Dale Breckenridge Carnegie is an American teacher, psychologist, and writer. He stood at the origins of the creation of the theory of communication, translating the scientific developments of psychologists of that time into the practical field, developing his own concept of conflict-free communication. Founded courses on self-improvement, effective communication skills, speaking and others...
Act as if you are already happy and you will actually become happier.
Keep busy. This is the cheapest medicine on earth - and one of the most effective.
Never try to settle scores with your enemies, because by doing so you will bring yourself much more more harm than them. Do like General Eisenhower: never think for a minute about people you don't like.
There is only one way to earn love in this world - stop demanding it and start giving love without hoping for gratitude.
How many of you have ever sawed sawdust in your life? Of course, no one can saw sawdust. They are already sawed. It's the same with the past. When you start worrying about things that have already passed, you are sawing sawdust.
If you want to change people, start with yourself - it’s both more useful and safer.
The expression on a woman's face is much more important than her clothes.
Three quarters of the people you meet tomorrow crave sympathy. Show it and they will understand you!
Do not allow yourself to be upset over trifles that should be despised and forgotten. Remember that life is too short to waste it on trifles.
Remember, happiness does not depend on who you are or what you have. It depends entirely on what you think about.
The surest way to a person’s heart is to talk with him about what he values above all else.
If a person is trying to use you for his own purposes, remove him from your list of friends.
“A smile costs nothing, but it is highly valued...”
Don't imitate others. Find yourself and be yourself.
Know how to take the position of another person and understand what HE needs, not you. The whole world will be with the one who can do this.
Three subjects are the most interesting in the world... Sex, property and religion. With the help of the first we can create life, with the help of the second we maintain it, and with the help of the third we hope to continue it in another world.
“Every person is a complete fool for at least five minutes a day. Wisdom consists in not exceeding this limit."
You are not happy or unhappy because of what you have, or because of who you are, where you are, or what you do; your condition is determined by what you think about it all.
It's human nature to blame anyone but yourself...
The expression you wear on your face is much more important than the clothes you put on yourself.
When you criticize someone, you risk setting fire to a keg of gunpowder labeled pride. - Dale Carnegie
People are hostile to the desire of an outsider to teach them something new. Present the information in a way that makes it seem previously known but forgotten.
Having imagined the worst that could happen, relive it mentally once and boldly begin to act.
Revenge on enemies is a stupid thing; you do more damage to yourself than to them.
D. Carnegie: “General Eisenhower did not spend the slightest second of his great life thinking about people unpleasant to him, and we should not do the same.”
IN business communication, as in politics, it is extremely important to be able to remember the name of your interlocutor the first time.
Everyone who has risen to the pinnacle of fame loves to look at the difficult path they have taken. – Carnegie
What lies beyond the horizon is hidden from view; our task is to act here and now.
Worrying about insomnia is harmful. People don’t die from lack of sleep; the body itself will tell the brain when it wants to sleep.
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Our main task is not to look into the foggy distance of the future. but to act now, in the direction that we can see.
We should be modest, because you and I don’t mean much. Do you know what prevents you from becoming an idiot? A complete trifle. Just a small amount of iodine in your thyroid gland. If a surgeon opened up your thyroid gland and removed a little iodine from it, you would turn into an idiot. A little iodine, which you can buy at the corner drugstore for five cents, is all that stands between you and a mental hospital. Five cents worth of iodine! You're not really bragging about this, are you?
If you tell me how you make yourself important, I will tell you who you are.
Henry James stated: “The first thing to learn in relationships with other people is that they cannot be prevented from being happy in the way they want, unless it prevents us from being happy in the way we want.”
Any fool can criticize, judge, and complain—and most fools do. But it takes strength of character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.
I have enough problems of my own - I have no time to worry about the fact that God has not awarded everyone with equal intelligence.
Any fool is capable of defending his mistakes - most fools do just that.
A strong desire to learn something is already 50% of success.
My days are darkened not because love is gone,
Every person is a fool for at least five minutes a day. Real wisdom is not to exceed this time limit.
There is only one way to earn love in this world - stop demanding it and start giving love without hoping for gratitude.
Ted, he said, I want you to look at your life like an hourglass. You know that there are thousands of grains of sand at the top of the hourglass; and they all pass slowly and regularly through a narrow bridge in the middle. If you or I cause more than one grain of sand to pass through this hole at a given time, the watch will be ruined. You, me and all other people are like this hourglass. When we get up in the morning, there are hundreds of tasks that we must complete that day. And if we do not do these things one at a time in a certain period of time (like one grain of sand passes through a narrow hole), but strive to do everything at once, we will undermine our physical or mental strength.
Criticism is like a carrier pigeon: it always comes back
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “No matter what expression you use, you can never say anything that does not describe you.”
And yet it [a smile] cannot be bought, cannot be begged, cannot be borrowed or stolen, since it is of no use in itself until it is given away!
If you want to find happiness, stop thinking about gratitude and ingratitude and indulge in the inner joy that self-giving brings.
We wouldn't even dream of interrupting a stranger and exclaiming, "Oh my God, are you really going to tell that story again?" old story!” It would never occur to us to open our friends' mail without permission or pry into their personal secrets. And only the members of our own family, that is, the people closest to us, we dare to insult for trifling mistakes.
The deepest quality of a person is a passionate desire to be appreciated.
The surest way to a person’s heart is to talk with him about what he values above all else.
At your place boring life? Then give yourself wholeheartedly to work for what you believe in, live for this work, die for it, and you will find the happiness that always seemed out of reach to you.
When we hate our enemies, we give them power over us - they affect our sleep, appetite, blood pressure, our health and our happiness... Our hatred does not harm them, but it turns our days and nights into nightmares
“I will only walk this path once. So let me now perform some worthy act or show kindness towards some human being. Let me not delay or miss the opportunity to do this, for I will never go down this path again.”
The ability to speak is shortest path to fame.
Ultimately, marriage is nothing more than a series of ordinary episodes. And woe to those married couples who do not take this circumstance into account. Edna St. Vincent Millay once summed up this idea in one of her short poems:
In your relationships with people, do not forget that you are not dealing with logical creatures, but with emotional creatures, full of prejudices and driven in their actions by pride and vanity.
Every nation considers itself superior to other nations. This gives rise to patriotism and... wars.
Emerson said, “Every man I meet is in some way superior to me, and in that sense I can learn from him.”
This is human nature in action: the guilty person blames anyone but himself
A person's name is the sweetest and most important sound for him in any language.
Of all the sure-fire devices that the devils of hell have ever invented to destroy love, the deadliest are nagging. This technique never fails. Like a bite king cobra, he always poisons, always kills.
Each of us, whether a butcher, a baker or a king on the throne, likes people who admire us.
The burden of the future, added to the burden of the past, which you shoulder in the present, makes even the strongest stumble on the path.
The average person who is happily married is much happier than the genius who lives alone.
Criticism is a dangerous spark that can cause an explosion in the powder keg of pride.
You can make more friends in two months by being interested in other people than you could make in two years by trying to interest your special one.
Now take out your pocket knife and cut out the following quote. Stick it inside your hat or on your mirror where you can see it every morning while you shave:
Own toothache means more to a person than the famine in distant China that killed a million people.
To flatter means to tell a person exactly what he thinks about himself.
A smile costs nothing, but gives a lot. It enriches those who receive it without impoverishing those who give it. It lasts a moment, but sometimes remains in the memory forever. No one is rich enough to do without it, and no one is so poor that he would not become richer from it. It creates happiness in the home, creates an atmosphere of goodwill and serves as a password for friends.
Abe Lincoln once observed that “most people are only as happy as they decide to be.”
There is only one way in the sublunary world to influence another person: to talk to him about what is the object of his desires and show him how to achieve it
You are happy or unhappy not because of what you have, and not because of who you are, where you are, and not because of who you are, where you are, or what you do; your condition is determined by what you think about it all.
Confucius said: “Do not complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof if your own threshold is not cleared.”
And the fact that she left little by little.
Don't criticize, judge or complain.
Never try to settle scores with your enemies, because by doing so you will do yourself much more harm than them. Do like General Eisenhower: never think for a minute about people you don't like.
The late John Wanamaker once admitted: “Thirty years ago I realized that grumbling is stupid. I have enough trouble with my own shortcomings to be annoyed because God did not take care to evenly distribute mental abilities among people.”
An anxious and harassed individual, who is unable to adapt to the cruel real world, breaks off all contact with environment and goes off into his own fantasy world. In this way he tries to free himself from worries and worries.
Isolate the past! Let the dead past bury its dead... Isolate the yesterdays that illuminated the path to the grave for fools. The burden of the future, added to the burden of the past, which you shoulder in the present, makes even the strongest stumble on the path. Isolate the future as hermetically as the past... The future is in the present... There is no tomorrow. The day of man's salvation is today.
Always remember that children love to listen to adults talk - and be on the lookout...
The secret of our unhappiness is that we have too much leisure to think about whether we are happy or not.
Promises are usually worth little.
Isolate the past! Let the dead past bury its dead
Criticism is useless because it makes a person defensive and, as a rule, strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous because it attacks his pride, hurts his sense of self-importance and causes resentment.
No one needs a smile more than those who have nothing left to give!
As Dr. Johnson asserted, “God himself does not intend to judge man to the end of his days.”
To flatter is to tell a person exactly what he thinks about himself.
When a person starts a war with himself, he is already worth something.
A little lonely man is very easy to break, but when his soul draws strength from God, he becomes invincible.
One of the most dramatic properties of human nature is our tendency to postpone the implementation of our plans until the future.
Three subjects are the most interesting in the world... Sex, property and religion. With the help of the first we can create life, with the help of the second we maintain it, and with the help of the third we hope to continue it in another world.
“When the struggle begins within a person, then he is worth something,” Browning said.
One grain of sand per unit of time, one thing per unit of time...
One peasant woman, after a hard day of work, placed an armful of hay in front of her men. And when they indignantly asked if she was crazy, she replied: “Well, how could I know that you would pay attention to this? I have been preparing food for you men for twenty years now, and during all this time you have not given me a word to understand that you are not eating hay!”
The French philosopher La Rochefoucauld said: “If you want to have enemies, then surpass your friends; but if you want to have friends, then let your friends be superior to you.”
Is our peace of mind and the joy of being does not depend on where we are, what we have or what position we occupy in society, but solely on our state of mind.
Many people graduate from college having learned to read Virgil in the original and mastered the mysteries of calculus, but without having received the slightest idea of how they themselves think.
Showing your friendly attitude first is the surest way to the human mind
A person rarely succeeds in anything if his activity does not bring him joy.
Politeness is such a quality of human nature that helps not to notice a broken gate, but to pay attention to the flowers behind this gate.
Many people call a doctor when they only need an audience.
People are ruled by pride and selfishness, and driven by vanity and prejudice
Say everything about yourself that your accuser is going to say, and you will take the wind out of his sails.
“The greatness of a great man is revealed in the way he treats little people,” says Carlyle.
Keep busy. This is the cheapest medicine on earth - and one of the most effective.
Why should we do this?
Rudeness is the one cancerous tumor, which corrodes love. Everyone knows this, and yet it is well known that we treat strangers more politely than we treat our own loved ones.
To flatter is to tell a person exactly what he thinks about himself.
Criticism is useless because it makes a person defensive and, as a rule, strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous because it attacks his pride, hurts his sense of self-importance and makes him resentful.
Thought is the greatest power.
The more significant a person is, the more satisfaction people get from insulting him
Three subjects are the most interesting in the world... Sex, property and religion. With the help of the first we can create life, with the help of the second we maintain it, and with the help of the third we hope to continue it in another world
Dale Carnegie (1888–1955) - American psychologist and writer, author of books on self-improvement, successful communication skills and public speaking; son of a poor farmer.
What makes you happy or unhappy is not what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing. What you think about makes you happy or unhappy.
We come into contact with the world around us through four, and only four, points. We are judged and categorized by these four points of contact: what we do, what we look like, what we say, and how we say it.
The noblest way to a person’s heart is to talk with him about what is most dear to him.
Finding naturalness in manners is the simplest thing. You just need to forget about yourself - about the impression you are trying to make.
Inaction creates doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to overcome fear, then don’t sit around thinking fruitlessly. Go ahead and get busy.
Self-pity and worries about current circumstances are not only a waste of energy, but also the most dangerous of bad habits.
Take advantage of this opportunity! All life is an accident. The greatest success is usually achieved by those who are willing to take action and take risks.
Most of the most important achievements in this world were achieved by people who did not give up trying even when it seemed that there was no longer any hope of success.
Cultivate success from failure. Disappointment and failure are the two most reliable steps to success.
A person learns from mistakes and tries again, acting in a new way.
Ardent enthusiasm, backed up common sense and perseverance - this is the quality that most often ensures success.
When entering into relationships with people, remember that you are dealing with emotional, not logical creatures.
It is impossible to achieve success by doing what you don't like.
The essence of everything is to give pleasure and receive pleasure.
Fear not those who argue, but those who deceive.
If you want to collect honey, don’t ruin the hive.
To flatter means to tell a person exactly what he thinks about himself.
Each of us, whether a butcher, a baker or a king on the throne, likes people who admire us.
A person's name is the sweetest and most important sound for him in any language.
Remember that the person talking to you is hundreds of times more interested in himself, his desires and problems, than in you and your affairs.
If you want to be a good communicator, become a good listener first.
Criticism is like a carrier pigeon: it always comes back.
The expression on a woman's face is much more important than her clothes.
Tackle the hard tasks first. Easy problems will solve themselves.
Success is getting what you want. Happiness is desiring what you have received.
It is human nature to blame anyone but yourself.
In your relationships with people, do not forget that you are not dealing with logical creatures, but with emotional creatures, full of prejudices and driven in their actions by pride and vanity.
There is only one way in the world to get someone to do something... And that is to make the other person want to do it. Remember - there is no other way.
By being genuinely interested in other people, you can make more friends in two months than you can make in two years by trying to interest other people in your special someone.
The surest way to a person’s heart is to talk with him about what he values above all else.
Every nation considers itself superior to other nations. This gives rise to patriotism and... wars.
The only way to win an argument is to avoid it.
Of all the sure-fire devices that the devils of hell have ever invented to destroy love, the most deadly are nagging. This technique never fails. Like the bite of a king cobra, it always poisons, always kills.
An ordinary person who is married is much happier than a genius who lives alone.
Remember that unfair criticism is often a compliment in disguise. Remember that no one ever hits a dead dog.
Of course, your husband has his faults! If he were a saint, he would never have married you.
American writer, publicist, educational psychologist, teacher - Dale Carnegie developed the concept of conflict-free and successful communication.
Carnegie was born on November 24, 1888 in American state Missouri, in a farming family. His family lived in great poverty, but through his own perseverance he was able to get a good education. Love to oratory originated in a boy back in school years: Teachers have repeatedly noted his ability to properly conduct discussions and his communication skills.
After graduating from high school, Carnegie worked as a delivery boy in Nebraska and then as an actor in New York. After that, I decided to take up public speaking professionally. And the first step in this was successful enrollment in Warrensburg Teachers College. There were 600 students at the college, and only six of them, including Dale, did not have the opportunity to rent housing in the city. Dale Carnegie rode a horse back and forth every day, covering a distance of six miles. I had to work out only during breaks between performing various tasks on the farm. In addition, he did not participate in many events held in college, since he had neither the time nor the appropriate clothes: he only had one a good suit. He tried to make the football team, but the coach did not accept him, citing his low weight.
Carnegie was ashamed of his poverty, he was ashamed of his jacket, which was already too tight for him, and his trousers, which were already too short for him. He was 18 years old at the time, proud and sensitive, and had thoughts of suicide. His mother, who understood this, advised him to take part in a discussion group, where after several attempts he was accepted. This event in the autumn of 1906 turned out to be a turning point in his life.
Classes in the circle helped Dale gain self-confidence and improve his public speaking skills. In just one year of study, Carnegie became the owner of all the highest awards in competitions in public speaking. The young man begins to independently develop his own unique system of teaching communication skills. After some time, the young speaker obtains copyright for the methodology he has developed.
Carnegie begins to lecture and teach students professionally. Since 1911, he taught rhetoric and stagecraft independently, and soon organized his own school. At the same time, he travels around the country giving popular lectures. Carnegie becomes famous in his field.
In 1912, he began lecturing in his first group, organized by the Young Men's Christian Association (YMCA). A few months later, his course gained such popularity that instead of the usual rate of two dollars per evening, the HAML directorate began paying him thirty dollars.
In 1936, his most famous book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” was published - a collection practical advice under the general slogan: “Believe that you will achieve success - and you will achieve it.”
By the end of his life, Carnegie enjoyed worldwide fame, and his Institute of Effective Public Speaking and Human Relations had branches in hundreds of cities throughout America, Europe and the world.
Dale Carnegie died on November 1, 1955 in New York, suffering from Hodgkin's disease, he committed suicide at his home in Forest Hill and was buried in Belton, Missouri.
Dale Carnegie lived by the principle that no bad people. But there are unpleasant circumstances that can be dealt with, and it’s not worth spoiling the lives and mood of others because of them.
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Dale Carnegie (11/24/1888 - 11/1/1955) - psychologist, writer and author of the line, public speaking and communication skills. Dale Carnegie was a great man and his thoughts are still relevant today! Right below you will see the best Carnegie quotes:
Logic is a gift of the minority. The majority are influenced by prejudices and prejudices. Many people are infected with biased opinions, jealousy, suspicion, fear, envy and pride. And people for the most part do not want to change their views: be it on issues of religion or hairstyle, communism or the performance of a popular actor.
Remember that your interlocutor may be completely wrong. But he doesn't think so. Don't judge him. Any fool can act differently. Try to understand him. Only wise, tolerant, extraordinary people try to do this.
People are ruled by pride and selfishness, and driven by vanity and prejudice.
There is only one way to earn love in this world - stop demanding it and start giving love without hoping for gratitude.
Don't criticize, don't judge, don't complain.
Express your approval honestly and sincerely.
A strong desire to learn something is already 50% of success.
To flatter means to tell a person exactly what he thinks about himself.
The deepest quality of a person is a passionate desire to be appreciated.
The late John Wanamaker once admitted: “Thirty years ago I realized that grumbling is stupid. I have enough trouble with my own shortcomings to be annoyed because God did not take care to evenly distribute mental abilities among people.”
Criticism is useless because it makes a person defensive and, as a rule, strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous because it attacks his pride, hurts his sense of self-importance and makes him resentful.
“When the struggle begins within a person, then he is worth something,” Browning said.
Confucius said: “Do not complain about the snow on your neighbor’s roof if your own threshold is not cleared.”
In your relationships with people, do not forget that you are not dealing with logical creatures, but with emotional creatures, full of prejudices and driven in their actions by pride and vanity.
Any fool can criticize, condemn and express dissatisfaction - and most fools do so.
But being understanding and forgiving requires strong character and self-control.“The greatness of a great man is revealed in the way he treats little people,” says Carlyle.
You can make more friends in two months by being interested in other people than you could make in two years by trying to interest your special one.
A person rarely succeeds in anything if his activity does not bring him joy.
You are happy or unhappy not because of what you have, and not because of who you are, where you are, and not because of who you are, where you are, or what you do; your condition is determined by what you think about it all.
Abe Lincoln once observed that “most people are only as happy as they decide to be.”
Thought is the greatest power.
And yet it [a smile] cannot be bought, cannot be begged, cannot be borrowed or stolen, since it is of no use in itself until it is given away!
The French philosopher La Rochefoucauld said: “If you want to have enemies, then surpass your friends; but if you want to have friends, then let your friends be superior to you.”
The surest way to a person’s heart is to talk with him about what he values above all else.
We should be modest, because you and I don’t mean much. Do you know what prevents you from becoming an idiot? A complete trifle. Just a small amount of iodine in your thyroid gland. If a surgeon opened up your thyroid gland and removed a little iodine from it, you would turn into an idiot. A little iodine, which you can buy at the corner drugstore for five cents, is all that stands between you and a mental hospital. Five cents worth of iodine! You're not really bragging about this, are you?
Of all the sure-fire devices that the devils of hell have ever invented to destroy love, the deadliest are nagging. This technique never fails. Like the bite of a king cobra, it always poisons, always kills.
Promises are usually worth little.
Act as if you are already happy and you will actually become happier.
Keep busy. This is the cheapest medicine on earth - and one of the most effective.
Never try to settle scores with your enemies, because by doing so you will do yourself much more harm than them. Do like General Eisenhower: never think for a minute about people you don't like.
Three quarters of the people you meet tomorrow crave sympathy. Show it and they will understand you!
If you want to change people, start with yourself - it’s both more useful and safer.
The expression on a woman's face is much more important than her clothes.
Do not allow yourself to be upset over trifles that should be despised and forgotten. Remember that life is too short to waste it on trifles.
In this world, everyone is looking for happiness, and there is only one way, one the right way to find it. This is control over your thoughts.
If a person is trying to use you for his own purposes, remove him from your list of friends.
You are not happy or unhappy because of what you have, or because of who you are, where you are, or what you do; your condition is determined by what you think about it all.
Don't imitate others. Find yourself and be yourself.
Three subjects are the most interesting in the world... Sex, property and religion. With the help of the first we can create life, with the help of the second we maintain it, and with the help of the third we hope to continue it in another world.
Know how to take the position of another person and understand what HE needs, not you. The whole world will be with the one who can do this
“A smile costs nothing, but it is highly valued...”
“Every person is a complete fool for at least five minutes a day. Wisdom consists in not exceeding this limit."
We all dream of some magical rose garden that lies beyond the horizon, instead of enjoying the roses that bloom right outside our window.
Most The best way to force a person to do something is to make him want to do it himself.