and how sexual arousal and release act on the body.
Men also go through age-related changes - not as drastic as women's, but no less exciting. By analogy with menopause, the processes occurring in the male body are called andropause - this is not an entirely correct term, since men do not lose their ability to reproduce, but experience a gradual decrease in testosterone production. Every fifth man experiences erectile dysfunction during his life. Previously it was believed that this disorder was associated with age-related changes, but now doctors believe that it is caused by medical or psychological factors: erectile dysfunction is much more common in men with diabetes, cardiovascular and neurological diseases, and it is also associated with lifestyle (for example, habit of alcohol and cigarettes) and psychological state - like women, many men in adulthood feel less attractive, and erectile dysfunction makes them doubt their “masculinity,” which in the collective consciousness is associated with a stone penis.
On the screen you still hardly see a sex scene or a close-up with a kiss of people over 60
The level of desire, the ability to arousal and orgasm in both men and women are affected not only by diseases, but also by the drugs with which they are treated. This is not as scary as it seems: most common problems can be solved by contacting a regular therapist, psychotherapist, sexologist or endocrinologist, who will help you choose hormone replacement therapy. There are many advantages to adulthood that extend to sex: by the age of 50–60, people begin to better understand what they like, listen to and take care of their body, and get rid of stereotypes and unrealistic expectations.
Partners who have lived together for a long time finally cease to be shy about each other - besides, if adult children have safely moved into their own home, the parents finally have personal space and more time for each other. Single people can also be sexually active - it is more difficult for them to meet partners of their own age than for 20-year-olds, but no one has canceled masturbation and sex toys (especially since things like vaginal balls and exercise machines help keep the pelvic muscles in good shape, so Women after menopause will find them very useful). It turns out that there are no objective physiological reasons to stop having sex at 45 or 60 - cultural attitudes are primarily to blame for the fact that many voluntarily give up sexual activity in adulthood.
Pop culture and eternal youth
Intimate relationships in adulthood are a topic that popular culture ignores or ridicules: sexually active older people are spoken of either in the spirit of “gray hair, devil in the rib,” as if they were behaving indecently, or ironically and touchingly, as if they were That people over 60 are able to love and experience pleasure is something extraordinary and inspiring. “The natural need for physical contact, tenderness, expression of sympathy and love is buried behind conversations about decent behavior, age-related characteristics, and the special spirituality of older people. This is ageism, or total discrimination of a person based on age,” says sociologist Dmitry Rogozin.
Older people are already underrepresented in popular culture, and romantic and sensual relationships between them are shown very rarely: although in cinema there has been a slight shift towards positive portrayals of old age, on the screen you are still unlikely to see a sex scene or a close-up with a kiss of people over 60. One of these exceptions is noted in At the Berlin Film Festival, the film “45 Years,” in which Charlotte Rampling and Tom Courtenay play spouses who have lived together for almost half a century. The film differs from other stories about a family crisis not only in that it contains a realistic sex scene, but also in that the intimate relationship of an elderly couple is shown outside of a comedic context. “It was funny and strange to watch how, during the screenings, an awkward silence suddenly arose in the auditorium; the public is sure that Charlotte’s heroine, Kate, will now close the door to the bedroom behind her, and the episode will end there. But that’s not the case - we continue to film in the bedroom,” said the director of the film, Andrew Hay, after the premiere. “The fact that as people get older, people stop being sexually attracted to each other is a very sad thing for me, a 42-year-old man.”
In most Hollywood films, sex among "those who care about..." appears solely as a joke: in box office hits like "Marigold Hotel". “Best of the Exotic,” all sex scenes remain behind the scenes, and in those films where there are sex scenes with middle-aged people, the audience’s attention is focused on comical difficulties such as a back crunch at the wrong time or the need to run to the kitchen for Viagra. There is also a gender imbalance: scenes with mature men and much more young women They occur often, but on the contrary - almost never. 70-year-old men often play 50-year-old men, but with women the situation is the opposite: however, even if the actress’s age corresponds to what is written in the script, it is unlikely that real women will associate themselves with superstars like Charlotte Rampling or Meryl Streep.
“45+” and Russian pensioners
It would be dishonest to compare Russian pensioners with Western ones without mentioning the differences in their standard of living: most Russians over 60 live, to put it mildly, poorly, and pressing problems like a lack of medicine or food clearly push problems with sex into the background. It’s hard to imagine that Russian women over 70 are as happy with a new vibrator as the heroine of the series “” - primarily because such a vibrator costs as much as three pensions. The same can be said about consultations with a sexologist, and about psychotherapy, and even about buying condoms - all this is available to a narrow layer of more or less wealthy pensioners. Nevertheless main problem What remains is ageism and a culture of shame in which older people are denied sexuality and physicality in general.
From the USSR we inherited the belief that in youth you can have a little fun, and then “you have to raise your children” and no longer have time for sex - after the birth of grandchildren, sex should completely disappear by itself. According to surveys of Russian pensioners, it becomes clear that people give up physical intimacy at the age of 45–55 voluntarily, without serious reasons - simply because it is customary. In the older generation there are many single people, especially women - this is due to the difference in life expectancy and the fact that starting a new relationship “at the end of life” (although “sunset” can take 20 or 30 years) is unusual and scary.
“Is it possible to live as brightly at the age of 45+ as in your youth? Today a woman is capable of even this!” thematic sites cheerfully declare, cleverly ignoring the fact that 45 is not old at all. Relationships, falling in love and sex are for the young, thin and healthy, so any manifestations of sexuality and eroticism at an older age (and the “oldest age” for sex in Russia is 45–60 years old) are surrounded by an aura of shame. Nevertheless, Russians over 60 have sex - and, as RANEPA sociologists found out, they are even ready to talk about it. The head of the study, Dmitry Rogozin, notes that women talk about relationships and intimacy much more willingly and calmly: apparently, this is due to the fact that all romantic topics are labeled as “feminine”, and it is “undignified” for men to discuss such things, so the language for talking about sex is they were developed at the level of bragging in front of the boys. It is important to understand that not only glamorous, slender old women like Buddy Winkle- even the most ordinary elderly people have an intimate life, those who have never accessed the Internet in their lives, live in small town, watches talk shows on Channel One and embodies other stereotypes about old age in Russia.
Life hacks and security
If you search for “sex and older people” you will get a bunch of links to porn. In an English-language search, porn also comes up, but the situation is generally better: for the query “sex seniors”, links appear to lifestyle publications for older people with advice, safety rules, dating forums and personal stories. Western doctors and sexuality researchers are confident that intimate life for older people there is nothing abnormal, but they emphasize the need for sex education: not everyone knows that after menopause, condoms are also needed - pregnancy certainly will not occur, but you can easily pick up an infection.
We once wrote that an erect penis is not necessary for sex - the same idea is promoted by specialists who advise sexually active pensioners. Mature age- it’s time to reconsider your attitude towards intimacy in principle and expand your sexual practices: changes in the body and some diseases do not always make it possible to have sex in the same way as in youth, but they turn on the imagination and force you to try new things. Massage, oral sex, long foreplay, hugs and touches - these and many other sexual practices are available to even the oldest couples.
It is also recognized for residents of nursing homes - in progressive institutions, older people are given the opportunity to have privacy and are given free condoms, and established couples can live together. This is not a call for depravity, but respect: old people are often treated like helpless children, even if everything is in order with their intellect, and they are deprived of their last shreds of independence.
If the idea of sex at 80 still seems ridiculous to you, you may remember that in Pushkin's times a 25-year-old woman was considered a respectable lady, and a 50-year-old woman was considered an ancient crone, but average duration Life and ideas about old age have changed a lot since then. If modern Russian pensioners are primarily Soviet people who are not used to talking about sex, then in the West, 80-year-olds are those who hung out at Woodstock, lived in hippie communes, participated in the Stonewall riots, the May 1968 demonstrations and the first gay -parades - or at least followed these events in the news. Those who were sexually active in their youth do not want to stop because of someone’s prejudices - so we can expect even more from the current generation of emancipation and sex education.
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Older women love younger men, why is that so? Currently, there are couples in which the lady is older than her companion, and the age difference is not an obstacle to good relations. There is an expression - “you can’t order love”; accordingly, some people do not pay attention to their years and build relationships with each other.
Why is this happening? Women believe that young men are better in bed, while representatives of the stronger sex over fifty are no longer so active in sexual manifestations in bed, this is due to the beginning of a decrease in testosterone.
Young men look at older ladies with admiration, charm them with compliments, and, as you know, all women love to listen to compliments, especially if they are presented correctly.
In addition, women are attracted to a young male body; ladies attach the most romantic shades to such relationships. Indeed, in this aspect the elderly man loses: he no longer young body, emerging belly, and so on.
Many older ladies try to actively date young men, thereby proving to themselves that they are still young and attractive and may well deserve the attention of younger representatives of the stronger sex.
After many years of marriage, when a woman does not receive enough attention from her husband, when children live independently, she feels the need to prove to herself that she is still beautiful and desirable and enjoys the attention of men.
Another reason is the feeling of being young at heart. Older women are young inside and are not aware of their age and prefer younger guys. Communicating with such a person makes you feel much better. You can once again attend noisy parties and dress up in extravagant outfits.
Communication with young men makes older women feel even younger. In addition, modern ladies can remain more youthful in appearance than their peers due to well-developed plastic surgery, which will help improve their appearance, which will make a woman more attractive.
Another reason why a lady wants to have a relationship with a young man is to satisfy the so-called maternal instincts. A woman’s desire to educate and express herself in this way.
Currently, older women feel more confident than in Soviet times, since they have become more independent, their social status changed. Television often began to show shows where older ladies compete with each other for the opportunity to have a relationship with a young man. At the same time, the ratings of such shows are literally off the charts.
At any age, you can start a new relationship if you really want to, and the age difference should not put pressure on the relationship between the opposite sex, even with big difference in years.