Here are 4 superpowers that every empath has:

1. Mind reading.

Empaths tend to be very intelligent. They are able to determine the motives of others. They know how to distinguish bad from good. We can definitely say that this is a superpower!

2. The ability to recognize emotions and feelings.

Empaths are aware not only of their own feelings and emotions, but also of those around them.This ability could well be called another superpower of empathetic individuals. They are able to help not only themselves, but also others.

3. The ability to turn negative into positive.

Empaths are great at distinguishing negative from positive. This skill allows them to find something good in any situation. This is truly a wonderful skill in the modern world!

Anyone can benefit from spending time in the company of an empath. Do you feel bad or very upset? A true empath can fix this and lift your spirits. You will look at the situation from a completely different angle.

4. Application of skills in practice.

Well, the superpowers of empaths can actually be practiced with success. Such people know how to accurately “read” those around them, so by applying their skills, they can achieve great success. For example, in counseling, therapy and healing.

And in everyday life, their ability to empathize and love makes the lives of the people around them much better!

More often than not, willpower is a function of success. It's easy to get things done when you enjoy what you're achieving. Here are some tips to help you achieve what you want.

Willpower is also a muscle; The more you train her, the stronger she becomes. But what if you need help getting things done right now? What if you can't wait for motivation to kick in? Start by organizing your life so that it supports your goals.

Eliminate unnecessary options

We have a limited supply of mental energy that we can spend on self-control. Some of us have more, some of us have less. But eventually everyone runs out of enthusiasm to fuel their willpower. Therefore, the more decisions we need to make in a day, the greater the load on the brain, and the more we need to look for shortcuts.

The fewer choices we face, the better our decisions will be. For example, is it difficult for you not to constantly check email. Then turn off all reminders about new letters and access your mail only when necessary. Make it difficult to check your email - then you will do it less often. Choice is the enemy of willpower (and accessibility and convenience).

Don't put it off until tomorrow

It is easier to make decisions if they are not urgent. For example, choose what you will wear tomorrow or what you will cook for breakfast or lunch the next day - and prepare these dishes the night before. Or you can choose when you will go in for sports tomorrow - and pack sportswear.

This way, tomorrow your mental energy can be saved for making really important decisions. The power of routine will not only make you more efficient, but it will also make important decisions easier. When there aren't too many decisions to make, it's easy to avoid the fatigue and burnout associated with making them.

Do the hardest thing first

According to science, we have the most energy in the morning. That's why best time for adoption difficult decisions- morning. Decide what difficult things lie ahead of you and do them first.

Create reminders for long-term goals

You want to lose weight, but when you're mentally tired, it's easy to convince yourself that you'll start working out tomorrow instead of today. Mental fatigue makes you look for the easy way out—even though the easy way is usually the wrong way. The solution is simple: create reminders.

Someone attaches to the monitor a printout from the bank, which indicates the amount of his loan - in order to remember his obligation. Someone hangs a photo of themselves, 20 kilograms thicker, on the refrigerator as a reminder of what they no longer want to be.

Feel your inner freedom and your limitless creative potential.

This meditation aims to help us move beyond our usual boundaries and open up to new possibilities. It connects us to the central channel of the body, where creativity lives and where clarity and self-confidence arise.

Practice it for 11 minutes to free up space for energy and fresh ideas.

• Sit comfortably with your pelvis above your knees. Inhale through your nose, breathing deeply into your stomach. Feel how the light descends with the air. Exhale through your nose from bottom to top, feeling the light moving upward.

• Then add sensitivity and listening with a simple mudra that enhances creative clarity. Gather your hands into a bowl shape in front of your heart - little fingers touching, palms facing up.

• Breathe deeply into your belly through your nose and feel the quality of acceptance in your hands. Invite the source of your creativity into physical body, noticing any thoughts or sensations as they arise.

• Welcome your breath and watch it become longer and calmer with each breath cycle. As you create more stability in your body and breath, you create fertile soil for the seeds of your creativity.

• As you complete your meditation, imagine that you are inhaling light all the way down to your lower abdomen. Place your palms together in a prayer gesture (Anjali mudra) in front of your chest, at heart level. Exhalation comes from the stomach, from bottom to top; pull your navel center towards your spine, imagining how the light brightly illuminates your entire being and the entire surrounding space.

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Free yourself from guilt, accept yourself and feel your strength.

These 3 mantras will give you a sense of inner beauty and balance. You will be able to unleash your creative potential, realize your nobility and feel unconditional love for yourself.

Yogi Bhajan called these 3 affirmations the most powerful of all. Observe how the touch of the tongue to the roof of the mouth creates a vibration that balances all systems. These words will release your strength and the strength of every woman of your kind from the subconscious.

Practice

Sit in a comfortable position with a straight back, close your eyes, repeat affirmations from 3 to 31 minutes:

• God created me as a woman.
• To be a woman.
• Now. Now. Now.

You can repeat it in the original if you know English language: “God made me a woman.” I am a woman to be. Now.Now. Now."

"God created me as a woman"

This affirmation frees you from feelings of guilt, brings peace and a sense of satisfaction. If this specific wording for some reason you are not satisfied, change it so that you feel inner agreement.

"To be a woman"

This affirmation reveals your Creative skills, self-love, self-respect. It frees you from internal conflict and crisis.

"Now. Now. Now"

This affirmation uplifts and helps you live face to face with the present. It gives strength of self-control and inner peace.

The material is compiled based on information from the book “I am a Woman” by Krishna Kaur.

Use the resourceful time of spring to feel alive and present.

If you don’t feel the joy of life and it seems to you that you are moving in a circle, these 5 steps will help you get out of a dead spot.

Get organized

Clear your space of everything that doesn't make you happy. Start cleaning out your wardrobe: feel free to get rid of everything that you haven’t worn for a long time, but “it’s a pity to throw it away, the thing seems good.” You can donate such clothes to a thrift store or give them to those in need.

Write down on a piece of paper all the qualities that you want to get rid of: for example, self-pity, being a victim, guilt, resentment, self-doubt, fear. List everything that prevents you from enjoying simple things - and burn this list.

Choose any meditation you like and do it every morning and every evening for 5 minutes for 3 weeks. Set the intention to open up to change, free yourself from old limiting programs and start laughing more.

Group energy can help you - create a community of like-minded people, even if it’s just your sister and best friend. And agree to talk every day about discoveries, share everything that comes to you in meditation.

Keep your promises

Right now, take a piece of paper and write down everything you once promised but didn’t complete. Include in this list promises to yourself, as well as children's desires and dreams.

In return, you will receive a release of energy and an influx of joy. And if old unfulfilled obligations have completely lost their relevance, write yourself a letter in which you remove old restrictions and obligations from yourself.

Allow yourself all emotions

Observe carefully all the emotions that come - and do not try to hold them back or somehow get rid of them. Give yourself permission to feel anger, give yourself permission to cry as much as you need.

Accept and love all your thoughts and decisions. Actions. Get in touch with your inner child and give it unconditional love and understanding.

Dance

The main task is to connect movement with breathing. Turn on music that you like and start moving as if you are dancing your healing and release.

Don't watch your movements - let them be as ridiculous or crazy as you like! But be careful not to hold your breath. After 5 minutes of this dance, the body itself will begin to guide you - and then liberation will definitely happen.

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We often receive questions: “Why am I unable to achieve my goal? I do all the practices, work with intention, but nothing works! Well, when already..?”

You probably already guessed what the reason is. Yes - in most cases, what prevents us from achieving the desired goal is neither a low level of energy, nor pendulums, nor the evil eye, nor damage - namely, overwhelming importance.

In Transurfing we call “importances”: fears, anxieties, doubts, indignation, dissatisfaction, irritation, restlessness, excitement, depression, confusion, despair, idealization, admiration, delight, disappointment, conceit, disgust, lust, impatience and a strong thirst to get something whatever you want.

However, we do not suggest that you fight with importance and try hard to suppress it, defeat it, get rid of it... We suggest that you first get to know it better so that it will be easier for you to “diagnose” certain manifestations of it in yourself.

And, having looked your “importances” and fears in the face, having realized them, it will be much easier for you to free yourself from them. Without fighting and suppressing emotions.

EXTERNAL IMPORTANCE

There are two types of importance: external and internal. External importance arises when you attach too much great importance some events or objects of the surrounding world.

For example, you are going for an interview, business meeting, negotiations, presentation, speaking at a conference, exam - and you’re terribly worried. You overstate the importance of this event:

• “What if I don’t succeed? What if everything doesn’t go according to plan?”;
• “If I fail this exam/interview/negotiation, my life is over!”;
• “I’ve been preparing for this my whole life!”

In itself, any event is neutral in its essence. And you can just go and take yours, what you want. Pass an interview, close a profitable deal, pass an exam, give a brilliant presentation... But you artificially inflate the importance and create excess potential that can ruin the whole thing.

If you realize this in time, you will be able to bring your feelings and emotions into balance by performing the practice of Transurfing to reduce importance or by performing internal adjustments and changing your state to a more effective one.

INTERNAL IMPORTANCE

Inner importance manifests itself as an overestimation of your strengths or weaknesses. It can greatly inflate your self-esteem or, conversely, give you a whole bunch of complexes.

In life, inner importance can take many different forms. For example, you decide that you do a very important job, that you are the most valuable employee of the company, and everyone else is no match for you.

Sooner or later, such a position will lead to the fact that the arrow of your own importance will begin to go off scale, equilibrium forces will arise, and you will get a slap on the nose. For example, make a serious mistake in your work and lose your bonus.

Or another example. Someone once told you that you have an ugly face/too tall/too short/an unpleasant voice. Or that you’re bad at your job/can’t do anything/total mediocrity.

Having succumbed to a sense of inner importance, you begin to look everywhere for confirmation of this, criticize yourself and engage in self-criticism, thereby programming yourself for failure and driving yourself into fears and depression.

Also, internal importance is the case when it seems to you that everyone is looking at you because: you have a stain on your jacket/a crease in your tights/a pimple on your forehead and so on. In fact, no one really cares about you - everyone is fixated only on themselves.

Manifestations of internal importance:

• “I am a very important person!”;
• “I am doing a terribly important job, no one can handle it except me”;
• “Everyone notices what an ugly, squeaky voice I have, everyone laughs at me.”

FACE YOUR “IMPORTANCES”!

Any importance - internal and external - makes your life very difficult. They are the very strings of the puppets to which the pendulums cling you. But there is good news: any importance is far-fetched. And you can refuse them at any time, simply by changing your attitude towards what is happening.

“Reducing your importance will not only significantly reduce the number of problems in your life. By giving up external and internal importance, you receive such a treasure as freedom of choice” (Vadim Zeland, “Reality Transurfing. Stage I”).

Think about it: maybe you don’t even notice how in everyday life this notorious importance becomes a stumbling block in realizing your true goals?

Right now we invite you to dive into yourself - and write down all your “importances” on a piece of paper in order to realize them and “face them.”

When you complete this practice, the sheet of paper can be burned and the “importance” can be reduced using Transurfing practices.

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Dear women! This article is dedicated to you. Dear men! This article will help you better understand women in the New Age.

Each woman is unique in her essence, she is beautiful with her own special beauty, endowed with unique talents, has her own individual merits and wonderful traits of character, appearance, and Soul. However, in our world of pendulum systems that absorb our attention and impose on us stereotyped standards of beauty and standards of success, it is very easy to lose your true self and forget about your uniqueness.

Many girls and women constantly stumble over the same questions:

• “How can I love and accept my body if I have a big nose/overweight/bow legs?”

• “Do I deserve more if I still don’t understand what my purpose is?”

• “As the years go by, wrinkles appear on my face, and it seems that I am missing something important.”

• “How can I find myself, my path?”

• “Will I be able to meet the man of my dreams and create a happy relationship?”

• “Is it possible to be absolutely healthy and remain young?”

At some point you begin to feel that everything that happens to you is not your life. You feel that there is another reality in which you can be happy. But you don't understand how to get there. How to create a different life, filled with joy, love, harmony and prosperity?

Even if they tell you: “This is possible, especially now, in the energies of the New Time!”, your mind will not believe it. He will say “No” and give a huge number of reasons. And only your Soul knows and feels that before our eyes a time of powerful changes and positive transformations is coming, in which everything is truly possible!

“Let troubled water calm down and it will become clear.” (Lao Tzu)
« Never rush and you will arrive on time» . (C. Talleyrand)

Another article from the “every day” section - theme of peace in human life. How to stay calm, why calm is so good for life and health. We specifically placed this article in the “every day” section, because we believe that it will be useful for every person to calm down in time, put their thoughts in order and just relax. When we make a hasty or emotional decision, we sometimes become disappointed and regret what we did after a while, feeling guilty. To prevent such situations from happening, you need to take this skill into your arsenal. And in general, peace of mind will have the most beneficial effect on health and success in life. In a clear and calm state, a person is able to more soberly assess the situation, feel himself and the world. Let's try to figure out what calmness is and try on this feeling for ourselves.

Your thoughts are like circles on water. Clarity disappears in excitement, but if you let the waves calm down, the answer will become obvious. (Cartoon Kung Fu Panda)

So, what are the benefits of peace of mind:

Calmness gives strength - to overcome external obstacles and internal contradictions.
Calmness gives liberation - it contains fears, complexes and self-doubt.
Calmness shows the way - for self-improvement.
Peace of mind comes from goodwill – from the people around you.
Calmness gives confidence - in own strength.
Calmness gives clarity - thoughts and actions.

Calm is a state of mind in which internal conflicts and contradictions do not arise, and external objects are perceived equally balanced.

Manifestations of calmness in everyday life; everyday situations, discussions, in families, extreme situations:

Everyday situations. The ability to extinguish an incipient quarrel between friends or loved ones is the skill of a calm person.
Discussions. The ability to calmly, without getting excited or lost, to defend one’s position is the ability of a calm person.
Scientific experiments. Only calm confidence in their own rightness helps scientists move towards their intended goal through a series of failures.
Extreme situations. Clarity of mind and rationality of actions are the advantages of a calm person that increase his chances of salvation even in the most difficult situations.
Diplomacy. A necessary quality for a diplomat is calm; it helps to restrain emotions and perform only rational actions.
Family education. Parents who raise their children in a calm environment, without excesses and loud quarrels, instill calmness in their children.

One cannot but agree:

Calmness is the ability to maintain clarity of mind and sobriety under any external circumstances.
Calmness is the willingness to always act rationally, based on logical conclusions, and not on an emotional outburst.
Calmness is a person’s self-control and strength of character, which helps to survive in force majeure and achieve success in ordinary circumstances.
Calmness is an expression of sincere trust in life and the world around us.
Calmness is a benevolent attitude towards the world and a friendly attitude towards people.

If you feel like time is passing too quickly, slow down your breathing....

How to achieve calmness, how to calm down right now, how to find calmness in practice

1. Sit on a chair and completely relax. Starting from your toes and gradually moving up to your head, relax every part of your body. Confirm relaxation with words: “My toes are relaxed... my fingers are relaxed... my facial muscles are relaxed...”, etc.
2. Imagine your mind as the surface of a lake in a thunderstorm, with waves rising and water bubbling.. But the waves subsided, and the surface of the lake became calm and smooth.
3. Spend two or three minutes recalling the most beautiful and tranquil scenes you have ever beheld.: for example, a mountainside at sunset, or a deep plain filled with the silence of the early morning, or a forest at noon, or the reflection of moonlight on ripples of water. Relive these pictures in your memory.
4. Repeat slowly the words of calm, calmly, melodiously a series of words expressing peace and quiet, for example: calm (say it slowly, in a low voice); serenity; silence. Think of some other words of this type and repeat them.
5. Make a mental list of times in your life when you knew you were under God's protection, and remember how He brought everything back to normal and calmed you down when you were worried and scared. Then read aloud this line from the old hymn: “Thy power has guarded me so long that I know it will QUIETLY guide me further.”
6. Repeat the following verse, which has amazing power to relax and calm the mind.: « You keep him who is strong in spirit in perfect peace, for he trusts in You."(Book of the Prophet Isaiah 26:3). Repeat it several times during the day, as soon as you have a free minute. Repeat this, if possible, out loud so that by the end of the day you have time to say it many times. See these words as powerful, vital words that penetrate your mind, and from there it sends them out into every area of ​​your thinking, like a healing balm. This is the most effective medicine to remove tension from your mind..

7. Allow your breathing to bring you to a calm state. Conscious breathing, which is a powerful meditation in itself, will gradually bring you into contact with the body. Pay attention to your breathing, how the air moves in and out of your body. Inhale and feel how with each inhalation and exhalation your stomach first rises slightly and then falls. If visualization is easy enough for you, then simply close your eyes and imagine yourself engulfed in light or immersed in a luminous substance - in a sea of ​​consciousness. Now breathe in this light. Feel how the luminous substance fills your body and also makes it glow. Then gradually shift your focus more to the feeling. So you are in the body. Just don't get attached to any visual image.

As you develop the techniques suggested in this chapter, the tendency toward the old behavior of tearing and throwing will gradually change. In direct proportion to your progress, the strength and ability to cope with any responsibility in your life will increase, which was previously suppressed by this unfortunate habit.

Learning to be calm - How to remain calm at a crucial moment, and in difficult situations, sound reasoning about a person’s calmness and emotions (in some places, especially at the beginning and end, and in the middle in some places):

What other methods and ways of finding peace of mind exist in life, where to go for peace of mind, what will help you find peace of mind, where to find peace of mind:

Faith gives a person peace of mind. A believer is always confident that everything in life - both good and bad - has meaning. Therefore, faith gives a person peace of mind. - "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."(Gospel of Matthew 11:28)
Psychological trainings. Trainings inner peace can help a person throw off the shackles of self-doubt and get rid of fears; therefore, cultivate calmness in yourself.
Self improvement. The basis of calm is self-confidence; by overcoming complexes and constriction, cultivating self-respect, a person approaches a state of calm.
Education. For peace of mind, understanding is necessary - in order to understand the nature of things and their interrelationship, a person needs education

Selected quotes and aphorisms about calmness:

What elements make up happiness? Only of two, gentlemen, only of two: a calm soul and a healthy body. (Michael Bulgakov)
The greatest peace of heart is possessed by the one who cares neither about praise nor about blame. (Thomas à Kempis)
The highest degree of human wisdom is the ability to adapt to circumstances and remain calm despite external storms. (Daniel Defoe)
Peace of mind is the best relief in trouble. (Plautus)
Passions are nothing more than ideas in their first development: they belong to the youth of the heart, and he is a fool who thinks to worry about them all his life: many calm rivers begin with noisy waterfalls, but not one jumps and foams all the way to the sea. (Mikhail Lermontov)
Everything usually goes well as long as we are calm. This is the law of nature. (Max Fry)

What useful things will I take away for myself and for life from this article:
If any difficulties arise in life, I will first calm down and then make the right decision....
I will remember quotes about calmness that will help me in difficult times, in times of unrest....
I will put the methods of entering a calm state into practice....

We must value peace of mind if we want to live our lives happily!

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How to stay calm, the health benefits of calm, or how to stop tearing and throwing.

Many people unnecessarily complicate their lives, wasting their strength and energy, succumbing to an uncontrollable state, which is expressed in the words “tearing and throwing.”

Does it happen to you that you “tear and rush”? If yes, then I will paint you a picture of this condition. The word "to tear" means boiling, explosion, release of steam, irritation, confusion, seething. The word "throw" has similar meanings. When I hear it, I remember a sick child at night, who is capricious and either screams or whines pitifully. As soon as it subsides, it starts again. This is an annoying, annoying, destructive act. Throwing is a children's term, but it describes the emotional reaction of many adults.

The Bible advises us: “...not in Your wrath...” (Psalm 37:2). This helpful advice for the people of our time. We need to stop tearing and throwing and find peace if we want to maintain the strength for an active life. How can this be achieved?

The first stage is to moderate your stride, or at least the pace of your steps. We don't realize how much the pace of our lives has increased or the speed we set for ourselves. Many people are destroying their physical bodies at this rate, but what is even sadder is that they are also tearing their minds and souls to shreds. A person can live a calm physical life and at the same time maintain a high emotional pace. From this point of view, even a disabled person can live at too high a pace. This term defines the nature of our thoughts. When the mind frantically jumps from one position to another, it becomes extremely agitated, and the result is a state close to a flash of irritation. The pace of modern life must be slowed down if we do not want to suffer later from the debilitating overstimulation and excessive worry it causes. Such overexcitation produces toxic substances in the human body and leads to illnesses of an emotional nature. This is where fatigue and a feeling of disappointment arise, which is why we tear up and fight when it comes to everything, from our personal problems to events on a national or global scale. But if the influence of this emotional anxiety produces such an effect on our physiology, then what can we say about the effect on that deep inner essence of a person, which is called the soul?

It is impossible to find peace of mind when the pace of life increases so feverishly. God can't go that fast. He won't make an effort to keep up with you. It is as if He is saying, “Go ahead if you must adjust to this foolish pace, and when you are exhausted, I will offer you My healing. But I can make your life very fulfilling if you will slow down now and begin to live, move and abide in Me.” God moves calmly, slowly and in perfect harmony. The only reasonable pace for life is Divine Tempo. God makes sure that everything is done and done correctly. He does everything without haste. He doesn't tear or rush. He is calm, and therefore his actions are effective. This same peace is offered to us: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you...” (Gospel of John 14:27).

In a certain sense, this generation is worthy of pity, especially in big cities, since it is under the influence of constant nervous tension, artificial excitation and noise. But this disease also penetrates into remote rural areas, since air waves transmit this tension even there.

I was made to laugh by one elderly lady who, while discussing this problem, said: “Life is so mundane.” This line very well reflects the pressure, responsibility and tension that brings us everyday life. The constant insistent demands placed on us by life provoke this tension.

Someone may object: isn’t this generation so accustomed to tension that many feel unhappy due to the incomprehensible discomfort caused by the absence of the usual tension? The deep tranquility of forests and valleys, so well known to our forefathers, is an unusual state for modern people. The pace of their lives is such that in many cases they find themselves unable to find the sources of peace and quiet that the material world offers them.

One summer afternoon, my wife and I went for a long walk in the forest. We stayed at a beautiful mountain lodge on Lake Mohonk, located in one of America's most wonderful natural parks - 7,500 acres of virgin mountain slopes, between which is a lake that lies like a pearl in the middle of the forest. The word mohonk means "lake in the sky." Many centuries ago, a certain giant raised this part of the earth, which is why sheer cliffs were formed. From the dark forest you emerge onto a majestic headland, and your eyes rest on the vast clearings spread between hills strewn with stones and ancient as the sun. These forests, mountains and valleys are the place where one should get away from the turmoil of this world.

This afternoon, while walking, we watched the summer showers give way to bright sunshine. We were soaked through and began to discuss this excitedly, since it was necessary to wring out our clothes somewhere. And then we agreed that nothing bad will happen to a person if he gets a little wet with clean rainwater, that the rain is so pleasantly cool and refreshes the face, and that you can sit in the sun and dry off. We walked under the trees and talked, and then fell silent.

We listened, listened to the silence. Frankly, the woods are never quiet. An incredible, but invisible activity is constantly unfolding there, but nature does not make any sharp noises, despite the gigantic volume of its work. Natural sounds are always calm and harmonious.

On this beautiful afternoon, nature laid its hand of healing calm on us, and we felt the tension leave our body.
Just at the moment when we were under the spell of this spell, the distant sounds of music reached us. It was a fast, nervous variation of jazz. Soon three young men walked past us - two women and a man. The latter carried a portable radio. These were city dwellers who went for a walk in the forest and, out of habit, brought their city noise with them. They were not only young, but also friendly, because they stopped,

and we had a very nice conversation with them. I wanted to ask them to turn off the radio and invite them to listen to the music of the forest, but I understood that I had no right to lecture them. In the end they went their separate ways.

We talked about the fact that they lose a lot from this noise, that they can go through this calm and not hear the harmony and melodies as ancient as the world, the likes of which man will never be able to create: the song of the wind in the branches of the trees, the sweetest trills of birds pouring out in singing your heart, and the inexplicable musical accompaniment of all spheres in general.

All this can still be found in the countryside, in our forests and endless plains, in our valleys, in the majesty of our mountains, in the sound of foamy waves on the coastal sand. We should take advantage of their healing power. Remember the words of Jesus: “Go alone to a deserted place and rest a little” (Mark 6:31). Even now, as I write these words and give you this good advice, I remember occasions when I needed to remind myself and put into practice the same truth that teaches that we must value peace if we want to live our lives happily.

One autumn day Mrs. Peale and I took a trip to Massachusetts to see our son John, who was then studying at Deerfield Academy. We informed him that we would arrive promptly at 11am, as we prided ourselves on our good old-fashioned habit of being punctual. Therefore, noticing that we were a little late, we rushed headlong through the autumn landscape. But then the wife said, “Norman, do you see that sparkling mountainside?” “Which mountainside?” - I asked. “He was just on the other side,” she explained. “Look at this wonderful tree.” “What other tree?” - I was already a mile away from him. “This is one of the most magnificent days I have ever seen,” said the wife. - Is it possible to imagine such amazing colors as those that color the mountain slopes in New England in October? In essence,” she added, “it makes me happy from the inside out.”

This remark made such an impression on me that I stopped the car and turned back towards the lake, a quarter of a mile away and surrounded by steep hills dressed in autumn clothes. We sat down on the grass, looked at this beauty and thought. God, with the help of His genius and unsurpassed art, decorated this scene with a variety of colors that only He could create. In the still water of the lake there was a picture worthy of His greatness - a mountain slope of unforgettable beauty was reflected in this pond, as in a mirror. We sat for some time without saying a word, until finally my wife broke the silence with the only appropriate statement in such a situation: “ He leads me to still waters"(Psalm 23:2). We arrived in Deerfield at 11 a.m. but didn't feel any fatigue. On the contrary, we even seemed to be thoroughly refreshed.

To help reduce this daily stress, which seems to be the dominant condition of our people everywhere, you can start by slowing down your own pace. To do this, you need to slow down and calm down. Don't get annoyed. Don't worry. Try to remain calm. Follow this instruction: “...and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding...” (Philippians 4:7). Then notice how a feeling of calm strength wells up within you. A friend of mine who was forced to go on vacation because of the “pressure” he had acquired wrote me the following: “I learned a lot during this forced vacation. Now I understand what I did not understand before: in silence we are aware of His presence. Life can get extremely hectic. But as Lao Tzu says, let the troubled water calm down and it will become clear».

One doctor gave rather eccentric advice to his patient, an overly burdened businessman from the category of active acquirers. He excitedly told the doctor what an incredible amount of work he was forced to do, and that he had to do it immediately, quickly, or else...

“And I bring home my work in my briefcase for the evening,” he said excitedly. “Why do you bring work home every evening?” - the doctor asked calmly. “I have to do it,” the businessman said irritably. “Couldn’t someone else do it or help you deal with it?” - asked the doctor. “No,” the patient blurted out. - I'm the only one who can do it. It must be done right, and only I can do it right. It must be done quickly. It all depends on me". “If I give you a prescription, will you follow it?” - asked the doctor.

Believe it or not, this was the doctor's order: the patient was to take two hours out of each work day for a long walk. Then once a week he had to spend half a day in the cemetery.

The surprised businessman asked: “Why should I spend half my day in a cemetery?” “Because I want you to wander around and look at the headstones on the graves of the people who found their eternal rest there. I want you to reflect on the fact that many of them are there because they thought just like you, as if the whole world rested on their shoulders. Consider the serious fact that when you get there permanently, the world will remain the same as before, and other people just as important as you will be doing the same work that you are doing now. I advise you to sit on one of the tombstones and repeat the following verse: “ For in Your sight a thousand years are like yesterday when it is past, and like a watch in the night."(Psalm 89:5).

The patient understood this idea. He moderated his pace. He learned to delegate authority to other, fairly authoritative persons. He came to a correct understanding of his own importance. Stopped tearing and throwing. I found peace. And it should be added that he began to cope better with his work. He has developed a better organizational structure and admits that his business is now in better condition than before.

One famous industrialist suffered greatly from overload. Essentially, his mind was tuned to a state of constantly tense nerves. This is how he described his awakening: every morning he would jump out of bed and immediately start up at full throttle. He was in such a hurry and excitement that he “made himself a breakfast of soft-boiled eggs just because they go faster.” This hectic pace tired and exhausted him to the point of exhaustion by mid-day. Every evening he fell into bed completely exhausted.

It so happened that his house turned out to be located in a small grove. Early one morning, unable to sleep, he got up and sat by the window. And then he began to watch with interest the newly awakened bird. He noticed that the bird was sleeping with its head hidden under its wing, tightly covered with feathers. Having woken up, she stuck her beak out from under the feathers, looked around with her eyes still clouded from sleep, extended one leg to its full length, at the same time stretching her wing along it, opening it in the form of a fan. Then she retracted her paw and folded her wing and repeated the same procedure with the other paw and wing, after which she again hid her head in the feathers to take a little more sweet nap, and stuck her head out again. This time the bird looked around intently, turning its head back, stretched twice more, then uttered a trill - a touching, delightful song of praise for a new day - after which it flew down from the branch and took a sip cold water and went in search of food.

My nervous friend said to himself: “If this method of awakening works for birds, slow and easy, then why wouldn’t it work for me?”

And he actually did the same performance, including singing, and noticed that the song had a particularly beneficial effect, since it served as a kind of reliever.

“I don’t know how to sing,” he grinned, remembering, “but I practiced: I sat quietly in a chair and sang. Mostly I sang hymns and happy songs. Just imagine - I’m singing! But I did it. My wife thought I was crazy. The only way my program differed from the bird’s was that I also prayed, and then, like the bird, I began to feel that it would not hurt for me to refresh myself, or rather, to eat a solid breakfast - scrambled eggs with ham. And I devoted the allotted time to this. Then, with a peaceful mind, I went to work. All this really contributed to an effective start to the day, without any stress, and helped to work through the day in a calm and relaxed state.”

A former member of a champion university rowing team told me that their team coach, a very insightful man, often reminded them: “ To win this or any other competition, row slowly " He pointed out that hasty rowing, as a rule, disrupts the stroke of the oar, and if this happens, then it is very difficult for the team to restore the rhythm necessary for victory. Meanwhile, other teams bypass the unlucky group. Truly this is wise advice - “to swim fast, row slowly”.

In order to row slowly or work leisurely and maintain a steady pace that leads to victory, the victim of high tempos would do well to coordinate his actions with the peace of God in his own mind, soul and, it might not hurt to add, also in his nerves and muscles.

Have you ever thought about the importance of the presence of Divine peace in your muscles and joints? Perhaps your joints would not hurt so much if there was Divine peace in them. Your muscles will work interconnectedly if their action is controlled by the Divine creative power. Every day tell your muscles, joints and nerves: “...not in Your wrath...” (Psalm 37:2). Relax on your couch or bed, think of each vital muscle from your head to your toes, and say to each one, “Divine peace is upon you.” Then learn to feel the calm flow through your entire body. In due course, your muscles and joints will be in perfect order.

Take your time because what you really want will be there in due time if you work towards it without stress or fuss. But if, continuing to follow Divine guidance and His smooth and unhurried pace, you do not get the desired result, then you must assume that it should not happen. If you missed it, it's probably for the best. Therefore, try to develop a normal, natural, God-determined pace. Develop and maintain mental calm. Learn the art of getting rid of all nervous excitement. To do this, stop your activities from time to time and affirm: “Now I am releasing nervous excitement - it flows out of me. I am calm". Don't tear it. Don't rush around. Develop calm.

In order to achieve this productive state of life, I recommend developing a calm mindset. Every day we perform a number of necessary procedures related to taking care of our body: taking a shower or bath, brushing our teeth, doing morning exercises. Likewise, we should devote some time and some effort to keeping our mind healthy. One way to achieve this is to sit in a quiet place and run a series of calming thoughts through your mind. For example, some memory of a majestic mountain you once saw or a valley above which fog rises, of a river sparkling in the sun where trout splashes, or the silvery reflection of moonlight on the surface of the water.

At least once a day, preferably during the most busy period of the day, deliberately stop all sorts of activities for ten to fifteen minutes and practice a state of serenity.

There are times when it is necessary to resolutely curb our unrestrained pace, and I must emphasize that the only way to stop is to stop.

Once I went to one of the cities to give a lecture, which had been agreed upon in advance, and was met by representatives of some committee at the train. I was immediately quickly dragged into a bookstore, where I was forced to sign autographs. Then, just as quickly, I was dragged to a light breakfast arranged in my honor, after I quickly devoured this breakfast, I was picked up and taken to the meeting. After the meeting, I was driven back to the hotel at the same speed, where I changed clothes, after which I was hastily escorted to some reception, where I was greeted by several hundred people and where I drank three glasses of punch. Then I was quickly brought back to the hotel and warned that I had twenty minutes to change clothes for dinner. As I was changing, the phone rang and someone said, “Hurry up, please, we have to rush to lunch.” I answered excitedly: “I’m already rushing.”

I quickly ran out of the room, so excited that I could barely get the key into the keyhole. Having quickly felt myself to make sure I was fully dressed, I rushed to the elevator. And then he stopped. It took my breath away. I asked myself: “What is all this for? What is the point in this continuous race? It's funny!

And then I declared my independence and said: “I don’t care whether I get to dinner or not. I don't care whether I give a speech or not. I don’t have to go to this dinner and I don’t have to give a speech.” After that, I deliberately slowly returned to my room and slowly unlocked the door. Then he called the attendant, who was waiting below, and said: “If you are hungry, go ahead. If you want to take a place for me, then after some time I will go down, but I don’t intend to rush anywhere else.”

So I sat, rested and prayed for fifteen minutes. I will never forget the feeling of peace and self-control I felt when I left the room. It was as if I had heroically overcome something, taken control of my emotions, and when I arrived for dinner, the guests had just finished the first course. I only missed the soup, which, by all accounts, was not such a big loss.

This incident made it possible to verify the amazing effect of the healing Divine presence. I acquired these values ​​very in a simple way- stopped, calmly read the Bible, prayed sincerely, and for several minutes filled his mind with calming thoughts.
Doctors generally believe that most physical ailments could be avoided or overcome by constantly practicing the philosophical attitude - there is no need to tear and throw.

A well-known New Yorker once told me that his doctor advised him to come to our church clinic. “Because,” he said, “you need to develop a philosophical way of life. Your energy resources are exhausted."

“My doctor says I'm pushing myself to the limit. He says that I am too tense, too tense, that I tear and sword too much. He declares that the only suitable treatment for me is the development of what he calls a philosophical way of life."
My visitor stood up and began pacing excitedly up and down the room, and then asked: “But how the hell can I work this out? It’s easy to say, but difficult to do.”

Then this excited gentleman continued his story. His doctor gave him certain recommendations for developing this calm, philosophical way of life. The recommendations turned out to be really wise. “But then,” the patient explained, “the doctor suggested that I see your people here in the church, because he believes that if I learn to use religious faith in practice, it will give my mind peace and lower my blood pressure, after which I will feel better physically. And although I admit that my doctor’s prescription makes sense,” he concluded plaintively, “how can a fifty-year-old man, as high-strung by nature as I am, suddenly change the habits that he acquired throughout his life and develop this so-called philosophical image life?
Indeed, this did not seem to be an easy problem, since this man was a complete bundle of nerves inflated to the limit. He paced around the room, pounded the table with his fist, spoke in a loud, excited voice, and gave the impression of an extremely alarmed, confused person. Obviously, his affairs were in a very bad state, but in parallel with this, his inner state was also revealed. The picture thus obtained gave us a chance to help him because we were able to better understand his essence.

Listening to his words and observing his attitude, I understood anew why Jesus Christ has consistently maintained his amazing influence on people. Because He had the answer to problems like this, and I tested this fact by suddenly changing the topic of our conversation. Without any introduction, I began to quote some passages from the Bible, for example: “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). And again: “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you: not as the world gives, I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” (Gospel of John 14:27). And again: “You will keep him who is strong in spirit in perfect peace, for he trusts in You” (Isaiah 26:3).

I quoted these words quietly, slowly, thoughtfully. As soon as I fell silent, I immediately noticed that my visitor’s excitement had subsided. Calm came over him and we both sat in silence for a while. It seemed like we sat there for a few minutes, maybe less, but then he took a deep breath and said, “It's funny, I feel a lot better. Isn't that weird? I think those words did it.” “No, not just words,” I replied, “although they certainly had an impact.” significant influence on your mind, but also something incomprehensible that happened after that. A minute ago He touched you - the Healer - with His healing touch. He was present in this room."

My visitor did not show any surprise at this statement, but readily and impulsively agreed - and conviction was written on his face. “That's right, He was definitely here. I felt Him. I understand what you meant. Now I know that Jesus Christ will help me develop a philosophical way of life.”

This man found what more and more people are discovering today: simple faith and the use of the principles and methods of Christianity bring peace and quiet, and therefore new strength to body, mind and spirit. This is the perfect antidote for those who vomit and rush. It helps a person find peace and thus discover new resources of strength.

Of course, it was necessary to teach this person a new way of thinking and behavior. This was done in part with the help of relevant literature written by experts in the field of spiritual culture. For example, we gave him lessons in the skill of going to church. We showed him that church service can be seen as a kind of therapy. We instructed him on the scientific use of prayer and relaxation. And eventually, as a result of this practice, he became healthy person. Anyone who is willing to follow this program and sincerely use these principles day after day, I am confident, will be able to develop inner peace and strength. Many of these methods are presented in this book.

Emotional control is of paramount importance in the daily practice of healing modalities. Emotional control cannot be achieved overnight. magic wand or somehow the easy way. You can't develop this simply by reading a book, although that often helps. The only guaranteed method is regular, persistent, scientifically based work in this direction and the development of creative faith.

I advise you to start with such a thorough and simple procedure as regular practice being in physical peace. Don't walk from corner to corner. Don't wring your hands. Don't pound your fists on the table, don't shout, don't quarrel. Don't allow yourself to work to the point of exhaustion. With nervous excitement, a person’s physical movements become convulsive. Therefore, start with the simplest thing, stopping all physical movement. Stand still or sit or lie down for a while. And, it goes without saying, speak only in the lowest tones.

When developing control over your state, you need to think about silence, since the body is very sensitive and responds to the way of thinking that dominates the mind. Indeed, the mind can be calmed by calming the body first. In other words, a physical state can cause a desired mental attitude.

Once in my speech I touched upon the following incident, which occurred at a meeting of some committee where I was then present. To one gentleman who heard me tell this story, it produced strong impression, and he took this truth to heart. He tried the suggested methods and reported that they were very effective in gaining control of his tearing and throwing habits.

I once attended a meeting where the heated discussion became quite heated at the end. Passions flared up, and some of the participants were almost on the verge of a breakdown. Harsh remarks followed. And suddenly one man stood up, slowly took off his jacket, unbuttoned the collar of his shirt and lay down on the couch. Everyone was amazed, and someone even asked if he was sick.

“No,” he said, “I feel great, but I’m starting to lose my temper, and I know from experience that it’s hard to lose your temper while lying down.”

We all laughed and the tension subsided. Our eccentric friend then went into further explanation and told how he had learned to play “one little trick” on himself. He had an unbalanced character, and when he felt that he was losing his temper and began to clench his fists and raise his voice, he immediately slowly spread his fingers, preventing them from clenching into a fist again. He did the same with his voice: when tension increased or anger grew, he deliberately suppressed the sound of his voice and switched to a whisper. “It’s absolutely impossible to argue in a whisper,” he said with a laugh.

This principle can be effective in controlling emotional arousal, irritation and tension, as many have found in similar experiments. Therefore, the initial stage in achieving calm state is to practice your physical reactions. You will be surprised at how quickly this will cool the intensity of your emotions, and when this intensity subsides, you will no longer have any desire to tear and throw. You can’t even imagine how much energy and effort you will save. And how much less tired you will become. In addition, this is a very suitable procedure for developing phlegmatism, indifference and even indifference. Don't be afraid to try to develop inertia. Having such skills, people are less likely to experience emotional breakdowns. Highly organized individuals will benefit from this ability to switch their reactions. But it is quite natural that a person of this type will not want to lose such qualities as sensitivity and responsiveness. However, having developed a certain degree of phlegmatism, a harmonious personality acquires only a more balanced emotional position.

The following is a six-step method that I personally find extremely useful for those who want to break the habit of tearing and throwing. I have recommended this method to so many people who have found it extremely helpful.

Mantra of Universal Peace

The modern world is filled with worries and stress, which is why a person is always exposed to various troubling moral problems. Few people think about how to find peace of mind. After all inner world Each individual must be in a state of harmony with the person’s own “I”. He must be so strong as to be able to overcome various disagreements and life difficulties. Peace of mind is a feeling of inner peace, a feeling of freedom from stress, thoughts, worries, fear, it is a state of serenity.

Many people would be happy to realize how to gain peace of mind, to be free despite the stress that occurs in their lives every day. There are cultures in which peace of mind, the inner world of a person, is understood as a state of enlightenment, consciousness, which can be expressed in meditation or prayer. Often, peace of mind is associated with the teachings of religions such as Hinduism and Buddhism.

After a person has managed to find and gain peace of mind, she does not focus on her worries and problems. She uses the positive aspects of peace of mind, as well as freedom, to help get rid of obsession with any thoughts.

It is worth noting that every person, sometimes without realizing it, is in a state of peace of mind. Such moments occur during his participation in any activity that absorbs him with its fascination. For example, reading a book, staying on the beach, watching a movie.

How to achieve peace of mind?

In order to learn to consciously be in a state of peace of mind, we recommend adhering to the following rules:

So, everyone can achieve permanent peace of mind. This requires sincere desire and determination.