Ecology of life. Psychology: My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone. This is the state - “totally bad.”
My head became heavy, my thoughts hung in gray wool, a lump rolled up in my throat, tears froze in my eyes. There is no strength to speak or cry. I don’t have the strength to ask for help or call someone.
This is the state - “totally bad.”
- What do you want now?
- I do not want anything. I want everyone to leave me alone. It would be better if I never existed at all. To avoid this starting point of the report...
– This is global. What do you want very little for yourself now?
- ..... so that there is no noise around, ... so that everything calms down, and I am left completely alone ...
- What can you do for yourself now?
Finding an answer to the question “What can I do for myself now?” launches a program to overcome depression, despair and exhaustion.
I am not anyone else. Mobilization own strength, resource search.
I can - I definitely can. Finding a solution and selecting an action within your capabilities.
Do it – don’t just think about it, but do it. Movement towards specific actions and changes in the situation.
Now - at this moment, not sometime in the future, but already now. Making a decision and taking immediate action.
This action is usually very small, takes the person out from under the hood, and triggers the self-rescue mechanism.
What is the smallest thing I want for myself and what can I do for myself right now?
“I don’t want to see these walls, so that no one bothers me.”
I can leave here immediately by turning off my phone.
-I want it to be quiet and I was alone.
I can ask everyone to gather their remaining strength to get out of here and leave me alone for two hours.
As soon as an action occurs that responds to an urgent need, that’s it, the mechanism is launched.
At this exit stage, you should not try to analyze the situation. This is a pointless waste of resource. You now do not have the opportunity to objectively and adequately perceive what is coming.
While you are inside the problem, you will not be able to look at it from the outside.
Try to “turn off your head.” Throw out any thoughts that come, and try to remain in complete emptiness.
Mastering the technique of “thinking nothing,” the ability to stop the flow of your own thoughts, is not easy, but it is possible.
It will allow you to take a break from exhausting “crisis decisions” and searching for those to blame.
Be in this state at this stage for as long as you need to regain your strength and start breathing.
The first opportunity to analyze will come the next day. Even then, don't try to make long-term decisions.
You will be able to understand what really happened and how to do it differently next time no earlier than in a few days, and the more time passes, the more objective your view will be. “Big things are seen from a distance.”
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Therefore, you shouldn’t make furious decisions “under the hood”: “That’s it! I’m getting a divorce!” or write resignation letters. Perhaps it’s worth hanging up and you’ve grown out of this work a long time ago, but this can only be done with a “fresh head.” And it’s better to leave not “from”, but “to”.
When you jump with a parachute, the main thing is not to forget to pull the ring in time.
Remember, maybe someday this will save your life. published
From time to time, every person experiences a situation where they become disappointed in the world around them and reassess their values. When everything that was important disappears and life goes downhill. When everything is bad in life and there is no silver lining. During such a period, everything on which the whole world rested disappears, and with it some people who were dear to them.
A kind of individual Armageddon occurs, which puts pressure on consciousness, as a result of which a heartache, loneliness, problems with finances and health, and then separation of oneself from the world.
Everything is bad in life. What to do?
At such moments, it seems that there is absolutely nothing sacred and bright, simple and joyful left in life, everything is covered with clouds and it seems that there is no way out (even despite the fact that you were once a cheerful and optimistic person). And you understand that no one cares about you, and no one cares what is hidden behind your duty smile. And the people around seem soulless, who only consume and consume without giving anything in return.
And you always owe something to everyone, because all you hear around you is “a woman owes”, “peace in the family depends on a woman”, “a woman is to blame if a man cheats on her or even beats her”, “a woman should warm and feed everyone ", and everything in the same spirit. From everywhere you can only hear that a woman is a flower, a ray of light that decorates and warms the world, and she should be filled with love and happiness.
But how to be this flower, how to be this light, when everything around seems empty and meaningless? How to constantly be in a state of happiness if there is pain and melancholy in your soul? When everything is always bad and there seems to be no way out. When you have been betrayed and not appreciated many times, when you have been rejected and not loved. When everything is bad and pain and despair rolls in. And in a fit of such despair, the woman says: “Nobody loves me, no one needs me, no one cares about me, I’m alone.”
What to do when everything is bad
The most important thing is to understand that everything in your life depends on you. And it is precisely at such moments that you can realize that everything is truly in your hands. And that if something unpleasant is happening in your life now, then on a subconscious level you yourself wanted everything to be this way. The reason can be different, for example, so that you grow spiritually, so that you realize some truths, so that you transform into a different you, happier and more successful.
In a word, so that your whole life changes, and you make some kind of leap into another, better reality. You just have to want to do it. And understand that everything you see is just your idea of the world. And you use exclusively your imagination to see the world and feel yourself in it. And even people you yourself first draw in your imagination, and only then do they materialize in your real world. But often you simply don’t let your brain know what exactly these people should represent in your world, how they should treat you, and why you need them in the first place.
Because at the level of consciousness you cannot understand this, since this level is only 3%, and the remaining 97% is our subconscious, which rules the show called “my life.” And when you stop being offended, suffering and complaining and instead of asking the question “Why”, you begin to ask the question “Why” - everything will change in your life. Not “Why did HE do this to me?”, but “Why did I make him do this to me?” It’s not WHY these events happen in my life, but WHY they happen in it.
There may be several attitudes to one situation, when you ask yourself “why”, they will begin to come out, and understanding will come to you. Your subconscious will give you signals and point to the key point from which negative changes began. You will definitely receive an answer to the question “why”; this can happen either within 1-2 minutes or within several hours. And then relief will come and the situation will change for the better.
And so in all areas of life - don’t look for the guilty, look for the reason. Your personal reason. And then a lot will become clear to you. And consider any of your problems or failures, any of your failures, any unpleasant situation not as a bandwagon from the world or bad people who supposedly wish you harm, but as a reason to reconsider your views on life and change your behavior.
If this article was useful to you and you want to tell your friends about it, click on the buttons. Thank you very much! A “stone” in the soul is not a simple depression caused by a light bulb. This means that there are unfinished problems in life, and thoughts are painful and confused. There seems to be no one to put the burden of your problems on; you have to solve everything yourself, and what exactly to do with everything that has piled up is unknown.
And when the very peak of bad luck comes, everything is bad, there is emptiness in the soul, and one gives up, only then does that same depression begin. If you are already in this state, then let’s dig in - what went wrong?
Procrastination - compound word, but its essence is familiar to almost every person. Psychologists use this word to mean putting things off “until tomorrow.” This “tomorrow”, again, is postponed to an indefinite day, and meanwhile other unfinished tasks are collected in a huge lump.
No, this is not simple laziness when a person just wants to relax and gain strength. This is a burden of problems that need to be dealt with urgently, so rest is out of the question. But other things cannot wait, and they are all just as urgent. In the end, everything is done on a quick fix V last minute and a blunder.
The result is that the result did not bring joy, the chance of victory was missed, and hence moral devastation. To prevent this from happening, here are some tips:
If you get down to business, try to do it right away. Well, as a last resort, take a short time out for inspiration.
Don't take on everything at once, doing everything halfway. It is better to abstract from other problems, but focus on the most important.
Don't make promises to everyone to look good. It’s better to refuse once and remain honest than to promise, fail to deliver, and then hide.
If you are overdue, find out if there is still a chance to catch up. If there is, do everything immediately; if not, forget about it.
Don't mope over what you missed. This is a lesson for you - either you are trying to burden yourself with something beyond your strength, or the process itself is unpleasant for you, and therefore unnecessary.
Procrastination is dangerous when it comes to personal health or the health of loved ones. These problems definitely cannot be put off. And everything else is nonsense: work, household chores and other little things. So they weren't that important if they could be put off.
Therefore, the emptiness in your soul is just time to think about new plans. Like a space on a keyboard between words: finished one word - “space” - start another. Just don’t repeat your mistakes, at least make a clear schedule.
Almost all people are afraid of losing the property they own. The fear is almost obsessive. They think that if they lose everything, there will not only be emptiness in their souls, but life will lose all meaning.
Nowadays the path to getting rich is too easy. Take out loans, a mortgage - here you have housing, a car and a house full of all the benefits. But as soon as you lose a prestigious job, everything goes topsy-turvy:
The apartment and car are taken away for non-payment.
All the gold remained in the pawnshop.
Loans are stifling, collecting interest.
An emptiness in your pocket is an emptiness in your soul; no one can help, because even friends have defected to the side of more successful friends.
Unfortunately, the burden of such problems is felt by the vast population of our country. They lured everyone in with too sweet a candy, without explaining how bitter it was inside. And only a few look at everything with optimism:
We didn’t live richly - and there was no need to start. Again rental apartment- yeah, I don’t care. A mortgage is the same as renting, only much more expensive.
Thank you to fate for helping me get rid of false “friends”. Now it’s clear who is who. True friends remained close even in poverty.
The loans will go away and be forgotten. And fate gave me a chance to start living with clean slate and pointed out past mistakes.
The main thing is that key phrase here to “start living.” And therefore, everything is just beginning, and it’s time to fill this emptiness in the soul with something new and good.
If you don’t look at everything with optimism, you will mentally kill yourself and your family. But in such a situation, you need at least one person who will pull all those suffering up, and not down. And it will be better if you turn out to be such a person.
In general, we need to look at all these problems philosophically: “Thank you, God, for taking me with money. All my relatives are alive and well, and that’s the main thing!”
Changes in your personal life - and not for the better
This is where the spiritual emptiness is difficult to close. Only doctor time can heal. Although in some cases all is not lost.
My husband left me
Such sad changes in the family throw a woman off balance for a long time. Especially when a homewrecker appears on the way. First there are hysterics, threats, belittlement, and then - depression, emptiness, heaviness in the soul.
But how many times have such gulens returned home guilty? How many times has it happened that women have already “boiled over” and no longer want to let their spouses in the door? And how many times have women fallen in love in a new way, and she no longer needed this old womanizer!
Therefore, if your husband is now lost, and you can’t find a place for yourself, know that he is actually still alive. There are many options for returning him to his family, and one option is that you no longer need him.
Or maybe you are to blame for something? Maybe there is a chance to fix something? Maybe there is no homewrecker? Then don't put it off until tomorrow - dry your tears and act today.
Losing a loved one
This is where things get more complicated. For example, my mother passed away. You've already cried all your tears, they're gone scary days all the farewell ceremonies, and you went into deep depression. You look at one point, you don’t want to communicate with anyone, even though you are incredibly lonely.
For now, time is working to heal you psychologically. Nothing is needed yet. Unobtrusive care from family and friends is good. The main thing is that they don’t jerk you now in order to “knock the depressive crap out of your head.” This is not nonsense, this is how it should be.
The best way out is to communicate with someone who has already gone through a similar stage. Only he will help calm you down and explain how best to get out of depression. It is in him that there will be trust. Just don't get hooked by some sect.
I hear apathetic ringing, but I don’t know where it is
The worst thing is to succumb to depression when you are trying to make yourself feel worse. I want to cry, but there seems to be no reason. Some kind of melancholy, nothing more. It either swirls in the stomach area or gives off pain in the heart, but you don’t understand: is this a premonition of something bad?
Yes, there is fear for the future - you are expecting something, but you have convinced yourself in advance that the outcome must necessarily be bad. This is the mistake many people make. Moreover, the roots of this behavior sprout from childhood.
If you grew up in some kind of inevitable fear from childhood (there was violence and tyranny in the family), then such an oppressive state will always accompany you. It is called the persecuting and punishing superego. Moreover, if what scares you does happen, then you will only have yourself to blame for it.
If your condition If you’re already close to the fact that only a bear’s bed can save you, then read the article. Maybe this is where your depression lurks, even to the point of health problems. But if you are still able to move and work, then a few tips will not hurt you:
Don't beat yourself up over stupid things. Like, I had a dream bad dream or the fortune teller guessed something. A dream is just a reflection of our thoughts, which is why this “scenario” develops. But a fortune teller needs to earn money, so he prophesies all sorts of nonsense.
Surround yourself with positivity. If you want chocolate, but if you want, let’s sabant with your friends. Watch comedies on TV, switch to thrillers and don't watch politics.
Don't put your problems on others if they are incompetent to do so. Lawyers and doctors are one thing, amateurs who promise but don’t deliver are another.
Think only about a good outcome. And for this, act yourself, if it is in your power. And again, don’t put anything off.
In general, you can easily get rid of the feeling of heaviness in your soul with the help of some sedative medications. And they cannot be excluded either. Calmed my nerves - cleared my head for good thoughts - and there will be so many solutions at once to throw off a heavy mountain of problems from your shoulders!
Black streak in life? What to do when everything is bad, when there are no those who know and know how to do good for you? Don't worry, just read on. Currently, I am coming out of a situation that has never been more difficult in my life before, and it’s not even that there is no one who would do good to me. You can find out what specific “bonuses” I received further, but I have already solved my main problem, namely, I turned my life in the right direction, all that remains is to get rid of the consequences of past mistakes, but this is a matter of technology and time. Taking action is the simplest thing, the main thing is to know what, otherwise you may feel that all your efforts are in vain.
Hard scary truth
Today I will be like that grandfather who, when telling his grandson about the war, to complete the picture, threw earth on his head. I hope that you can take a lot of useful things from my story.
What helped me and continues to help me
Just a few days ago, I was in a terrible situation, so I know exactly how a person feels when everything is really bad.
You're not the only one
More recently, I was a “master” of creating black streaks and problems in my life at lightning speed; I managed to ruin even a relatively good life. I couldn’t understand whether the licks weren’t moving, or whether I had problems with my head. However, every time I analyzed the situation, found a solution, and reached a new level of life for myself, which was always better than the previous one. Therefore, I can call myself a master in overcoming black streaks and life’s difficulties. Only now have I begun to understand more and more clearly that it is better to become a master of how to control your life so as not to let things go to waste. severe case. Looking back, I am amazed at how I managed to get out, despite the fact that I made such serious mistakes, of which there were also a lot. But there are explanations for this, which I will talk about later.
How I ruined my old life
So that you understand me, first let me tell you what situation I had, what I have now, and what I ultimately understood for myself. In order to create something new, you need to destroy or get rid of something old. The main thing is that this update allows the person himself to become better, and becomes a springboard to a new, better life.
A dark streak in life, a brief history
Part one "flowers"
At the end of 2011, I failed in my business (through my own fault), accumulated $2,000 in debt, and was forced to move to live with my parents in a small village, since I could no longer afford to rent an apartment. This situation had happened before, but it was managed without much debt; this time everything was much more complicated. Throughout 2012, I worked on my business to get off the ground and pay off my debts so that my life would be calmer. In my failures of previous years, I realized that one of the biggest factors in my collapse was the presence bad habits(especially alcohol). This greatly disrupts a person’s energy (but at the time I didn’t understand how much), plus there are serious expenses, as well as a complete loss of life discipline and organization. Therefore, at that time I had already gotten rid of the main bad habits, but this was not enough. True, the absence of bad habits allowed me to recover relatively quickly during that crisis, and what’s even nicer is that in 2013 I was able to reach a level of income that I did not know before, and which previously seemed very large to me.
Part two "berries"
In 2013, I had already paid off my debts, had a good income (up to $7,000 per month), rented a good apartment in the city center, and very quickly found myself a permanent girlfriend. Sometimes I dated other girls. My life changed so quickly that I became very self-confident and fearless, I thought that I didn’t have to be afraid of big risks, since I can rise from scratch relatively quickly. The experiences of previous years ultimately taught me something, but not everything. I thought I would never allow myself to return to poverty again, but it turned out that an even more difficult test awaited me then.
In more early years I spent tens of thousands of rubles every month on alcohol, cigarettes and various establishments, but in 2013 I no longer had such a problem. In 2013 there was another problem, this time I was let down by many extremely risky decisions. Now, I understand that even one such risk was completely unacceptable, and I made a number of very risky decisions. I was also let down by my complete inability to handle money and lack of organization. Now I understand that these serious gaps in my development might not have existed if I had studied in detail the art of managing money and the art of time management.
Part three "tin"
As a result, I met 2014 again in a small village at my parents’ house, but this time, the dark streak lasted for two long years. Summing up 2014, I realized that the year was the most difficult for me in my life, although it was also the most valuable. But 2015 became even more difficult for me, and more valuable.
What was my situation:
At first I tried to get promoted, but for some reason luck then turned away from me. I started many different projects, but could not get even the minimum result anywhere. I quit my previous activity in favor of my new business, because I decided that my goals and my type of activity should be consistent with my values. I created this site (website), and several other projects (online stores and information sites). But when I already owed money to my parents, friends, acquaintances, and the bank, I realized that most likely I needed to find a job, first, at least pay off my debts, and start earning at least some money. And I started looking for a job.
Since since 2008 there was not a single entry in my work book, because I worked for myself, they didn’t hire me anywhere, since my profile looked very suspicious compared to others (I think employers didn’t believe me). I borrowed money (although no one gave it to me anymore) wherever I could, to put a little money on my phone, and to go to an interview. Usually these interviews were in vain, since after studying my profile, they did not call me back. I often walked to an interview when I stayed in the city with friends with whom I still continued to communicate. Sometimes I managed to find work in construction and sales, but there was piecework wages, and often the advertisements there were not particularly truthful, and I received exactly as much as I borrowed to travel to this job and buy minimal food. Sometimes I traveled in vain, simply wasting borrowed money on travel, and getting nothing in the end.
It often happened that I didn’t eat all day, I lost a lot of weight. Sometimes I had to walk to the city and then inside the city. Such a hike in one direction is approximately 20 kilometers.
Personal life
For 2 years, my wardrobe was not updated at all, I was unable to build relationships with girls. All I could do was just have a nice conversation with them on the day I met them, but there are enough interesting guys and men in the world even without me. Why did I even get to know them, if all I could offer them was walks under the sky, and an invitation to my very cold (with weak heating) a tiny semi-room in a village (which is still a few km away from the stop) not far from the city? Why did I meet them? It just often happened that I liked a girl so much that I simply could not afford to remain idle. I didn’t even have the opportunity to call these girls, and all I could do was send them “beacons.” As a result, no one ever called me back on the beacons. And I completely understand them, at that time I was just a 31-year-old loser for them, albeit with a set of some internal qualities and life experience. I am a reflection of my current results, I understood that my past and future results mean nothing. Just a few years ago, I felt careless, it seemed to me that youth was endless, and that you could be careless and not fear anything in life, that everything could always be corrected. This is true, but time cannot be turned back, even if next year I can return to my previous standard of living, then at 32-33 years old, I already understand that I will never be a 22-25 year old guy again. I always dreamed that in the future I would have a family, a wife and children, I always thought that this future was far ahead. Now I understand that the time has come and that I no longer have the right to be irresponsible.
Beautiful girls with parameters 90x60x90 easily fit in a man's wallet.
I can say that men don’t need to worry too much about their personal lives. With us everything is simple, it is better to focus on achieving a good material level, and then a normal girl can be found in 1-7 days. A girl candidate for a serious relationship, in 30-60 days. Therefore, if you are a guy or a man, then don’t worry, it’s not about you at all (although this is generally believed), but about what you represent today. Girls make decisions according to the following algorithm = instincts + rational logic. The instinct of reproduction does not matter if the instincts of survival or self-preservation tell her that a man will not provide her with a safe and comfortable life. Add to this a powerful herd instinct (to which women are much more susceptible), which tells her a certain level of conformity of her opinion with the public. Rational logic is the second powerful factor; it will first think, estimate benefits, potential opportunities, and only then draw conclusions. Also, she will see if you match her image ideal man. Therefore, never worry about relationships with girls. You just need to always improve yourself in all areas, then girls will be attracted to your life, and nothing will be easier to find a girl. In my case, I made a serious gap in my monetary and financial development, which was the cause of all the other problems in my life. If you compare me today with myself in 2013 (when I had a different standard of living), then we can say with 100% confidence that a man’s personal life directly depends on his standard of living:
- low standard of living = poor personal, despite the effort the result is minimal.
- average standard of living = normal in personal life, but it’s worth trying to be active.
- high standard of living = it happens without effort, it is very easy and simple to build a personal life with one or more girls. Let us remember the instincts (self-preservation, reproduction, gregariousness).
If the girl wants it that way, she will feel the look that you didn’t even cast.
A dark streak in life, a peak moment and the beginning of improvements
To say that I solved all my problems and difficulties would not be entirely correct; I solved them, but did not eliminate the consequences of my difficult situation, and have not yet restored my previous standard of living. Let it be so, but the dark streak in my life has definitely ended, on a mental and emotional level, and then I will share what I did for this.
When things can't get any worse
At the end of 2015, I realized that I was already on the thinnest edge of life.
I realized that the only area where yours is unimportant employment history, this is either working as a helper on construction sites and the like, or sales.
In the first case, when I arrived at most advertisements for a loader or handyman required (I even agreed to go on shift), I discovered that these advertisements turned out to be fake in order to assign the candidate to the pension fund.
I worked in temporary jobs a couple of times, but they cheated me out of money, like the customer didn’t pay, or there wasn’t enough work, they could sit without work all day, or other various reasons for meager payments. So I decided to get a job in sales.
What to do when everything is bad - making a list of goals
In November 2015, I wrote down on paper a list of several goals, the main one being “I found a job.” I didn’t write a time frame, because I wasn’t sure exactly when I would find it, but this action gave such a result that I found a job almost immediately.
When I found a job as a training sales manager, this was my last hope, since no one was lending to me anymore, and I asked to borrow 1000 rubles from my parents. My dad always reacted very harshly to manifestations of my weakness and lack of control in life on my part, so he always criticized me in difficult situations. He very rudely said that I had again found some kind of frivolous nonsense, without even knowing where I got a job. It didn’t matter, he just thought that wherever I got a job, it was always complete nonsense. He had reason to think so, because my results indicated that either this was true, or I myself was not right in the head. I understood that this was my last chance, and I needed to use it.
He didn’t want to lend me money again, since they only had the last money left that was set aside for my mother for medicine, but my mother persuaded him, and he returned to the car (I was sitting in his car) nervously tossed me a piece of paper for 1000 rubles. I silently took it.
The first week of the internship, I had already made one sale of business training for company executives for 35,000 rubles, but still decided to leave because I had studied reviews about this training on the Internet and realized that I would not be able to successfully sell it in the future. I didn't feel any love for the product, so I decided over the weekend to stay away for the second week of my internship.
I still had about 500 rubles left, and winter came.
In December, I continued to study Brian Tracy's book on sales and search new job. I found a job again very quickly, in the first half of December 2015, and asked my manager for the opportunity to start working immediately after one day of internship (instead of several days), since Brian’s book inspired me a lot and gave me confidence. Also, I didn’t want to waste time and money on internship days, but to start earning money. I bought the book “How to Cheat on the Internet” on the Internet. I thought I’d earn Yandex money.. I’d go to the Yandex bar.. And then I’d pester Yandex women... But in the end the book never arrived.
People!!! Don't use the Internet! You will be deceived! Don't believe me? Turn over
The acronym WWW is upside down!
Soon all the money ran out...
Throughout December I lived with a friend, and therefore could walk to work. I had one autumn jacket, because I stopped wearing my ruined coat, lost my hat, and began to wear a thin hat, which could help me.
When I returned to my parents, severe cold set in at the end of December (in the Urals there were also similar days at the beginning of January). Before the New Year, I told my parents that I would have a salary on January 15th. I was able to listen to a lot of unpleasant words and insults addressed to me from my father. He always said that nothing would work out for me, and now he also said that he didn’t believe in me, that I was a missing person. I lived in my parents’ house, ate their food for the second year, constantly borrowing money to get a job. Just before the new year, I experienced the heaviest emotional blow in the last many years, this happened after I listened to these words from my father. I went into the room, although there was absolute calm on my face, but I experienced the strongest pain in the heart area in the last many years. If I were a little girl, I would have cried no matter what. Although with such physical pain in the heart, tears could come from any person's eyes. Then I realized how people have heart attacks, and it's really scary. I also realized that this was a life lesson, and I made a promise to myself that I would always support my future children even in difficult times for them. I also asked the universe to quickly help me recover in order to help my parents, and then our relationship will become normal again.
In one of last days December, I was walking to work to the highway where the minibus stops, and I was so cold that I promised myself to do everything to never allow myself to become poor and semi-destitute again. The frosty wind, mixed with snow, whipped my cheeks and my earlobes coming out from under my short thin hat. I didn’t have gloves, and with my hands in my trouser pockets, when I reached the highway, I waited for a minibus for more than half an hour with my back to the wind. I thanked the universe for giving me this lesson, and for the fact that I was alive and well, despite the fact that I caught two colds in December. I also understood very clearly that most likely the weather would not allow me to sunbathe on the beach tomorrow.
Old 2015, December 31st, I saw off alone, my parents left, and before New Year's Eve, I opened the refrigerator to see if I could satisfy my hunger with some piece of bread, but there was nothing. I often had to go hungry in 2015, but for those days when I ate, I am grateful to my parents and the universe with all my heart.
On December 31, closer to 00.00, I New Year's table my brother’s family called, I was able to eat humanly, and after a while I went to bed. This is how I celebrated the new year, 2016.
Until January 4, 2016, I was on profitable terms, and throughout the frosty first half of January, I tried to instill in myself new daily habits. Back in November '15, after I wrote down my goals, I started practicing new life. Do exercises, meditation, visualization, repeat daily positive statements and affirmations more often. I began to plan the next day more often in the evening, get up at 5 am, learn 60 words daily in English. Just before the new year, December 31st, I made a list of goals for 5 years, for a year, for six months, for 3 months, for a month, for a week. I created and adjusted the schedule several times based on these goals. At the very beginning of January, I started implementing these practices again, and I try to do them every day so that they become a habit. But already now, I noticed how much this affects not only my energy and mood, but also my life in general. But I will write about the series of events in January in the next article (especially since I am writing this article on January 18), maybe something interesting will happen by this time.
Also, in January, when my dad asked for help with the Internet, I remembered the following advertisement: “A 62-year-old woman, mother of three programmers, asks someone not crazy to teach her the Internet.” I figured out how difficult it can be for older people in some simple things, gave my father more time, and gave more information than he asked for. I used this incident to establish a more human relationship with my father, and he began to treat me more calmly. On January 15, I received my first salary for two weeks of December, the first 7,500, the money for which I had been waiting for so long, and was already able to pay off part of the debts, including to my parents. I planned out the next month, and after reading a few in 2015, a lot became clearer to me. I realized that it is very important to learn how to manage them correctly, and then this will help save lives, as well as developing willpower. Willpower is to see the inscription “My messages (1)”, turn off the computer and go to bed.
A bad streak in life, what to do when everything is bad
- discovery of the real truth
- analysis of the situation
- purification of life
- formation of information and energy field
- clearing your path
- introducing new habits
It doesn't matter what gender or age you are. It’s also hard for grown men... Sometimes you meet the woman of your dreams, and she already has a husband and a lover! In fact, the question “what to do when everything is bad” is not correct. There is no such thing as “everything is bad”, it is just an opportunity for growth. Try to find the positive aspects in your situation. Find out what useful things you can learn from this situation, what lessons you can learn. Determine what qualities and skills you were able to acquire while in difficult situation. What have you learned? Feel grateful for these lessons, for the fact that you are still alive, and for the fact that you can change everything. Then you will definitely be able to change your life beyond recognition. Remember that with each “black streak” you became stronger and wiser. You got rid of pride, youthful show-offs, you now really know life, you have become more modest, you know your strengths and weak sides. You eliminate your weaknesses and develop your strengths so that you never again find yourself in a situation “when everything is bad.” You love and respect the people around you, you are grateful to the universe for this experience, you love yourself, your life. After such an attitude, everything in your life begins to change in better side, and your efforts get results much faster. Life helps you, because now you have become careful, you take care of your life and yourself, and it begins to treat you with care.
- Analysis of the situation
What past actions of yours caused the “dark streak in life”?
What actions could again lead to an undesirable result? You need to determine where exactly you messed up and why everything turned out the way it did. You need to determine what you shouldn’t do so as not to aggravate the situation, and what you need to start doing to correct the situation.
- Purification of life
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Hello dear readers of the site www. rainbow - schastie. ru . The topic of our new article:What to do if everything is bad in life?If you have been thinking for a long time why everything is bad and what to do in this situation, then this motivating article is for you! If you are afraid that sooner or later you will be overtaken by a bad streak in life, then read this article!
Where can you start a conversation? Good question which sounds like this: " Why is everything so bad for me? Why has this been happening to me for a long time?” Unfortunately, we all know when a day, a week, or an entire month involves a series of setbacks. We know that another dark streak has come and we believe that it will end someday. And, in principle, this is how it happens. Our whole life is not stable. Nothing in this world is stable. Even you! Today you have good mood, and tomorrow it’s terrible, despite the fact that things are going well for you. Tomorrow you want one thing, and after tomorrow something completely different. Our desires change over time. Today we dream of becoming successful actors, and in 5 years we want to be deputies. But even here, some of you are faithful to only one dream.
What to do if everything is bad in life?
To begin with, you should ask yourself this question out loud: Why am I doing so badly? What exactly is wrong with me now? This is an important step. After all, a person can itch endlessly: “Oh, how terrible everything in my life is. I don't want to live. My life is pure horror." But if you ask him what exactly is wrong with you, he may go into a stupor! It turns out everything is quite good. There is just a habit of being a victim and you need to complain to someone about something. Test yourself! Are you one of those people?We have taken the first step! Now we need to identify the reason why everything is bad. What did you do wrong? Where did you make a mistake? And in order for you to think faster, you need calm down. Without this, your brain will not be able to find you real reasons. While you are angry and irritable, everything gets worse (certainly not better). Most The best way calm down, thisdraw air into your stomach at a speed of 4 seconds and exhale smoothly for all 8 seconds.Inhale through the nose, exhale through the mouth. Inhale for 4 seconds, exhale for 8 seconds. Try this exercise now!
And the third step remains - start thinking positively and enjoying life. This is the only way you can get your white stripe. In order to start thinking positively, you need to keep yourself busy with something interesting. If you are currently depressed, then only sports will help you. Especially running. Running shakes everything out "dirty" thoughts and only energy remains, which charges you for the whole day.
If you just want to improve your mood, then this will help youcomparison method.
1. Compare yourself with people who live much worse than you. Remember people with disabilities who are limited in their movements (and not only). Remember children from orphanages, beggars who don’t even have normal clothes, pensioners who spend their entire pension on medicine, bread and water.
2. If you have a dream, then dream. It's better than not dreaming. We have already said that without a dream a person is the same as dead. Make a map of your desires and all possible actions to implement them. This will make you forget and remember how much good can await you.
3. Start reading positive books, watch funny comedies, watch various videos. You can even play a video game that is interesting to you (the main thing is that it does not annoy you). And what you shouldn't do is drink alcohol. Everything else is possible!
4. Go to the gym, sauna, massage.
This is all that will make you forget about a difficult situation for a while, let your brain calm down, and before you notice it, life begins to get better. Imperceptibly, but getting better.It is important to know and clearly understand:panic, stress, irritability, constant search for reasons why everything is so bad will not help you. Only by calming down with a cool mind can you overcome the black streak. And only by enjoying life will you reach a streak of good luck!
And the last thing that is important to remember: Your problem may go away on its own. This phenomenon exists in our lives. The more you touch your problem, the bigger it becomes. Once you forget about her, everything falls into place. But it depends on the problem itself. We need to analyze them, since many of them will require your intervention. But if you do intervene, then with a smile on your face and a cool head.
That's all and see you soon!