Depression is like alcoholism: if you went into a deep binge once, and then managed to get out, this does not mean at all that now you can safely say that it will never, ever happen again.
As soon as the euphoria begins about the fact that now I can act left and right without care and sensitivity to myself, the pendulum will definitely swing in the other direction sooner or later. And the brighter the greedy euphoria was “now there will never be depression again and I can stir up that project and this one at the same time, and also be a reaper, a priest and a trumpet player,” the brighter the next depressive episode will be.
As the most talented, in my opinion, therapist and psychiatrist Ksenia Getman said beautifully and accurately, the psyche of a person predisposed to depression requires high quality care.
This means that it is important to maintain sensitivity not only to others and to the world in general, but first of all sensitivity and attitude towards yourself.
And such a manifestation means that it is important to be at your own pace, starting from basic needs: adequate sleep and nutrition, exercise. exercise, taking vitamins in the fall and spring (yes, banal earthly things, but which solve a lot in terms of mental resources), ending with the needs of a higher plan: having time to relate to yourself and being careful when setting goals and making plans, in disciplinary procedure organize yourself a space for relaxation that is dedicated to yourself and your loved one (and not combined with the interests of children/friends/relatives, etc.), and most importantly, carefully look at people before approaching. Crawl to a safe distance if the approach turns out to be toxic. Even if distancing is “inconvenient,” “yes, everyone does it and it’s okay,” “there’s something wrong with me.”
Depression is like alcoholism - if you pretend that the depressive part does not exist (and it is always alive inside, it always cares about preserving the personality, cutting out all feelings and energy in general, if a person does not hear himself for a long time, ignoring his feelings and signals ), then it will start knocking in dreams, in unexpected fantasies, waking you up at night, trying to remind you of something really important that remains unheard and unnoticed due to some kind of pursuit, be it the pursuit of business, relationships or highly valuable ideas.
Depression first wakes you up by saying: wake up! notice yourself and what is important to you! And if you ignore her for a long time, then she rips off all the fuses and puts her on the sofa until her own meanings are found for organizing nutritious and mutual (this keywords) relations with the world.
Therefore, the best thing you can do if you are prone to derpessia is to respect it. To know that she is always there, breathing down your back, reminding with her presence the importance of maintaining a relationship with yourself.
Overweight women with wide hips are increasingly appearing on catwalks and screens. Maybe it's time to quit all diets and start getting fat?
The other day, the public was shocked by the cover of the American magazine Paper, on which TV personality Kim Kardashian exposes her rather large buttocks with a charming smile. Most found the photo shoot sexy, and Kim considered the successor to Jennifer Lopez, who used to be the steepest-hipped lady in world show business. But here's what's interesting. As recently as 2011 ex-husband Kim divorced her - also because Kardashian was overweight. Basketball player Kris Humphries claimed that she (forgive the crude quote) “has no talent, but she has a fat ass.” And in 2014, it was the hips that became the recognized advantage of the TV star. Glamor magazines give Kim covers, and Kardashian talks about loving your body and self-confidence. The world has truly turned upside down.
But this coup was not started by Kim.
Steep hip step
Plus-size models became the pioneers - in 2010, girls with clothing sizes 48 - 52 swayed their hips and cleared a small place for themselves on the fashion catwalks of the world. It became exotic, tolerant and even revolutionary to release a curvy fashion model during a show. But girls who had something to hold on to still looked like
a highlight, a challenge rather than the norm. It is no coincidence that the powerful creative director of Dior, Karl Lagerfeld, made a statement that no one needs women with curves on the catwalk: “Fat people envy thin and beautiful people. And the audience of magazines that have begun to reject anorexic models are mothers who sit with chips and argue that thin models are ugliness.” But this only pushed the “fat women” to fight.
Christina Hendricks (TV series “Mad Men”) assures: “I love my body.”
The scandal that broke out and the next horror stories about the death of anorexic catwalk stars forced fashion designers to look differently at girls who do not fit the “skeleton” description. And now the Italian version of Vogue magazine releases a “scandalous” cover with large models Tara Lynn, Candice Huffine and Robyn Lawley. And our fashion model Katya Zharkova is making a successful career in the USA with her clothing size 52!
Delicious buns: TV version
And here, popular TV series came to the aid of everyone who is not ready to torture themselves with diets and fitness for the sake of skinny buttocks. Christina Hendricks (“Mad Men”) and Lena Dunham (“Girls”) reigned completely shamelessly on television screens. The star of the series “Girls” no longer causes laughter when she comes to the red carpet in her ridiculous outfits - she forced herself to be respected and accepted as she is. Year after year she says the same thing:
I don't want to wake up one day and have a body like a supermodel. I would be afraid of problems that are not in my life now. For example, I don’t have to think about why people talk to me - is it just because of my large breasts or for some other reason. Basically, if this happened to me, I would eat at a restaurant at someone else's expense, and then ask my doctor to do something to get me back to my previous shape.
...our Katyusha Zharkova (size 52) has been one of the most prominent stars on the US catwalks for several years now.
And it looks like she's not lying. While we are storming the Internet in search of a new diet so that we can finally start liking ourselves, others love themselves for no reason.
The ideal female Christina Hendricks with large breasts, a thin waist and immense hips tops the ratings of the most desirable women in the world, resembling a delicious bun, and not a skeletal fashion model. The media has been actively putting her on a diet since the beginning of the series Mad Men. As a result, Christina got tired of being called the most magnificent actress in Hollywood, and she spoke out:
I love my body, every kilogram is precious to me. I've been advised to lose weight for years, but I don't see the need - both my husband and I like my body. And my mother always called me the most beautiful, so I never felt discomfort about my figure.
Fat and good
Now Lady Gaga allows herself to calmly gain weight. The British press and bloggers were choking on bile in the style of “Shame on her to appear in front of people like this! I put on a swimsuit, and bodies are hanging out of it! What Poles!” But Gaga was not at a loss:
I rounded up, so what? I'm really fat now because I eat a lot of barbecue. Thanks to my fans for allowing me to be myself. And being yourself is much easier than being someone else.
What can we say about the “supernova” Adele, who, despite her excess weight, is one of the most popular performers of our time. And he clearly has no intention of losing weight.
For the first time in history, 90-kilogram model Candice Huffine appeared on the Pirelli calendar.
The fashion world quickly joined in the pursuit of hip hips. The famous Pirelli calendar, whose pages are the dream of any actress and fashion model, chooses plus-size model Candice Huffine. Who was recently forced to lose weight, but now they’ve left her alone and just admired her body. And the Calvin Klein brand, which at one time actually started the story with “heroin chic”, implanting in the mind the idea that you need to look emaciated, shot model Mila Dalbesio in our size 48 in a fresh promotional photo shoot. Not fat, of course, but still, consider it a complete surrender: an admission that girls with appetizing shapes are becoming truly fashionable.
I'm 31 years old and have people I've been friends with for 15 years. I have a couple higher education, and I love to study. During my life, I changed my place of residence 5 times. And I already know, my home is where my family is. I started over 3 times, and this doesn’t scare me. I got married once, and I know that some stories just end. I changed jobs 6 times, and I’m not afraid and I know how to work. 4 times I thought it was the end, but it wasn't.
At 31, I don’t want to go back to 20!
Only around the age of 30 did my desires and needs become equal to my capabilities, and my awareness of choices increased.
The rosy prospects are slightly overshadowed by physiology. Exploratory 15 years and turbulent 25 years appeared after 30 years. I can’t eat mindlessly, stay awake for days, work with a temperature of 40, or run a half marathon on a dare. While I was re-reading this, I realized that it’s not just a matter of physiology, but that something in me just wants to live, and live a long time.
I became attentive to myself, I became really interested in myself. I’m interesting not in terms of the future, not in who I should become, but in who I am now.
Not the best representative of the species, but unique!
People often come to me who did not fulfill the plan, who did not live up to other people’s expectations:
- up to 25 years of age, figure out a calling or build a relationship;
- give birth before age 30;
- make a career before age 35.
But the most fantastic stories around me are about those who did not rely on age, but made their own choices and were responsible for them.
Adulthood and maturity
The concepts are dramatic, and have absolutely nothing to do with age, but are directly related to awareness and responsibility, the adopted position. And the funniest thing about all this is that the choice does not free you at all, you have to confirm it every day - to live with this person, in this country, just to live.
You won’t be able to exhale, there won’t be any clouds, or rainbows, or little touching ponies, but there will be satisfaction, you can feel it with such an elastic spring inside.
As I said Linor Goralik: « The scary thing is not that we are adults, but that adults are, in fact, us.”
And it truly scares me that people are afraid of growing old without growing up. Being forever young and forever drunk is also a choice, if only it happens, and it doesn’t happen out of fear of taking a step forward.
My friends are from 15 to 55 years old, and you know, when I communicate with them, I don’t remember how old they are, I see how beautiful, smart, ironic they are, and how well they manage to almost always be in agreement with themselves.
And my main discovery at this moment is real human closeness, midnight conversations, laughter, tears, hugs with those who are dear to me, as if this is what makes us eternal.
Psychologist-consultant
"Be yourself. The other roles are already taken" (Oscar Wilde)
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I sincerely believe that everyone has the potential to become free and happy. My goal is to reveal it. Having undergone personal and group therapy myself for a long time, I know what an impetus for personal growth this could be the approach. The desire for development, finding your own path is not easy beautiful words, this is the need to find your place in this life without wasting time.
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Education:
· Russian Peoples' Friendship University, Faculty of Medicine, general practitioner;
· Peoples' Friendship University of Russia, Department of Psychiatry and Medical Psychology, residency, psychiatrist;
· Moscow Institute of Gestalt Therapy and Psychodrama.
Add. Education:
· Institute of Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy, course of psychotherapy of endogenous diseases;
· Russian Medical Academy of Postgraduate Education, psychotherapy course.
Prof. Experience:
· Practice as a resident doctor:
- resident doctor at PB No. 14;
- resident doctor at the Neurosis Clinic named after. Z.P. Solovyova;
- to this day time - doctor-consultant of the erectile dysfunction hotline.
Depression is like alcoholism: if you went into a deep binge once, and then managed to get out, this does not mean at all that now you can safely say that it will never, ever happen again.
As soon as the euphoria begins about the fact that now I can act left and right without care and sensitivity to myself, the pendulum will definitely swing in the other direction sooner or later. And the brighter the greedy euphoria was “now there will never be depression again and I can stir up that project and this one at the same time, and also be a reaper, a priest and a trumpet player,” the brighter the next depressive episode will be.
How beautifully and accurately said the most talented, to my taste, therapist and psychiatrist Ksenia Getman, the psyche of a person predisposed to depression requires high quality care.
This means that it is important to maintain sensitivity not only to others and to the world in general, but first of all sensitivity and attitude towards yourself.
And such a manifestation means that it is important to be at your own pace, starting from basic needs: adequate sleep and nutrition, exercise. exercise, taking vitamins in the fall and spring (yes, banal earthly things, but which solve a lot in terms of mental resources), ending with the needs of a higher plan: having time to relate to yourself and being careful when setting goals and making plans, organizing your space in a disciplined manner for a vacation that is dedicated to yourself and your loved one (and not combined with the interests of children/friends/relatives, etc.), and most importantly, carefully look at people before approaching. Crawl to a safe distance if the approach turns out to be toxic. Even if distancing is “inconvenient,” “yes, everyone does it and it’s okay,” “there’s something wrong with me.”
Depression is like alcoholism - if you pretend that the depressive part does not exist (and it is always alive inside, it always cares about preserving the personality, cutting out all feelings and energy in general, if a person does not hear himself for a long time, ignoring his feelings and signals ), then it will start knocking in dreams, in unexpected fantasies, waking you up at night, trying to remind you of something really important that remains unheard and unnoticed due to some kind of pursuit, be it the pursuit of business, relationships or highly valuable ideas.
Depression first wakes you up by saying: wake up! notice yourself and what is important to you! And if you ignore it for a long time, then it breaks all the fuses and puts you on the sofa until your own meanings are found for organizing nourishing and mutual (these are the key words) relationships with the world.
Therefore, the best thing you can do if you are prone to depression is to respect it. To know that she is always there, breathing down your back, reminding with her presence the importance of maintaining a relationship with yourself.