My sister dreamed for a long time about the possibility of traveling to Italy, and her dream came true. The three of us - me, her and mine eldest daughter Olga - we are going abroad after all. It was necessary to see my sister in Venice, in a gondola, in the museums of Florence, Rome, and finally, in Naples, in Capri. This time was the happiest in her life. She saw Italy, breathed its air. Her favorite people were with her, and her last joy lay ahead - the marriage of her pupil.
And behind him came a terrible hour. Death has come.
My grandfather Ivan Andreevich Nesterov was from peasants, and our family was peasant, Novgorod. Under Catherine II, the Nesterovs moved from Novgorod to the Urals and established themselves in factories there. It is known about my grandfather that he... was freed, was in the seminary, later enrolled in the guild and, finally, was the mayor of Ufa for twenty years in a row. According to the stories, he was smart, active, hospitable, an excellent administrator, and as if one day the famous Count Perovsky, the Orenburg governor-general, visiting Ufa, found exemplary order in it and, turning to his grandfather, said this:
- You, Nesterov, should be the head not here, but in Moscow!
According to the surviving portrait, the grandfather looked like the administrators of that time. Depicted in a uniform with an embroidered collar, with two gold medals. He had the title of "stately citizen." He loved company very much; according to his father and aunt, he gave home performances, and our family kept a poster for such a performance, printed on white satin, for a long time. The "Inspector General" was on. Among the characters were my uncle Alexander Ivanovich (mayor) and my father (Bobchensky). The grandfather was not a merchant by vocation, like none of his sons. He died in 1848 from cholera. He had four sons. Of these, the eldest - Alexander Ivanovich - was gifted with extraordinary abilities. He played the violin perfectly, as if he was composing - composing. He played incomparably on stage, especially tragic roles ("Merchant Igolkin" and others). He loved to read and did not like trading.
His fate was sad. In those days, as in later times, there were riots in factories in the Urals. And after such riots, a party of workers was taken to the Ufa prison. Somehow they established contact with my uncle Alexander Ivanovich, and he undertook to deliver their petition to the highest name. The Nizhny Novgorod fair came up, and my uncle was sent there by his grandfather trade affairs. I finished them and, instead of going home to Ufa, decided to go to St. Petersburg. He stopped at an inn, found out where and how he could hand over his paper to the sovereign, and since he was advised to do this through the heir Alexander Nikolaevich, the future Emperor II, his uncle decided to see him. Times were simple then. The highest persons did not behave as they did later, they walked along the streets, in the gardens, and my uncle decided to submit his petition to the heir Summer Garden where he used to stroll famous watches. He was very lucky. Indeed, he saw the heir walking on one of the garden paths, approached him and, kneeling down, submitted a petition explaining the contents in it. He was graciously listened to and sent away reassured. Happy, he returned to the inn, but that same night he was taken, imprisoned and sent with couriers to distant places...
Obviously, on the same day the heir presented the petition to Emperor Nikolai Pavlovich, and he looked at the matter in his own way - the rest happened as if by order of a pike.
I remember Uncle Alexander Ivanovich well. He lived in our house after his exile as an old man. Everything he had experienced left a mark on his health; he was not mentally well. Outwardly, in those days he reminded me of the artist N. N. Ge. Same manners, same head long hair, even a coat, instead of a jacket, exactly like Ge’s last years his life. His hero at that time was Garibaldi, personal enemies- Bismarck and Pope Pius IX. They got it cruelly from the old “revolutionary”.
Even as an old man, my uncle loved to play the violin, for which he went to the garden in the summer. In winter he loved the bathhouse and after the regiment he loved to run out into the cold, plunge into a snowdrift and then go back to the regiment. And this was when he was already over seventy. He died a very old man in Ufa.
Uncle Konstantin Ivanovich was a self-taught doctor.
Of the aunts, Elizaveta Ivanovna Kabanova was distinguished, like Uncle Alexander Ivanovich, by her liberal sympathies. Aunt Anna Ivanovna Yasemeneva, on the contrary, was conservative. She was a good watercolor painter when she was young, and it was a great joy for me to have her drawing. I especially remember one - “Margarita at the Spinning Wheel”. There, it seemed to me, as if alive, there was green ivy by the window. Undoubtedly, her drawings in early childhood left some kind of mark on me.
I don’t remember my grandfather Mikhail Mikhailovich Rostovtsev. I know from my mother that the Rostovtsevs came to Sterlitamak from Yelets, where my grandfather ran a large trade in grain; it seems he had large herds of sheep. He was with good means. He was of a gentle nature and apparently very kind. That's all I know about him. I don’t remember anything about my grandmothers; they died long before I was born. Grandfather Mikhail Mikhailovich had three sons and three daughters. The eldest, Ivan Mikhailovich, visited us when he came from Sterlitamak. He was unfriendly, they say he loved money more than moderation.
The second - Andrei Mikhailovich - lived at the mill, and I don’t remember him, and the third - the youngest, very good-natured, careless, with great oddities, rich, married to a beautiful noblewoman, towards the end of his life he spent everything, and if he didn’t need it, then had to cut myself a lot. None of the Rostovtsev uncles showed themselves to have any talents.
Of the daughters of grandfather Mikhail Mikhailovich, the eldest, Evpraxia Mikhailovna, was indescribably kind and deeply unhappy. I knew her as an old lady and loved her very much. From time to time they brought her to stay with us. She was one of the first to see and in her own way appreciate my painting abilities. About the “Hermit”, when she saw him, she told me: “Your old man, Minechka, looks as if he’s alive!”, and this was like a good parting word to him, my “Hermit”.
Mikhail Mikhailovich’s second daughter was my mother, Maria Mikhailovna, and the third, Alexandra Mikhailovna, was the most, so to speak, cultured of all the sisters. Alexandra Mikhailovna was very good, smart person. She was married to a certain Ivanov, a man of rare moral principles. From among minor postal officials, he rose to the rank of chief of the postal district, to the rank of privy councilor, and with his justice, nobility and accessibility, he earned absolutely exceptional love from his subordinates, especially from lower employees. He was one of the finest and most respectable people I knew. He was handsome, modest and clear with the special clarity of a life justly and honestly lived.
I began to remember myself when I was three or four years old. Until I was two years old, I was a weak, barely surviving child. They didn’t do anything to me to save my life! What medical and folk remedies They didn’t try to raise me to my feet, but I still remained a frail, dying child. They tried to put me in the oven, I was in the snow in the cold, until one day it seemed to my mother that I had completely given my soul to God. They dressed me up and placed me under the image. A small enamel icon of Tikhon of Zadonsk was placed on the chest. The mother prayed, and one of the relatives went to Ivan the Baptist to order a grave near the grandfather Ivan Andreevich Nesterov. But this happened: at the same time, Aunt E. I. Kabanova’s baby died, and he also needed a grave. So the relatives came together and argued about which of the grandchildren should lie closer to grandfather Ivan Andreevich... And then my mother noticed that I was breathing again, and then completely woke up. My mother joyfully thanked God, attributing my resurrection to the intercession of Tikhon of Zadonsk, who, like Sergius of Radonezh, enjoyed special love and reverence in our family. Both saints were close to us, they were, so to speak, part of the everyday life of our spiritual life.

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The hour comes when the remains of the deceased are buried in the earth, where they will rest until the end of time and the general resurrection. But the love of the Mother of the Church for her child who has departed from this life does not dry out. On certain days, she makes prayers for the deceased and makes a bloodless sacrifice for his repose. Special days of commemoration are the third, ninth and fortieth (in this case, the day of death is considered the first). Commemoration on these days is sanctified by ancient church custom. It is consistent with the teaching of the Church about the state of the soul beyond the grave.

The third day. The commemoration of the deceased on the third day after death is performed in honor of the three-day resurrection of Jesus Christ and in the image of the Holy Trinity.

For the first two days, the soul of the deceased is still on earth, passing along with the Angel accompanying it through those places that attract it with memories of earthly joys and sorrows, evil and good deeds. The soul that loves the body sometimes wanders around the house in which the body is placed, and thus spends two days like a bird looking for a nest. A virtuous soul walks through those places in which it used to do the truth. On the third day, the Lord commands the soul to ascend to heaven to worship Him - the God of all. Therefore, the church commemoration of the soul that appeared before the face of the Just One is very timely.

Ninth day. The commemoration of the deceased on this day is in honor of the nine ranks of angels, who, as servants of the King of Heaven and representatives to Him for us, petition for pardon for the deceased.

After the third day, the soul, accompanied by an Angel, enters the heavenly abodes and contemplates their indescribable beauty. She remains in this state for six days. During this time, the soul forgets the sorrow that it felt while in the body and after leaving it. But if she is guilty of sins, then at the sight of the pleasure of the saints she begins to grieve and reproach herself: “Woe is me! How much I have become fussy in this world! I spent most of my life in carelessness and did not serve God as I should, so that I too would be worthy of this grace and glory. Alas for me, poor one!” On the ninth day, the Lord commands the Angels to again present the soul to Him for worship. The soul stands before the throne of the Most High with fear and trembling. But even at this time, the Holy Church again prays for the deceased, asking the merciful Judge to place the soul of her child with the saints.

Fortieth day. The forty-day period is very significant in the history and tradition of the Church as the time necessary for preparation and acceptance of the special Divine gift of the gracious help of the Heavenly Father. The Prophet Moses was honored to talk with God on Mount Sinai and receive the tablets of the law from Him only after a forty-day fast. The Israelites reached the promised land after forty years of wandering. Our Lord Jesus Christ Himself ascended into heaven on the fortieth day after His resurrection. Taking all this as a basis, the Church established commemoration on the fortieth day after death, so that the soul of the deceased would ascend the holy mountain of Heavenly Sinai, be rewarded with the sight of God, achieve the bliss promised to it and settle in the heavenly villages with the righteous.

After the second worship of the Lord, the Angels take the soul to hell, and it contemplates the cruel torment of unrepentant sinners. On the fortieth day, the soul ascends for the third time to worship God, and then its fate is decided - according to earthly affairs, it is assigned a place to stay until Last Judgment. That's why it's so timely church prayers and commemorations on this day. They atone for the sins of the deceased and ask for his soul to be placed in paradise with the saints.

Anniversary. The Church commemorates the deceased on the anniversary of their death. The basis for this establishment is obvious. It is known that the largest liturgical cycle is the annual circle, after which all the fixed holidays are repeated again. Death anniversary loved one always celebrated with at least a heartfelt remembrance by his loving family and friends. For an Orthodox believer, this is a birthday for a new one, eternal life.

UNIVERSAL MEMORIAL SERVICES (PARENTAL SATURDAYS)

In addition to these days, the Church has established special days for the solemn, general, ecumenical commemoration of all fathers and brothers in faith who have passed away from time to time, who have been worthy of Christian death, as well as those who, having been caught sudden death, were not guided into the afterlife by the prayers of the Church. Requiem services performed at the same time, specified by the charter Universal Church, are called ecumenical, and the days on which commemoration is performed are called ecumenical parental Saturdays. In the circle of the liturgical year, such days of general remembrance are:

Meat Saturday. Dedicating the Meat Week to the remembrance of the Last Last Judgment of Christ, the Church, in view of this judgment, established to intercede not only for its living members, but also for all who have died from time immemorial, who have lived in piety, of all generations, ranks and conditions, especially for those who died a sudden death , and prays to the Lord for mercy on them. The solemn all-church commemoration of the departed on this Saturday (as well as on Trinity Saturday) brings great benefit and help to our deceased fathers and brothers and at the same time serves as an expression of the fullness of the church life that we live. For salvation is possible only in the Church - the community of believers, the members of which are not only those living, but also all those who have died in the faith. And communication with them through prayer, their prayerful remembrance is an expression of our common unity in the Church of Christ.

Saturday Trinity. The commemoration of all dead pious Christians was established on the Saturday before Pentecost due to the fact that the event of the descent of the Holy Spirit completed the economy of human salvation, and the deceased also participate in this salvation. Therefore, the Church, sending up prayers on Pentecost for the revival of all living by the Holy Spirit, asks on the very day of the holiday that for the departed the grace of the all-holy and all-sanctifying Spirit of the Comforter, which they were granted during their lifetime, would be a source of bliss, since by the Holy Spirit “every soul is given life.” " Therefore, the Church devotes the eve of the holiday, Saturday, to the remembrance of the departed and prayer for them. Saint Basil the Great, who composed the touching prayers of Vespers of Pentecost, says in them that the Lord especially on this day deigns to accept prayers for the dead and even for “those kept in hell.”

Parents' Saturdays 2nd, 3rd and 4th weeks of the Holy Pentecost. On Holy Pentecost - the days of Great Lent, the feat of spirituality, the feat of repentance and charity to others - the Church calls on believers to be in the closest union of Christian love and peace not only with the living, but also with the dead, to perform prayerful commemorations of those who have departed from this life on designated days. In addition, the Saturdays of these weeks are designated by the Church for the remembrance of the dead for another reason that on the weekdays of Great Lent no funeral commemorations are performed (this includes funeral litanies, litias, memorial services, commemorations of the 3rd, 9th and 40th days by death, sorokousty), since there is no full liturgy every day, the celebration of which is associated with the commemoration of the dead. In order not to deprive the dead of the saving intercession of the Church on the days of the Holy Pentecost, the indicated Saturdays are allocated.

Radonitsa. The basis for the general commemoration of the dead, which takes place on the Tuesday after St. Thomas Week (Sunday), is, on the one hand, the remembrance of the descent of Jesus Christ into hell and His victory over death, connected with St. Thomas Sunday, and, on the other hand, the permission of the church charter to perform the usual commemoration of the dead after Passion and Holy Week, starting from Fomin Monday. On this day, believers come to the graves of their relatives and friends with the joyful news of the Resurrection of Christ. Hence the day of remembrance itself is called Radonitsa (or Radunitsa).

Unfortunately, in Soviet time a custom was established to visit cemeteries not on Radonitsa, but on the first day of Easter. It is natural for a believer to visit the graves of his loved ones after fervent prayer for their repose in the church - after a memorial service has been served in the church. During the same Easter week There are no funeral services, for Easter is an all-encompassing joy for believers in the Resurrection of our Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, during the entire Easter week, funeral litanies are not pronounced (although the usual commemoration is performed at the proskomedia), and memorial services are not served.

CHURCH FUNERAL SERVICES

It is necessary to remember the deceased in the Church as often as possible, not only on designated special days commemoration, but also on any other day. The Church performs the main prayer for the repose of deceased Orthodox Christians on Divine Liturgy, making a bloodless sacrifice to God for them. To do this, you should submit notes with their names to the church before the start of the liturgy (or the night before) (only baptized Orthodox Christians can be entered). At the proskomedia, particles will be taken out of the prosphora for their repose, which at the end of the liturgy will be lowered into the holy chalice and washed with the Blood of the Son of God. Let us remember that this is the greatest benefit we can provide to those who are dear to us. This is how it is said about commemoration at the liturgy in the Message of the Eastern Patriarchs: “We believe that the souls of people who fell into mortal sins and did not despair at death, but repented even before separation from real life, only those who did not have time to bear any fruits of repentance (such fruits could be their prayers, tears, kneeling during prayer vigils, contrition, consolation of the poor and expression of love for God and neighbors in their actions) - the souls of such people descend into hell and suffer for what they have done sins of punishment, without losing, however, hope for relief. They receive relief through the infinite goodness of God through the prayers of priests and charity performed for the dead, and especially through the power of bloodless sacrifice, which, in particular, the priest makes for every Christian for his loved ones, and in general for everyone the Catholic Church makes every day. Apostolic Church».

An eight-pointed symbol is usually placed at the top of the note. Orthodox cross. Then the type of commemoration is indicated - “On repose”, after which the names of those commemorated in the genitive case are written in large, legible handwriting (to answer the question “who?”), and the clergy and monastics are mentioned first, indicating the rank and degree of monasticism (for example, Metropolitan John, schema-abbot Savva, archpriest Alexander, nun Rachel, Andrey, Nina).

All names must be given in church spelling (for example, Tatiana, Alexy) and in full (Mikhail, Lyubov, and not Misha, Lyuba).

The number of names on the note does not matter; you just need to take into account that the priest has the opportunity to read not very long notes more carefully. Therefore, it is better to submit several notes if you want to remember many of your loved ones.

By submitting notes, the parishioner makes a donation for the needs of the monastery or temple. To avoid embarrassment, please remember that the difference in prices (registered or plain notes) only reflects the difference in the amount of the donation. Also, do not be embarrassed if you did not hear the names of your relatives mentioned in the litany. As mentioned above, the main commemoration takes place at the proskomedia when removing particles from the prosphora. During the funeral litany, you can take out your memorial and pray for your loved ones. The prayer will be more effective if the one commemorating himself on that day partakes of the Body and Blood of Christ.

After the liturgy, a memorial service can be celebrated. The memorial service is served before the eve - a special table with an image of the crucifixion and rows of candlesticks. Here you can leave an offering for the needs of the temple in memory of deceased loved ones.

It is very important after death to order the sorokoust in the church - continuous commemoration during the liturgy for forty days. After its completion, the sorokoust can be ordered again. There are also long periods of commemoration - six months, a year. Some monasteries accept notes for eternal (as long as the monastery stands) commemoration or for commemoration during the reading of the Psalter (such is the ancient Orthodox custom). The more churches where prayer is offered, the better for our neighbor!

It is very useful on the memorable days of the deceased to donate to the church, give alms to the poor with a request to pray for him. On the eve you can bring sacrificial food. You cannot just bring meat food and alcohol (except for church wine) to the eve. The simplest type of sacrifice for the deceased is a candle that is lit for his repose.

Realizing that the most we can do for our deceased loved ones is to submit a note of remembrance at the liturgy, we should not forget to pray for them at home and perform acts of mercy.

MEMORY OF THE DECEASED AT HOME PRAYER

Prayer for the departed is our main and invaluable help to those who have passed into another world. The deceased, by and large, does not need a coffin, a grave monument, much less a memorial table - all this is just a tribute to traditions, albeit very pious ones. But the eternally living soul of the deceased experiences a great need for constant prayer, for it cannot itself do good deeds with which it would be able to appease the Lord. Home prayer for loved ones, including the dead, is the duty of every Orthodox Christian. St. Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow, speaks about prayer for the dead: “If the all-discerning Wisdom of God does not forbid praying for the dead, does this not mean that it is still allowed to throw a rope, although not always reliable enough, but sometimes, and perhaps often, saving for souls who have fallen away from the shores of temporary life, but have not reached eternal refuge? Saving for those souls who waver over the abyss between bodily death and the final judgment of Christ, now rising by faith, now plunging into deeds unworthy of it, now elevated by grace, now brought down by the remains of a damaged nature, now ascended by Divine desire, now entangled in the rough, not yet completely stripped of the clothes of earthly thoughts..."

Home prayerful commemoration of a deceased Christian is very diverse. You should pray especially diligently for the deceased in the first forty days after his death. As already indicated in the section “Reading the Psalter for the Dead,” during this period it is very useful to read the Psalter about the deceased, at least one kathisma per day. You can also recommend reading an akathist about the repose of the departed. In general, the Church commands us to pray every day for deceased parents, relatives, known people and benefactors. For this purpose, among the daily morning prayers included the following short prayer:

Prayer for the departed

Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names), and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.

It is more convenient to read names from a commemoration book - a small book where the names of living and deceased relatives are written down. There is a pious custom of keeping family memorials, reading which Orthodox people remember by name many generations of their deceased ancestors.

FUNERAL MEAL

The pious custom of remembering the dead at meals has been known for a very long time. But, unfortunately, many funerals turn into an occasion for relatives to get together, discuss news, eat delicious food, while Orthodox Christians should pray for the deceased at the funeral table.

Before the meal, a litia should be performed - a short rite of requiem, which can be performed by a layman. As a last resort, you need to at least read Psalm 90 and the Lord’s Prayer. The first dish eaten at a wake is kutia (kolivo). These are boiled cereal grains (wheat or rice) with honey and raisins. Grains serve as a symbol of resurrection, and honey - the sweetness that the righteous enjoy in the Kingdom of God. According to the charter, kutia must be blessed with a special rite during a memorial service; if this is not possible, you need to sprinkle it with holy water.

Naturally, the owners want to provide a tasty treat for everyone who came to the funeral. But you must observe the fasts established by the Church and eat permitted foods: on Wednesdays, Fridays, and during long fasts, do not eat fasting foods. If the memory of the deceased occurs on a weekday during Lent, then the commemoration is moved to the Saturday or Sunday closest to it.

You must abstain from wine, especially vodka, at the funeral meal! The dead are not remembered with wine! Wine is a symbol of earthly joy, and a wake is an occasion for intense prayer for a person who may suffer greatly in the afterlife. You should not drink alcohol, even if the deceased himself liked to drink. It is known that “drunken” wakes often turn into an ugly gathering where the deceased is simply forgotten. At the table you need to remember the deceased, his good qualities and deeds (hence the name - wake). The custom of leaving a glass of vodka and a piece of bread at the table “for the deceased” is a relic of paganism and should not be observed in Orthodox families.

On the contrary, there are pious customs worthy of emulation. In many Orthodox families, the first to sit down at the funeral table are the poor and the poor, children and old women. They can also be given clothes and belongings of the deceased. Orthodox people can tell about numerous cases of identification from the afterlife about great help to the deceased as a result of the creation of alms by their relatives. Moreover, the loss of loved ones prompts many people to take the first step towards God, to start living life Orthodox Christian.

Thus, one living archimandrite tells the following incident from his pastoral practice.

“This happened in the difficult post-war years. A mother, tearful with grief, whose eight-year-old son Misha drowned, comes to me, the rector of the village church. And she says that she dreamed of Misha and complained about the cold - he was completely without clothes. I tell her: “Are any of his clothes left?” - "Yes, sure". - “Give it to your Mishin friends, they’ll probably find it useful.”

A few days later she tells me that she again saw Misha in a dream: he was dressed in exactly the clothes that were given to his friends. He thanked him, but now complained of hunger. I advised making it for the village children - Misha's friends and acquaintances - funeral meal. No matter how difficult it is in difficult times, what can you do for your beloved son! And the woman treated the children as best she could.

She came for the third time. She thanked me very much: “Misha said in a dream that now he is warm and nourished, but my prayers are not enough.” I taught her prayers and advised her not to leave acts of mercy for the future. She became a zealous parishioner, always ready to respond to requests for help, and to the best of her ability she helped orphans, the poor and the poor.”

My sister dreamed for a long time about the possibility of traveling to Italy, and her dream came true. The three of us - me, her and my eldest daughter Olga - finally went abroad. It was necessary to see my sister in Venice, in a gondola, in the museums of Florence, Rome, and finally, in Naples, in Capri. This time was the happiest in her life. She saw Italy, breathed its air. Her favorite people were with her, and her last joy lay ahead - the marriage of her pupil.
And behind him came a terrible hour. Death has come.
My grandfather Ivan Andreevich Nesterov was from peasants, and our family was peasant, Novgorod. Under Catherine II, the Nesterovs moved from Novgorod to the Urals and established themselves in factories there. It is known about my grandfather that he... was freed, was in the seminary, later enrolled in the guild and, finally, was the mayor of Ufa for twenty years in a row. According to the stories, he was smart, active, hospitable, an excellent administrator, and as if one day the famous Count Perovsky, the Orenburg governor-general, visiting Ufa, found exemplary order in it and, turning to his grandfather, said this:
- You, Nesterov, should be the head not here, but in Moscow!
According to the surviving portrait, the grandfather looked like the administrators of that time. Depicted in a uniform with an embroidered collar, with two gold medals. He had the title of "stately citizen." He loved company very much; according to his father and aunt, he gave home performances, and our family kept a poster for such a performance, printed on white satin, for a long time. The "Inspector General" was on. Among the characters were my uncle Alexander Ivanovich (mayor) and my father (Bobchensky). The grandfather was not a merchant by vocation, like none of his sons. He died in 1848 from cholera. He had four sons. Of these, the eldest - Alexander Ivanovich - was gifted with extraordinary abilities. He played the violin perfectly, as if he was composing - composing. He played incomparably on stage, especially tragic roles ("Merchant Igolkin" and others). He loved to read and did not like trading.
His fate was sad. In those days, as in later times, there were riots in factories in the Urals. And after such riots, a party of workers was taken to the Ufa prison. Somehow they established contact with my uncle Alexander Ivanovich, and he undertook to deliver their petition to the highest name. The Nizhny Novgorod Fair came up, and my uncle was sent there by his grandfather on trade matters. I finished them and, instead of going home to Ufa, decided to go to St. Petersburg. He stopped at an inn, found out where and how he could hand over his paper to the sovereign, and since he was advised to do this through the heir Alexander Nikolaevich, the future Emperor II, his uncle decided to see him. Times were simple then. The highest persons did not behave as they did later, they walked along the streets, in the gardens, and my uncle decided to submit his petition to the heir in the Summer Garden, where he used to stroll at certain hours. He was very lucky. Indeed, he saw the heir walking on one of the garden paths, approached him and, kneeling down, submitted a petition explaining the contents in it. He was graciously listened to and sent away reassured. Happy, he returned to the inn, but that same night he was taken, imprisoned and sent with couriers to distant places...
Obviously, on the same day the heir presented the petition to Emperor Nikolai Pavlovich, and he looked at the matter in his own way - the rest happened as if by order of a pike.
I remember Uncle Alexander Ivanovich well. He lived in our house after his exile as an old man. Everything he had experienced left a mark on his health; he was not mentally well. Outwardly, in those days he reminded me of the artist N. N. Ge. The same manners, the same head with long hair, even a coat instead of a jacket, exactly like Ge’s in the last years of his life. His hero at that time was Garibaldi, his personal enemies were Bismarck and Pope Pius IX. They got it cruelly from the old “revolutionary”.
Even as an old man, my uncle loved to play the violin, for which he went to the garden in the summer. In winter he loved the bathhouse and after the regiment he loved to run out into the cold, plunge into a snowdrift and then go back to the regiment. And this was when he was already over seventy. He died a very old man in Ufa.
Uncle Konstantin Ivanovich was a self-taught doctor.
Of the aunts, Elizaveta Ivanovna Kabanova was distinguished, like Uncle Alexander Ivanovich, by her liberal sympathies. Aunt Anna Ivanovna Yasemeneva, on the contrary, was conservative. She was a good watercolor painter when she was young, and it was a great joy for me to have her drawing. I especially remember one - “Margarita at the Spinning Wheel”. There, it seemed to me, as if alive, there was green ivy by the window. Undoubtedly, her drawings in early childhood left some kind of mark on me.
I don’t remember my grandfather Mikhail Mikhailovich Rostovtsev. I know from my mother that the Rostovtsevs came to Sterlitamak from Yelets, where my grandfather ran a large trade in grain; it seems he had large herds of sheep. He was of good means. He was of a gentle nature and apparently very kind. That's all I know about him. I don’t remember anything about my grandmothers; they died long before I was born. Grandfather Mikhail Mikhailovich had three sons and three daughters. The eldest, Ivan Mikhailovich, visited us when he came from Sterlitamak. He was unfriendly, they say he loved money more than moderation.
The second - Andrei Mikhailovich - lived at the mill, and I don’t remember him, and the third - the youngest, very good-natured, careless, with great oddities, rich, married to a beautiful noblewoman, towards the end of his life he spent everything, and if he didn’t need it, then had to cut myself a lot. None of the Rostovtsev uncles showed themselves to have any talents.
Of the daughters of grandfather Mikhail Mikhailovich, the eldest, Evpraxia Mikhailovna, was indescribably kind and deeply unhappy. I knew her as an old lady and loved her very much. From time to time they brought her to stay with us. She was one of the first to see and in her own way appreciate my painting abilities. About the “Hermit”, when she saw him, she told me: “Your old man, Minechka, looks as if he’s alive!”, and this was like a good parting word to him, my “Hermit”.
Mikhail Mikhailovich’s second daughter was my mother, Maria Mikhailovna, and the third, Alexandra Mikhailovna, was the most, so to speak, cultured of all the sisters. Alexandra Mikhailovna was a very good, smart person. She was married to a certain Ivanov, a man of rare moral principles. From among minor postal officials, he rose to the rank of chief of the postal district, to the rank of privy councilor, and with his justice, nobility and accessibility, he earned absolutely exceptional love from his subordinates, especially from lower employees. He was one of the finest and most respectable people I knew. He was handsome, modest and clear with the special clarity of a life justly and honestly lived.
I began to remember myself when I was three or four years old. Until I was two years old, I was a weak, barely surviving child. They didn’t do anything to me to save my life! No matter what medical and folk remedies they tried to get me back on my feet, I still remained a frail, dying child. They tried to put me in the oven, I was in the snow in the cold, until one day it seemed to my mother that I had completely given my soul to God. They dressed me up and placed me under the image. A small enamel icon of Tikhon of Zadonsk was placed on the chest. The mother prayed, and one of the relatives went to Ivan the Baptist to order a grave near the grandfather Ivan Andreevich Nesterov. But this happened: at the same time, Aunt E. I. Kabanova’s baby died, and he also needed a grave. So the relatives came together and argued about which of the grandchildren should lie closer to grandfather Ivan Andreevich... And then my mother noticed that I was breathing again, and then completely woke up. My mother joyfully thanked God, attributing my resurrection to the intercession of Tikhon of Zadonsk, who, like Sergius of Radonezh, enjoyed special love and reverence in our family. Both saints were close to us, they were, so to speak, part of the everyday life of our spiritual life.

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The hour comes when the remains of the deceased are buried in the earth, where they will rest until the end of time and the general resurrection. But the love of the Mother of the Church for her child who has departed from this life does not dry out. On certain days, she makes prayers for the deceased and makes a bloodless sacrifice for his repose. Special days of commemoration are the third, ninth and fortieth (in this case, the day of death is considered the first). Commemoration on these days is sanctified by ancient church custom. It is consistent with the teaching of the Church about the state of the soul beyond the grave.

The third day. The commemoration of the deceased on the third day after death is performed in honor of the three-day resurrection of Jesus Christ and in the image of the Holy Trinity.

For the first two days, the soul of the deceased is still on earth, passing along with the Angel accompanying it through those places that attract it with memories of earthly joys and sorrows, evil and good deeds. The soul that loves the body sometimes wanders around the house in which the body is placed, and thus spends two days like a bird looking for a nest. A virtuous soul walks through those places in which it used to do the truth. On the third day, the Lord commands the soul to ascend to heaven to worship Him - the God of all. Therefore, the church commemoration of the soul that appeared before the face of the Just One is very timely.

Ninth day. The commemoration of the deceased on this day is in honor of the nine ranks of angels, who, as servants of the King of Heaven and representatives to Him for us, petition for pardon for the deceased.

After the third day, the soul, accompanied by an Angel, enters the heavenly abodes and contemplates their indescribable beauty. She remains in this state for six days. During this time, the soul forgets the sorrow that it felt while in the body and after leaving it. But if she is guilty of sins, then at the sight of the pleasure of the saints she begins to grieve and reproach herself: “Woe is me! How much I have become fussy in this world! I spent most of my life in carelessness and did not serve God as I should, so that I too would be worthy of this grace and glory. Alas for me, poor one!” On the ninth day, the Lord commands the Angels to again present the soul to Him for worship. The soul stands before the throne of the Most High with fear and trembling. But even at this time, the Holy Church again prays for the deceased, asking the merciful Judge to place the soul of her child with the saints.

Fortieth day. The forty-day period is very significant in the history and tradition of the Church as the time necessary for preparation and acceptance of the special Divine gift of the gracious help of the Heavenly Father. The Prophet Moses was honored to talk with God on Mount Sinai and receive the tablets of the law from Him only after a forty-day fast. The Israelites reached the promised land after forty years of wandering. Our Lord Jesus Christ Himself ascended into heaven on the fortieth day after His resurrection. Taking all this as a basis, the Church established commemoration on the fortieth day after death, so that the soul of the deceased would ascend the holy mountain of Heavenly Sinai, be rewarded with the sight of God, achieve the bliss promised to it and settle in the heavenly villages with the righteous.

After the second worship of the Lord, the Angels take the soul to hell, and it contemplates the cruel torment of unrepentant sinners. On the fortieth day, the soul ascends for the third time to worship God, and then its fate is decided - according to earthly affairs, it is assigned a place to stay until the Last Judgment. That is why church prayers and commemorations on this day are so timely. They atone for the sins of the deceased and ask for his soul to be placed in paradise with the saints.

Anniversary. The Church commemorates the deceased on the anniversary of their death. The basis for this establishment is obvious. It is known that the largest liturgical cycle is the annual circle, after which all the fixed holidays are repeated again. The anniversary of the death of a loved one is always marked with at least a heartfelt remembrance by loving family and friends. For an Orthodox believer, this is a birthday for a new, eternal life.

UNIVERSAL MEMORIAL SERVICES (PARENTAL SATURDAYS)

In addition to these days, the Church has established special days for the solemn, general, ecumenical commemoration of all fathers and brothers in faith who have passed away from time to time, who have been worthy of Christian death, as well as those who, having been caught by sudden death, were not guided into the afterlife by the prayers of the Church. The memorial services performed at this time, specified by the statutes of the Ecumenical Church, are called ecumenical, and the days on which the commemoration is performed are called ecumenical parental Saturdays. In the circle of the liturgical year, such days of general remembrance are:

Meat Saturday. Dedicating the Meat Week to the remembrance of the Last Last Judgment of Christ, the Church, in view of this judgment, established to intercede not only for its living members, but also for all who have died from time immemorial, who have lived in piety, of all generations, ranks and conditions, especially for those who died a sudden death , and prays to the Lord for mercy on them. The solemn all-church commemoration of the departed on this Saturday (as well as on Trinity Saturday) brings great benefit and help to our deceased fathers and brothers and at the same time serves as an expression of the fullness of the church life that we live. For salvation is possible only in the Church - the community of believers, the members of which are not only those living, but also all those who have died in the faith. And communication with them through prayer, their prayerful remembrance is an expression of our common unity in the Church of Christ.

Saturday Trinity. The commemoration of all dead pious Christians was established on the Saturday before Pentecost due to the fact that the event of the descent of the Holy Spirit completed the economy of human salvation, and the deceased also participate in this salvation. Therefore, the Church, sending up prayers on Pentecost for the revival of all living by the Holy Spirit, asks on the very day of the holiday that for the departed the grace of the all-holy and all-sanctifying Spirit of the Comforter, which they were granted during their lifetime, would be a source of bliss, since by the Holy Spirit “every soul is given life.” " Therefore, the Church devotes the eve of the holiday, Saturday, to the remembrance of the departed and prayer for them. Saint Basil the Great, who composed the touching prayers of Vespers of Pentecost, says in them that the Lord especially on this day deigns to accept prayers for the dead and even for “those kept in hell.”

Parental Saturdays of the 2nd, 3rd and 4th weeks of the Holy Pentecost. On Holy Pentecost - the days of Great Lent, the feat of spirituality, the feat of repentance and charity to others - the Church calls on believers to be in the closest union of Christian love and peace not only with the living, but also with the dead, to perform prayerful commemorations of those who have departed from this life on designated days. In addition, the Saturdays of these weeks are designated by the Church for the remembrance of the dead for another reason that on the weekdays of Great Lent no funeral commemorations are performed (this includes funeral litanies, litias, memorial services, commemorations of the 3rd, 9th and 40th days by death, sorokousty), since there is no full liturgy every day, the celebration of which is associated with the commemoration of the dead. In order not to deprive the dead of the saving intercession of the Church on the days of the Holy Pentecost, the indicated Saturdays are allocated.

Radonitsa. The basis for the general commemoration of the dead, which takes place on the Tuesday after St. Thomas Week (Sunday), is, on the one hand, the remembrance of the descent of Jesus Christ into hell and His victory over death, connected with St. Thomas Sunday, and, on the other hand, the permission of the church charter to perform the usual commemoration of the dead after Holy and Holy Weeks, starting with Fomin Monday. On this day, believers come to the graves of their relatives and friends with the joyful news of the Resurrection of Christ. Hence the day of remembrance itself is called Radonitsa (or Radunitsa).

Unfortunately, in Soviet times, the custom was established to visit cemeteries not on Radonitsa, but on the first day of Easter. It is natural for a believer to visit the graves of his loved ones after fervent prayer for their repose in the church - after a memorial service has been served in the church. During Easter week there are no funeral services, for Easter is an all-encompassing joy for believers in the Resurrection of our Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, during the entire Easter week, funeral litanies are not pronounced (although the usual commemoration is performed at the proskomedia), and memorial services are not served.

CHURCH FUNERAL SERVICES

The deceased must be commemorated in the Church as often as possible, not only on designated special days of remembrance, but also on any other day. The Church makes the main prayer for the repose of deceased Orthodox Christians at the Divine Liturgy, offering a bloodless sacrifice to God for them. To do this, you should submit notes with their names to the church before the start of the liturgy (or the night before) (only baptized Orthodox Christians can be entered). At the proskomedia, particles will be taken out of the prosphora for their repose, which at the end of the liturgy will be lowered into the holy chalice and washed with the Blood of the Son of God. Let us remember that this is the greatest benefit we can provide to those who are dear to us. This is how it is said about commemoration at the liturgy in the Message of the Eastern Patriarchs: “We believe that the souls of people who fell into mortal sins and did not despair at death, but repented even before separation from real life, only did not have time to bear any fruits of repentance (such fruits could be their prayers, tears, kneeling during prayer vigils, contrition, consolation of the poor and expression in actions of love for God and neighbors) - the souls of such people descend into hell and suffer punishment for the sins they have committed, without, however, losing hope for relief. They receive relief through the infinite goodness of God through the prayers of priests and charity done for the dead, and especially through the power of bloodless sacrifice, which, in particular, the priest makes for every Christian for his loved ones, and in general the Catholic and Apostolic Church makes for everyone every day.”

An eight-pointed Orthodox cross is usually placed at the top of the note. Then the type of commemoration is indicated - “On repose”, after which the names of those commemorated in the genitive case are written in large, legible handwriting (to answer the question “who?”), and the clergy and monastics are mentioned first, indicating the rank and degree of monasticism (for example, Metropolitan John, schema-abbot Savva, archpriest Alexander, nun Rachel, Andrey, Nina).

All names must be given in church spelling (for example, Tatiana, Alexy) and in full (Mikhail, Lyubov, and not Misha, Lyuba).

The number of names on the note does not matter; you just need to take into account that the priest has the opportunity to read not very long notes more carefully. Therefore, it is better to submit several notes if you want to remember many of your loved ones.

By submitting notes, the parishioner makes a donation for the needs of the monastery or temple. To avoid embarrassment, please remember that the difference in prices (registered or plain notes) only reflects the difference in the amount of the donation. Also, do not be embarrassed if you did not hear the names of your relatives mentioned in the litany. As mentioned above, the main commemoration takes place at the proskomedia when removing particles from the prosphora. During the funeral litany, you can take out your memorial and pray for your loved ones. The prayer will be more effective if the one commemorating himself on that day partakes of the Body and Blood of Christ.

After the liturgy, a memorial service can be celebrated. The memorial service is served before the eve - a special table with an image of the crucifixion and rows of candlesticks. Here you can leave an offering for the needs of the temple in memory of deceased loved ones.

It is very important after death to order the sorokoust in the church - continuous commemoration during the liturgy for forty days. After its completion, the sorokoust can be ordered again. There are also long periods of commemoration - six months, a year. Some monasteries accept notes for eternal (as long as the monastery stands) commemoration or for commemoration during the reading of the Psalter (this is an ancient Orthodox custom). The more churches where prayer is offered, the better for our neighbor!

It is very useful on the memorable days of the deceased to donate to the church, give alms to the poor with a request to pray for him. On the eve you can bring sacrificial food. You cannot just bring meat food and alcohol (except for church wine) to the eve. The simplest type of sacrifice for the deceased is a candle that is lit for his repose.

Realizing that the most we can do for our deceased loved ones is to submit a note of remembrance at the liturgy, we should not forget to pray for them at home and perform acts of mercy.

MEMORY OF THE DECEASED AT HOME PRAYER

Prayer for the departed is our main and invaluable help to those who have passed into another world. The deceased, by and large, does not need a coffin, a grave monument, much less a memorial table - all this is just a tribute to traditions, albeit very pious ones. But the eternally living soul of the deceased experiences a great need for constant prayer, for it cannot itself do good deeds with which it would be able to appease the Lord. Home prayer for loved ones, including the dead, is the duty of every Orthodox Christian. St. Philaret, Metropolitan of Moscow, speaks about prayer for the dead: “If the all-discerning Wisdom of God does not forbid praying for the dead, does this not mean that it is still allowed to throw a rope, although not always reliable enough, but sometimes, and perhaps often, saving for souls who have fallen away from the shores of temporary life, but have not reached eternal refuge? Saving for those souls who waver over the abyss between bodily death and the final judgment of Christ, now rising by faith, now plunging into deeds unworthy of it, now elevated by grace, now brought down by the remains of a damaged nature, now ascended by Divine desire, now entangled in the rough, not yet completely stripped of the clothes of earthly thoughts..."

Home prayerful commemoration of a deceased Christian is very diverse. You should pray especially diligently for the deceased in the first forty days after his death. As already indicated in the section “Reading the Psalter for the Dead,” during this period it is very useful to read the Psalter about the deceased, at least one kathisma per day. You can also recommend reading an akathist about the repose of the departed. In general, the Church commands us to pray every day for deceased parents, relatives, known people and benefactors. For this purpose, the following short prayer is included in the daily morning prayers:

Prayer for the departed

Rest, O Lord, the souls of Your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names), and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.

It is more convenient to read names from a commemoration book - a small book where the names of living and deceased relatives are written down. There is a pious custom of keeping family memorials, reading which Orthodox people remember by name many generations of their deceased ancestors.

FUNERAL MEAL

The pious custom of remembering the dead at meals has been known for a very long time. But, unfortunately, many funerals turn into an occasion for relatives to get together, discuss news, eat delicious food, while Orthodox Christians should pray for the deceased at the funeral table.

Before the meal, a litia should be performed - a short rite of requiem, which can be performed by a layman. As a last resort, you need to at least read Psalm 90 and the Lord’s Prayer. The first dish eaten at a wake is kutia (kolivo). These are boiled cereal grains (wheat or rice) with honey and raisins. Grains serve as a symbol of resurrection, and honey - the sweetness that the righteous enjoy in the Kingdom of God. According to the charter, kutia must be blessed with a special rite during a memorial service; if this is not possible, you need to sprinkle it with holy water.

Naturally, the owners want to provide a tasty treat for everyone who came to the funeral. But you must observe the fasts established by the Church and eat permitted foods: on Wednesdays, Fridays, and during long fasts, do not eat fasting foods. If the memory of the deceased occurs on a weekday during Lent, then the commemoration is moved to the Saturday or Sunday closest to it.

You must abstain from wine, especially vodka, at the funeral meal! The dead are not remembered with wine! Wine is a symbol of earthly joy, and a wake is an occasion for intense prayer for a person who may suffer greatly in the afterlife. You should not drink alcohol, even if the deceased himself liked to drink. It is known that “drunken” wakes often turn into an ugly gathering where the deceased is simply forgotten. At the table you need to remember the deceased, his good qualities and deeds (hence the name - wake). The custom of leaving a glass of vodka and a piece of bread at the table “for the deceased” is a relic of paganism and should not be observed in Orthodox families.

On the contrary, there are pious customs worthy of imitation. In many Orthodox families, the first to sit down at the funeral table are the poor and the poor, children and old women. They can also be given clothes and belongings of the deceased. Orthodox people can tell about numerous cases of confirmation from the afterlife of great help to the deceased as a result of the creation of alms by their relatives. Moreover, the loss of loved ones prompts many people to take the first step towards God, to begin living the life of an Orthodox Christian.

Thus, one living archimandrite tells the following incident from his pastoral practice.

“This happened in the difficult post-war years. A mother, tearful with grief, whose eight-year-old son Misha drowned, comes to me, the rector of the village church. And she says that she dreamed of Misha and complained about the cold - he was completely without clothes. I tell her: “Are any of his clothes left?” - "Yes, sure". - “Give it to your Mishin friends, they’ll probably find it useful.”

A few days later she tells me that she again saw Misha in a dream: he was dressed in exactly the clothes that were given to his friends. He thanked him, but now complained of hunger. I advised to organize a memorial meal for the village children - Misha's friends and acquaintances. No matter how difficult it is in difficult times, what can you do for your beloved son! And the woman treated the children as best she could.

She came for the third time. She thanked me very much: “Misha said in a dream that now he is warm and nourished, but my prayers are not enough.” I taught her prayers and advised her not to leave acts of mercy for the future. She became a zealous parishioner, always ready to respond to requests for help, and to the best of her ability she helped orphans, the poor and the poor.”

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OLEG BUKHARTSEV

"IN THE DAYS IMMEMORABLE..."
(an ironic tale in verse and

persons for reading and acting)

Characters:
Narrator

Frog

Princess (aka Frog)

Ivan (youngest son)

Eldest son

Middle son

Eldest daughter-in-law

Middle daughter-in-law

Old woman

A vampire

and many others…

Narrator:
“There are many different fairy tales -

You can’t remember or count everyone;

Everything is reflected in them.
Lots of scary and funny ones

Youthful and gray-haired;

Now I’m scourging rhymes,

I'll tell you one of them...
...In days immemorial -

They are hidden by time -

The king-lord lived and reigned

Surrounded by relatives.
AND this king , -

He didn't waste his time -

There were three legitimate sons,

Not to mention others.
The first two are like the father

And from the back of the head, and from the face -

It's like someone's Pinocchio

Didn't finish it completely.
The third one was simply a fool.

And the people thought this:

Apparently the king is at his work

He allowed some kind of marriage.
One morning or afternoon

The king woke up to everyone's detriment

And I decided to play a dirty trick,

But don't make unnecessary troubles.
Got out of bed, walked around,

Tradescantia watered

And a straight line

I twisted it into a spiral in my head.
I thought for a long time: what should I do here?

And where to direct your agility?

And the first thing I thought of was

Marry your sons!
He calls all three to himself -

Full of enemy worries -

And, smiling naively,

This is how the conversation goes." -
Tsar:
“Pleasant to the eye and soul!

Top models! Well - in general!

There is no place to even place samples -

Like Faberge eggs!
I thought and appreciated

I thought about it and decided:

I will marry you, children, so that

Bring down your stupid, youthful ardor!
Why did the pupils pop out like that?

Won't fit into glasses?

Stop taking over the female gender

Illegal glasses!
Show better class

These local products are

A mocking deception.
It is impossible to smoke them:

They're just starting to stink!

Expected high

Impossible to obtain."
Tsar:
“Calm down, plan boy!

I'll give you a hookah!

(Nature took a break!)

What do you want, Ivan?
Ivan:
“I have a mobile phone!

So that the signal is Mouzon

"Hands up"! Or Serduchka!

Well, what’s cooler is Kobzon!”
Tsar:
“So I’ll tell you, daredevils,

Overgrown youths!

We need to take you, fat-faced ones,

Take the reins very urgently!
Everyone is only about themselves!

Hymn to the rolled lip!

Like the navels of the Earth! More precisely…

These... piercings in the navel!
Therefore, sons, we take

On an arrow with a dashing feather

And a hunting bow!

I’ll tell you why later!”
Narrator:
“Everyone goes out on the porch;

And everyone has a face

Hopeless and sad

Like a broken egg.
Only the king is happy

Doesn't take his eyes off his sons

Speeches are sweet, as if

I just ate some marmalade.”
Tsar:
"I'm still alive

And funny as hell:

I'll explain the dating process

Why did you go on a voyage?
At the merchant gate

Finally I closed my mouth:

After all, I shot an arrow here -

Not anywhere among the people!
The merchant's daughter was thin

Like the Kuril ridge;

The look of her body

A year since the food ran out.
When I saw her, I immediately

Put a tired eye

For the body that wanted

Like a hardened womanizer.
And she moves her eyebrow, -

The blood is already boiling in my veins;

In general, they silently agreed

For mutual love."
Narrator:
“And the merchant is more happy than everyone,

Everything hiccups out of place,

He wipes everything with a handkerchief.

Its beefy façade.
The conversation was short

And the merchant, without wasting his strength,

Bored with girls

I brought my daughter to my delight...
Third son Ivan the Fool

Got into the swamp up to my knees

And it won’t come out!
He shot his arrow

From the bottom of my heart:

I tried so hard that twice

I almost bit my tongue.
For a long time he searched for an arrow

Among the fields, among the rocks;

In between this,

Quietly, he shed a tear.
And he went into the dense forest,

That out of fear I almost remembered

About forgotten enuresis.
He was only paralyzed by fear,

He suddenly came out to the swamp;

How I saw my arrow -

Almost jumped out of my pants.
Ivan just took a step,

My feet immediately got stuck in the mud;

He twitched and jumped,

He even swears at leeches.
He got angry... Suddenly he looks:

Sits with his arrow

Pop-eyed frog

And his pupil drills into him.
All green, in the grass,

There are two leeches on the back of the neck

And a golden crown

On a bald head.
Poor Vanya was stunned

So I sat down in the swamp myself,

But without seeing crime,

I immediately became bolder.”
Ivan:
"Hey, green one, give it back

Give me an arrow. And drive away

From me disgusting leeches -

After all, they bite!
There's no reason for me to stand here

And the soul suffers damage;

I need to look for a bride:

It's the season for brides!"
Narrator:
“And the frog is not silent

And without any offense,

With a little lisp,

But he speaks clearly.” -
Frog:
“Vanya, you are my betrothed,

Wash your eyes -

After all, the arrow found me -

So, we will be with you forever.
Wrap me in a scarf

And relieve your nervous shock:

And get out of the swamp -

I'm already wet down to my underpants!
I'll become your wife

Mischievous and lively;

Nothing I have

The disadvantage is small."
Ivan:
“You, of course, took everyone -

Both funny and sweet!…

But I forgot that recently

She was a tadpole!
I won't understand it at all

(Maybe I don’t think so?):

How do you see it in the future?

Our cloudless tandem?
If I were the same

Then, of course, I wouldn’t make a fuss

Definitely frequent!
But you finally understand:

My father won't let me

So that with all the honest people -

Marry the amphibian down the aisle!”
Frog:
“You are naive, like Mumu...

I am to you as if I were my own,

I'll reveal a terrible secret,

To clear your mind.
Well, you decide for yourself

And you won’t bend your soul,

What to have - such a wife

Or, let's say, naked shish!
Believe it or not:

Was born into the world

I am a princess. Honestly, -

There is nothing more beautiful in the world!
Don't be funny, I'm not always

The mud was driving around the pond;

Just come to us Koschey the Immortal

Suddenly it came like trouble.
I liked him -

This is where I understand it:

The shameless man began to try on

To my body.
I am his spiritual fervor

Cooled it down, it cooled down,

Turned me into a frog

And he planted it in a swamp.
But soon the time will pass,

The spell will wear off

And frog clothes,

It will undoubtedly disappear.
In the meantime, my beloved,

Wash me a little

Wrap it in a white handkerchief

And take it to your home."
Narrator:
"And meanwhile the Tsar Father

He was waiting for his sons in the palace:

Ordered to find it in the closet

Even a ring measure.
Sat down on a bench by the porch

Tried to make me smart

Facial expression.
For some reason I couldn't

Even though he tried and groaned.

Lo and behold, they’re already back from the “hunt”

Sons to their native inheritance.
The first two are with their own:

Their spoils are all with them;

And fit into their wake

The youngest of the three.
Booty the royal threshold

Poelezil. Forced march

Made his way towards his sons

And he made such a speech.” –
Tsar:
“I examined all the brides...

Should I put a zero or a cross?

(to Ivan) Well, I understand this,

Your son’s protest to me?!”
Narrator:
“I took Vanya aside,

The monologue went like this:

To calm my son too,

And it didn’t turn out like a joke.” -
Tsar:
“You, Ivan, of course, have a grip,

Don't be sad, son, about what

He stupidly shot at random.
Look at these:

Even though there are three of them with soap and mine -

To yours, like deep darkness,

They have until the morning dawn!
That's who has something to hide!

(And where was the mother looking!)

In general, like these faces

Can you call them faces?!
And take a figure for each:

It's not a daughter-in-law - it's a son-in-law!

To the "Mrs. World" tournaments

We won't send them!
And let yours be green!

(Maybe she's young?)

Maybe you were sick with something in childhood?

Is it really her fault?
Son, We don't have Nazism.

And throw away your racism -

Maybe there, in her swamp,

Was there some kind of cataclysm?!”
Narrator:
“Then Ivan told everything:

The fact that he took the princess into the house,

Like Koschey, her infection,

He freaked out and cast a spell.
The king thought about it

And I decided that the point was

What about the factory defect of the arrow?

And the sons have nothing to do with it.
The king pointed his monocle at everyone,

Didn't find any changes

And hunters with prey

I wanted to invite you to the table.
But I thought: “Wait,

The girls are young, right?!

Before weddings can give up,

At least keep your eyes open.
We should at least write them down,

After all, then, that’s how it happened,

It will be difficult to prove."
Tsar:
“Brothers, I am an intellectual;

At this critical moment

It's hard to follow you

It will be for me - after all, I’m not a cop.
Let's solve it this way:

We'll go to the court registry office,

Where and related law

We will gain from each other.
This family connection

Won't let anyone fall

Before all honest people

Cute face in the dirt!”
Narrator:
“Words like this pour out,

The king bowed like italics,

And he quickly rushed to the registry office:

From two to three there is a break.
Everything is behind him. And in an hour

(God willing - not the last time)

Legalized families

The registry office vomited out.
The whole crowd went to the table.

Even Vanya moved away! -

Although the entire government agency

He brought me to colic.
At the table, giving in slightly

And from this I am tired,

The king began quite noticeably

Show your bad temper.
Loudly, reluctantly, hiccupping,

Dipping my sleeve into my calf,

He launched into a tirade,

It has such a plot twist.” -
Tsar:
“I am both king and god for you,”

I could have hit everyone on the ram's horn,

And I endure this whole thing,

Like a simple Indian yogi!
IN generally so, at first sight,

Although, of course, I’m glad!…

The sight of my chosen sons

It's in a minor key...
The wedding is coming soon, and then

We will live in one herd, -

They foisted each one on us

It's like a bag with a cat.
To find out who breathes what!…

Like with your hands and everything,

I am a competition for my daughters-in-law

I declare no problem.
The one who can win

I’ll leave my husband and I to live here;

The rest - to a remote village

Milk the cows for the country!
I feel sorry for everyone to the point of bitter tears;

But inhale like the smell of roses,

To the losers what it smells like

First-class manure!
And I want to warn you:

Everyone can't win;

As one Dane said:

Here it’s “To be or not to be!”
Tomorrow every morning -

I’ll just wipe my eyes -

Stuffed fish

Let him bring it to the yard.
This first round for you ;

And I will say without further ado:

Fish in this version -

Like a step to Parnassus."
Narrator:
“The king finished his speech,

Suggested a slight streamlining

From her to her daughters-in-law

And he went to lie down with himself.
The daughter-in-law quickly left:

They don't need to cook -

"Gefilte fish!" -

It’s even difficult to speak!”
Middle daughter-in-law:
“Well, daddy did something strange...

Well done! (May he live like this!...)

Interesting: I came up with it myself

Or who knocked him down?
How to cook this food

To still be in time by morning?

As for me, it’s definitely

It’s easier to sing in tenor!”
Eldest daughter-in-law:
"I have one thought,

Can she help us:

After all, a cookbook

Given to me as a dowry.
There are countless recipes in it,

There are such things there -

You won't even want to see

It’s not like eating this rubbish!”
Narrator:
“The eldest son froze,

He even broke out in sweat:

He's for a dowry like this

Apparently, he was not ready.
But, having realized, I thought:

Good is not expected from good;

Maybe for those (that book!)

And they won't give you a brochure.
...The time was approaching night:

Two daughters-in-law at the stove

They were fussing... The smell was like

Cabbage soup is made from footcloths.
Smoke swirls like fog:

Everyone is sick! The brain is intoxicated!...

Therefore it was decided

I would lose clarity of speech:

Not a frog, but a Playboy!
Virgin of wondrous beauty!

The standard of a man's dream!

Vanya would be very surprised

That he was on first name terms with her.
Lips like petals...

Eyebrows like spikelets...

To complete the picture -

In general, the nipples are flying apart.
Resuming his normal appearance,

Having assessed how my husband snores,